AIBU to think that Nursery shouldn't have done this?

[CtotheB]

We have recently started weaning my 6 month old DD with fruit purée and some BLW. At the minute it is 1-2 meals per day. She was at Nursery all day on Monday so I dropped her off with her usual milk and a jar of food I know she liked and wasn't allergic to (hasn't previously had a reaction). On Thursday she was in from 12.30-4pm so I gave her breakfast and thought she would be fine at nursery and give her tea at 5/6pm. Anyway when I picked her up her diary said she really enjoyed her yoghurt, but I hadn't given a yoghurt for her to have. Queried this and they said they have Nursery fromage frais that they'd given her. AIBU to think they shouldn't have done this, given the fact she a) hasn't had dairy (aside from milk) and b) didn't seek permission?? In hindsight after a bit of research I've decided the only fromage frais she will be having is no added refined sugar, as this is the 3rd or 4th highest ingredient in most!! She's a baby fgs I don't think she needs the sugar..

[Pluto30]

I think the bigger thing here is the OP's obvious fixation on weight gain. God forbid the child ever tastes refined sugar, she'll be stuffing her face on "buffet food". That kind of attitude is going to leave your daughter more unhealthy than she'll be if you just let her have some yogurt.

[FluffyPineapple]

Wow Fluffy. Sounds like you've got some serious issues to work through.

You seem to think I'm the OP which I'm not. Your bizarre rant has absolutely nothing to do with me or how I parent.

And yes, I am more relaxed with the diets of my children, plural, as they get older, but no, I did not and would not give them sugary yogurt at 6 months old because there is absolutely NO need. They were perfectly happy with plain Greek yogurt so why give them an alternative which is bad for them?

No Dr Bronners. I don't think you are the OP. I responded to your post because you commented on mine. Your child grew up on plain Greek yogurt. Good for you! and them!) What else do you expect me to say to that??

And no I don't have serious issues. I left all that behind with my departure from unrealistic, idiotic, totally bizarre parents of pfb's. I find dog walking and fostering much more enjoyable. I have a great life. Thank you for your concern :D :D

[TheSkyAtNight]

YANBU for trying to follow current weaning advice and go to work. Should be possible to do both. Nursery should be communicating with you about food - mine have an option for a no refined sugar diet. They say it's very common for the under 1s to be on the no added sugar/puddings plan.

There's no guarantee they'll grow up without a sweet tooth as a result but current thinking is that weaning offers an opportunity to 'set' children's taste for a wider range of tastes. They naturally enjoy sugary tastes anyway so don't need early exposure. It's a theory at the moment, but hoped to help in the battle against childhood obesity.

[emmskie03]

**FluffyPinapple - Many 6 month Olds these days do not have a varied diet as current guidance is to not begin weaning until baby is 6 months. My 6 month old is only just starting to have solids and so has a limited diet. It's is also my preference to try and limit sugar as DH has a super sweet tooth and so weaning has been mainly based on savoury foods for now in the hope that baby doesn't also get a sweet tooth.

OP I can appreciate that you are a bit upset about baby being given something when you weren't expecting it. Obviously there's a bit of a communication breakdown with nursery so I would have a chat to them so you can both understand how to move forward but at the end of the day it is just one fromage frais and all is well!

[Bubspub]

Yesterday the nursery told me my LO had eaten ice cream and wafer AND birthday cake AND a biscuit with raisins. It made me think of this thread and how that may have sent OP over the edge! Bear that in mind that might happen if you don't specify otherwise. I was just happy he'd eaten those things as he's so picky and often won't even try things x

[clam]

As the mother of teenagers, these threads always amuse me.

Do you have ANY IDEA what your organically-fed preciously-nurtured darlings are going to be happily surviving on in a few years?

[DrBronnersWorstNightmare]

Wow Fluffy. Sounds like you've got some serious issues to work through.

You seem to think I'm the OP which I'm not. Your bizarre rant has absolutely nothing to do with me or how I parent.

And yes, I am more relaxed with the diets of my children, plural, as they get older, but no, I did not and would not give them sugary yogurt at 6 months old because there is absolutely NO need. They were perfectly happy with plain Greek yogurt so why give them an alternative which is bad for them?

[FluffyPineapple]

DrBronners. There is nothing stopping you giving your child pureed fruit. There's no sugar in that eh? But don't be surprised when your child wants to eat the same foods as her friends are eating as she grows. Or is it ok to give her yogurt and digestives when she's 3??

And yes, as an ex Nursery Nurse I can say that MOST babies by the age of 6 months have fromage frais and a very varied diet by the age of 6 months. Don't use the ex against me - I am ex because of the ridiculous situation parents put us in. My child doesn't eat , this , or the other because I don't believe in them having sugar or fats..... my child is only to be given bottled water - Much too precious to have water from a tap.... I don't want my child coming home covered in paint.....My pfb will only poo in a nappy.....I don't want my child being taken to the toilet with other children.... I think my child may be allergic to something in this nursery and I demand that a nursery nurse stays with them all day on a one to one basis until we figure out what the problem is......I don't want my child to play with that child over there.......my child came home yesterday and said you wouldn't let her play with the dough - Yes that's right. She was given opportunity to play with the dough but didn't want to ...until it was tidy up time.....Well I think my child should be allowed to play with whatever she wants whenever she wants.....Great! Would you like to spend some time with us and see how nurseries work? We are always looking for volunteers. Everyone has the same routine. We all sit together to eat, we all play with whatever we want to when the toys and activities are out,.....we all clear away together.... NO thanks, I put my child into nursery for you to look after and I have time to myself....OK! I don't want my child going out the playground to play with the big toys as he may fall and hurt himself.....(Ok so that means nobody can enjoy outdoor play as there will not be enough supervision if a staff member has to stay inside with one child "In case he falls and hurts himself"!) Need I go on? Or are you still going to call me condescending and demand your child is more "special" than everyone else and should be treated differently to all the other children? If so Good Luck!! You will need it...

[DrBronnersWorstNightmare]

FluffyPineapple don't be so ridiculous and patronising.

Babies 'well used' to fromage frais 'by 6 months'? Not for those of us that follow the current weaning guidelines.

There are plenty of parents out there who choose not to give their children sugary food until they are old enough to ask for it. My kids can eat whatever they please at breakfast club but no way would they get a sugary yoghurt as one of their first foods.

[Flisspaps]

YAB ridiculous

[Ohyesiam]

Bet you didn't expect ask this vitriol when you posted. Yanbu, of a nursery gave my 6mo dairy for the first time I would be really pissed off, they need to be communicating with you, and checking.

[artlessflirt]

OP, you really need to get a grip I think. There will most definitely be times in the future when someone offers food to your child that you wouldn't! My DD is nearly 1 and her grandparents gave her a tea cake the other day!

As long as DCs diet is healthy and wholesome, A fromage frais really isn't going to do a whole load of damage. I, personally, think the jars of baby food are gross and... well just gross. I'd rather my DD just tucked into a banana and a yogurt than one of those (we did BLW, too and totally skipped purée altogether)

I understand that you want to do things a certain way but that will just become exhausting and unsustainable. As the saying goes 'let them eat cake...'

[user1466690252]

I only know 1 child that was policed by her mother like this. She is now 5 and will gorge on sweets at every opportunity. She has a baby Sister now so mum is run ragged and lets the food crazyness slide a bit and my god does she go for gold now shes given the chance. Everything in moderation really is best

[FlabulousChic]

You thought your baby was ok to go from breakfast till after 4pm are you mental?

[GreenPetal94]

Please don't tell the nursery off over this. It'll just make you "that mum". Your little one can eat a whole range of things safely now and should be trying different things.

Also babies should not have a low fat and low sugar diet. That is the advice for overweight adults.

[FluffyPineapple]

That's a lot of fuss over a small pot of fromage frais OP. The food that babies are usually well used to by the age of 6 months. Gosh! What will happen when your pfb born attends breakfast club at pre-school? You know they will be allowed to choose what they want to eat then don't you? Will you kick off if a supervisor puts a smidgen of butter on her toast? OMG! What if she chooses white toast as opposed to multi grain, no nuts, pure fibre, gluten free, wheat free, fat free brown?? I guess she could always choose a jam topping - seeing as jam is made with....well....fruit. Right? And lets not think about muffins, crumpets, croissants, squash (made with council pop - no bottled water) or God Forbid hot chocolate!! (Which is tepid not hot - but the children love it :) ) There are always a variety of cereals on offer - You need to train your daughter to go for the bland, no sugar, no chocolate variety. Breakfast club will love you for it as they have to offer them, even though they never get eaten and have to be thrown out. What will your pfb do about milk or yogurt to go with her cereal - seeing as she is not allowed either? Sometimes, but only for special occasions, the children get chocolate pancakes! Don't lose too much sleep OP - You have about 3 years to perfect your challenging skills - and go all out to close down breakfast clubs which benefit so many children and parents.

Don't tell me - Yours will be one of the minority who wont be allowed the social occasion of eating breakfast with her friends and practice her independence, as Mama Bear needs to police her every move all through her childhood - right? Or at least until number 2 comes along and Mama Bear learns not to sweat the small stuff

[myfavouritecolourispurple]

Normal practice is for nurseries to feed children

I've not RTFT but this.

I'm afraid that if you let someone else look after your child, you have to accept that they don't always do things the way you want them done. Delegate and lose (some) control.

My ds went to nursery by the way, I'm not some sort of working mother basher.

[T0ddlerSlave]

Yanbu I agree that it's not ideal. DD is 2.5 and still gets a small tub of full fat unsweetened Greek yoghurt with blueberries or blackberries added. I have a v sweet tooth and don't want her to have one too.

Not that it's about the yoghurt, it's about doing something without discussion first.

[Strokethefurrywall]

Good grief - I'm so glad I live in my own bubble of normality...

[Cookies77]

Going against the grain, I don't really think YABU OP. I think people have got caught up in it being just one harmless yoghurt when really it's not about what your child was fed (or what your child will eat at birthday parties years from now!), its actually about the nursery following your wishes on how you want your very young baby to be weaned.

However, I'm surprised that there hasn't already been a conversation between the nursery and yourself as to what the plan will be in regards to food whilst your baby is in their care. I would've thought that to be fairly basic information the nursery would ascertain from you, and likewise as a parent I would want to know what food and drink my 6 month old was going to be given there.

I wouldn't dwell on the fromage frais incident, but do have a conversation with the nursery to agree what is appropriate going forward.

[user1472419718]

Incidentally, I'm a believer in all things in moderation, but you can't get annoyed at a nursery for doing the wrong type of yoghurt, when yours isn't much better.

[user1472419718]

OP, your chosen fromage frais (sweetened with fruit puree) has 9.2g sugar per 100g (www.yeovalley.co.uk/things-we-make/for-children/little-yeos-fromage-frais-6-pots)

My first petit filous contains just 4.8g sugar per 100g (petitsfilous.co.uk/our-range-my-first-petits-filous)

You are giving your child a yoghurt with 92 percent more sugar!

[user1466690252]

Everything in moderation. I know 2 5 year olds who weren't allower sweets and chocolate and now are the worst and will gorge on them (because try and keep sweets and chocolate away from a 5 yr old!) You need to get a grip here. Its a yoghurt. It wont hurt her, your being so pfb you will laugh about it one day

[kali110]

Check out the second highest ingredient in these bad lads. Its unnecessary hidden sugar that a little baby doesn't want and certainly doesn't need

you know it's not only babies that have these op, but people of All ages?

Do you need a puree jar of fruit to really say an ingredient of pureed fruit is going to be sugar?
She's had some ff, she'll be fine, she probably enjoyed it.
If it's a big deal to you just tell them you only want her eating the food you send in.

[Peanutandphoenix]

Bloody hell woman it was one yogurt it's not the end of the world ffs you seriously want to string the nursery up over this you need to give your head a good wobble and get a bloody grip how sad can one person be over one yogurt answer extremely bloody sad. Get her a nanny or look after her yourself if your so worried about what food she eats.