AIBU to think that Nursery shouldn't have done this?

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We have recently started weaning my 6 month old DD with fruit purée and some BLW. At the minute it is 1-2 meals per day. She was at Nursery all day on Monday so I dropped her off with her usual milk and a jar of food I know she liked and wasn't allergic to (hasn't previously had a reaction). On Thursday she was in from 12.30-4pm so I gave her breakfast and thought she would be fine at nursery and give her tea at 5/6pm. Anyway when I picked her up her diary said she really enjoyed her yoghurt, but I hadn't given a yoghurt for her to have. Queried this and they said they have Nursery fromage frais that they'd given her. AIBU to think they shouldn't have done this, given the fact she a) hasn't had dairy (aside from milk) and b) didn't seek permission?? In hindsight after a bit of research I've decided the only fromage frais she will be having is no added refined sugar, as this is the 3rd or 4th highest ingredient in most!! She's a baby fgs I don't think she needs the sugar..

YABU
Total overreaction

As for 'we had only just started weaning' you didn't wake up one morning and decided to wean, you had plenty of time to liase with the nursery regarding how they went about solids.

Stratters
We were told in our case that No2 couldn't digest the proteins in milk, and it was these unbroken down proteins that were causing an immune response. It's been a while though since I spoke with the paed about it though. Dc2 couldnt/can't tolerate the hydrolysed milks either and would still react to them. Ended up on neocate.

Now classed as having a non ige allergy.

But anyone removing anything from their child's diet without medical supervision needs to think again. Sugar isn't crack but the way some people go on about it you would think it was.

Sorry demented, that was unclear - I meant as a baby.

Totally agree about all this preciousness about sugar. It's naturally present in food, as is fat, and babies and small children need calories.

They don't need added sugar that is present in lots of baby foods. It's sad when the adult alternatives are healthier

Not sure I would agree that a lot of adult alternatives are 'healthier'. Less sugar (a natural food) maybe , but more artificial or highly a processed 'natural' sweeteners.

Omg! Pfb or what!

Rusks, baby crisps, yogurt, biscuits all usually better (and cheaper) to give normal adults versions.

Little valley and adult fromage frais - no added sweeteners and less than half the sugar of a PF fromage frais. Not the end of the world but that's why I buy an alternative version.

I understand the concern. But I think you will look back in 5 years and have a laugh at yourself. I do when I told my mum to off for feeding my 6 month a rusk. I thought she would only ever want sweet things. She is nearly 4 and request cold corn on the cob in her lunch box. Everything is OK in moderation. Please try and relax

I have told this story on here before but it seems relevant to repeat it here.
When my children were young, I ran a toddler group. There was one mum who was obsessed with her kids' diet and just about every treat was banned. Her children were not allowed rich tea biscuits at snack time, only endless fruit and carrot sticks.
Every time we had a party, her two would be hanging around the table as the food was laid out, looking longingly at the things they were not allowed. Once the food was served, they were not allowed at the table, and mum used to get their food, piling their plates high with veg sticks, fruit, one quarter wholemeal sandwich each and one fairy cake divided between the two of them.
The net result was that her children were obsessed with food and getting their hands on it at any cost, including crawling under the table eating crumbs, eating sugar from the mums' sugar bowl and at one Halloween party, gobbling jelly and black spaghetti made for sensory play.
It is counterproductive to try to micromanage your child's diet to the extent that they feel deprived, as it will inevitably end in rebellion as soon as the child has any degree of independence.

I'm not banning sugar I'm just aware of it. I'm not saying I'd pick carrot sticks over cake. I'd just pick the yogurt that had less added sugar than another brand,. Is that a bad thing?

I wouldnt go bat shit over a fromage frais.

I'm also bored already about every person saying they know restricted children who hunted sugar down.

But it's true. Maybe yours will be different.

I think there's a massive difference between generally making sure your kids have a good, balanced diet day to day, and obsessing over every single thing that passes their lips. The kids who obsessively hunt out sugar/junk food are the ones who are banned from ever eating anything other than micromanaged meals/snacks. It's not hard to give kids a good diet, yet relax about treats, especially at parties/birthday cake at school/nursery.

We discussing a 6 month old who has just started weaning which is what I'm aiming my comments at.

I'm not aiming at toddlers who are aware of what is going on around them.

I have a BABY who doesn't need added sugar at the moment. I plan to relax that a little into real life when it comes up like parties etc.

Wow. No idea why the OP is getting a hard time. Added sugar (not naturally occurring) is bad. I would not feed fromage frais to a baby.

I eat a shitload of dairy and it had no effect on ebf DS. However when we started weaning, any dairy, including lactose free formula brought him out in hives anywhere on his skin that it. touched. He was diagnosed with a milk protein allergy.
For reasons like this it's standard procedure in nurseries round my way not to feed anything that hasn't been tried and cleared at home first.

When my kids were little (now 30+) they went to nursery. No idea what they were fed though, is micromanaging meals a new thing. Only know that my kids were fed and very well looked after.

That ayeokthen, that what I mean.

I'm by no means a carrot cruncher but I do look at ingredients and would hope in long term my children can be educated to pick health versions of the same food. It does wind me up kids food is generally worse.

I'm well aware that babies don't need added sugar, I've weaned 3 perfectly well.

Surely in this instance this is more about the fact the baby has had very limited amounts of food due to only just having started weaning.

A nursery worker has already been on to say they don't allow food that's not been tried twice at home on a baby that young.

I would feel the same whether it was a yogurt or a piece of fruit or a vegetable at that age. Nothing should be introduced that early on without being okd by the parents.

Only exception being an absolute emergency drop off situation. Which this wasn't

People are more aware of what's in food than 30 years ago.

I was agreeing with you

Since you sent her in with a jar then yes YABU. I would expect a baby allowed to eat jarred food to also be allowed fromage frais.

Personally I wouldn't allow either for my babies (both pfb and psb, thanks). Different story when they were toddlers and no of course I wouldn't deny them cake at a birthday party once they were old enough to know what having cake is all about.

unimagmative my brother and I were 2 kids brought up with very little sugar; we both went a bit nuts for it as teens but neither of us eat much of it as adults, both have always been very healthy weights, neither have ever had any fillings or other dental work and are both bringing up our kids as we were brought up re food. Just a positive story for you in the face of all the negativity!

YANBU OP. You gave them good to give her, they didn't do it. End of.

Giving your daughter sugary yoghurt is really no better than giving her a slice of cake.

She's just learning about food and getting a taste for sugar while you're trying to teach her to eat properly isn't helpful. I would be annoyed too.