A minor celeb came on to me inappropriately should I report?

[Iggypoppie]

Got a bit of a dilemma.

After watching the jammy Saville doc last week I remembered that earlier this year a current v minor TV presenter several times touched my leg at a charity dinner. It was in a busy room and I was too shocked/confused to ask him to stop! I had only just met him and was three months pregnant so wasn't flirting and I believe his behaviour was sleazy if not predatory.

This person has already been reprimanded for inappropriate behaviour at work in the past so I believe he has form.

My question is, should I tell his employer even though he wasn't attending in a work capacity? Or should I just email him and say that I am on to him?

I don't want a fuss by the way and it was possible that he was just being "friendly" but it occurred to me that Saville got away so long because of women minimising incidents like this one.

If touching someone's leg is sex abuse then I think we're probably all sex abuse survivors.

well Wombattoo my dad laughed at me and told me police wouldn't take it seriously. that affected me more than the abuse did. but i got my way in the end by going behind my dad's back to get counselling from child abuse organisations. he still maintains i was never abused. and would get angry and scream at me when i referred to "the time i was abused." my getting all this counselling and telling everyone i was an abuse victim was a way of felling empowered and allowed myself to feel i was entitled to the same sympathy as people like JS's victims were getting. it meant i got a place in MH services as well when the waiting list was quite long. so i used the label to my advantage. no, i don't feel guilt about other abuse survivors. they could have done what i did or not. not my issue

instantly what has funding got to do with it? you mean pressure on police funding? i was suggesting it because if it helped me it might helped her? what i wrong with offering her that option?

justagirl if I'm reading you right I think what you did was fucking disgusting and wrong, and you ought to be ashamed of yourself.

If I'm reading you right.

I also think you need to step away from this thread, cos it ain't about you and your fucked up exoeriences.

Goodness me - I think this is looking for drama

justagirl I'm sorry for the abuse you suffered at the hands of the stranger and your dad, however, i do think you have a pretty skewed opinion, and I find it strange that you have so little empathy for abuse survivors.

instantly, most of JS's survivors didn't let it screw up their lives. they remembered it when he died. we are not talking about PTSD here or people's lives being ruined. we are talking about brave women who remembered these incidents and reported them because it might help others. also OP was vulnerable as she was pregnant.

Why does being pregnant make you vulnerable?

I'm ignoring the rest of your post by the way as I don't have the energy to engage with it.

wombattoo i was showing empathy to the OP. i think you have confused me with another poster. i said i was hurt in same way aS sAVILE'S VICYTIMS AND I AM NOW INVOLVED IN SUPPORT GROUPS FOR RAPE SURVIVORS SHARING MY EXPERIENCE SO IT CAN HELP THEM

Of course the OP is allowed to think it was a big deal but equally the people here who object to the comparison with Saville and believe no crime took place can think so, too.

ooops sorry, CAPS left on

sure they can, but OP has been affected by things personally. she is hurting, therefore they need to show sensitivity to her.

I can't imagine how your experience could help a rape survivor

I'm beginning to think you're the worst kind of troll/emotional vampire

your choice instantly. it is up to you. it isn't something that affects you personally like it does OP

How does it affect the OP if she had forgotten about it?

Instantly because i was a victim of child sexual abuse. attempted rape as a child like i described. it might not help an adult survivor but i have found a lot of empathy from other victims who had it when they were kids.

no, i don't feel guilt about other abuse survivors. they could have done what i did or not. not my issue

This is what I didn't understand justagirl. Abuse is an issue that effects us all in one way or another.

I understand that you are survivor, so I do not want to appear to be judging you in any way, nor do I wish to derail the thread.

She doesn't sound like she's hurting ? Would anyone be hurting over something so minor ?

oh, i didn't read the bit where she had forgotten it, Instantly. sorry. was that in the OP? i forgot it had happened to me too until i realised it must be reason why i was self harming and feeling jumpy and scared of people....

instantly A lot of women feel vulnerable whilst pregnant. Myself included. It's not as if you can full on defend yourself physically or even emotionally sometimes when carrying a child. Weird that you can't imagine that.

abuse in young people can be repressed ands cause DID which is the typ eof illness i had

No, I don't think I did feel vulnerable at 12 weeks pregnant but to be fair I don't expect my experience is everybody's experience.

justagirl if there's no more to your "abuse" than being groped at 14 I do think you've got some serious MH issues there. Your response wasn't and isn't normal.

Wombattoo, i don't mean i didn't care about what other survivors went through. i just don't care if they judge me for taking their resources. i am equally entitled to them. all abuse survivors can say they need trauma help if they so wish. no one suffered because i had counselling

i just think if OP wants to say it is abuse, she isn't harming anyone.