RiverTam... Yes and no. I think there is SOME pressure on both men and women to remove pubic hair, yes. I think that perhaps men, on balance, might find it easier to say "No, I'm not doing that". Girls/young women might find it harder and there's the imbalance, I completely agree with you there. On actually doing something they don't want to do - I'm not convinced. I was also a confidence-lacking teen (I think we are legion) and if anything, that lack of confidence can make us less likely to follow the crowd. After all, if we don't feel part of it, there's no point in pretending to be in it. It can work conversely though too, I think - pressure to comply can be acute and yes, I can see that some women especially might feel pressure to remove pubic hair to 'belong'.
Where I think we differ is that I don't think being strident to women works, I really don't. If we talk about the patriarchy's success in getting women to behave in a certain way I would say that little of that was down to hectoring, it has always been more insidious and less easy to spot. I think women, when talking to other women, prefer a more honest and personal approach - eg. "I do x, you do y, all fine". I know this is what makes me less likely to disregard anyway.
I know I'm being horribly over-simplistic and I'm not up to date with feminism, I know very little about it, but I do fundamentally believe that judgement of women somehow hurts more when it comes from other women. I don't believe that men judge each other's hairiness or physique in the same way and I envy them that, I really do.
I think it's time for me to go to bed too. It's interesting to talk about these things but I'm mindful that in my earnestness sometimes, I can come across as abrasive and I really don't mean to - least of all in a judgemental way so sincere apologies if I have offended anybody on the thread.