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AIBU to think that Nursery shouldn't have done this?

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CtotheB · 09/10/2016 09:23

We have recently started weaning my 6 month old DD with fruit purée and some BLW. At the minute it is 1-2 meals per day. She was at Nursery all day on Monday so I dropped her off with her usual milk and a jar of food I know she liked and wasn't allergic to (hasn't previously had a reaction). On Thursday she was in from 12.30-4pm so I gave her breakfast and thought she would be fine at nursery and give her tea at 5/6pm. Anyway when I picked her up her diary said she really enjoyed her yoghurt, but I hadn't given a yoghurt for her to have. Queried this and they said they have Nursery fromage frais that they'd given her. AIBU to think they shouldn't have done this, given the fact she a) hasn't had dairy (aside from milk) and b) didn't seek permission?? In hindsight after a bit of research I've decided the only fromage frais she will be having is no added refined sugar, as this is the 3rd or 4th highest ingredient in most!! She's a baby fgs I don't think she needs the sugar..

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dementedpixie · 09/10/2016 15:35

Is there not CMPI and CMPA? One is an intolerance and doesn't involve the immune system and the allergy does involve it.

ayeokthen · 09/10/2016 15:37

It was our paediatrician but you're right, the GP was horrendous!! She only believed it was CMPA when I listed every symptom he had and she googled (!!!!!) it! He's grown out of it now (age 2) so maybe he wasn't as severely affected as some or it was a different kind of allergy? I did a hell of a lot of research at the time (as you do with a child with an allergy) and it seemed to fit with what we'd been told. There is a scary level of ignorance amongst health professionals about allergies, probably because so many people insist they/their kids have allergies when in fact it's either an intolerance or just bullshit.

Pombearsrunaway · 09/10/2016 15:38

Meh, my 7 mo DS had lemon drizzle cake and an ice cream cone the other day.

He's my PFB so the next one will probably just eat happy meals I expect.

StStrattersOfMN · 09/10/2016 15:41

I think it's quite usual to grow out of it, fortunately. I was allergic right through to adulthood, but I've no idea if I actually grew out of it, or it lessened and I became able to tolerate a certain amount before my immune system kicked off. I've never been a big dairy eater, but it wasn't until my asthma went crazy, and I cut it out completely, that I developed anaphylaxis. But I could have done that anyway, I'll never know.

Soubriquet · 09/10/2016 15:43

Yes ds outgrew his CMPA too

Bless him

Twig45 · 09/10/2016 15:44

It's very common to grow out of it all my 3 were very intolerant to cows milk but all weaned back on by one year with no problems

StStrattersOfMN · 09/10/2016 15:48

I have no idea what transient PID is Auser

Ausernotanumber · 09/10/2016 15:49

SttStratters transient Primary immune deficiency

StStrattersOfMN · 09/10/2016 15:53

What does that do/mean? Poor immune system?

ayeokthen · 09/10/2016 15:55

According to our paediatrician 3 in 5 outgrow it. DS had very specific needs when he started nursery (and they were fab at dealing with them) but thankfully now he can get stuck in to anything Grin

Alabastard · 09/10/2016 16:07

My DD actually has CMPI but I give her coconut yoghurt. I'm sure they contain shit loads of sugar. Do you want to judge me OP?

DistanceCall · 09/10/2016 16:11

Sorry, but I'm laughing my arse off here at the OP's belief that if she didn't take dairy, then her breast milk would have no lactose.

Christ. I get it that we are all ignorant about many things, and there's no shame in that. But if you're going to be so anal retentive about food, the very least you can do is at least inform yourself properly first.

Ausernotanumber · 09/10/2016 16:11

Here are some links :

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Primary_immunodeficiency

www.piduk.org/static/media/up/THI.pdf

StStrattersOfMN · 09/10/2016 16:38

Ah, interesting. I don't make chicken pox antibodies, I've had it 5 times. I've also had mumps twice despite being immunised, I had constant tonsillitis and chest infections (like every 2-3 weeks) as a child, and get everything going. I also have hypothyroidism, which is another immune disorder, and between them the DDs have hyperthyroidism, vitiligo, fibromyalgia, PCOS, endometriosis, and DD2 is being investigated for lupus. She's also had whooping cough twice, and they both inherited my chicken pox issues.

I also get some lovely beastie called allergic bronchitis

RayofFuckingSunshine · 09/10/2016 16:40

That's interesting about the PID having a genetic link. I have RA and a couple of other issues. DD2 (6mo) has CMPA and the doctors are now muttering about DD1 having had undiagnosed CMPA as a baby hence a bucket load of issues with her health as a baby.

eyebrowsonfleek · 09/10/2016 16:49

Can I ask a question? I'm very interested in lactose intolerance being rare in babies.

My son (age 10) is lactose intolerant and was formula fed. I knew that he puked a lot as a baby and he didn't drink much milk but I didn't realise that he was lactose intolerant until he was older and able to explain how milk made him feel. I assumed that he was lactose intolerant as a baby and that I just didn't realise. Am I wrong? If so, when do children become lactose intolerant?

dementedpixie · 09/10/2016 16:52

Are you sure it is lactose intolerance though? Has it been tested for or are you assuming it? It could still be a reaction to cows milk protein rather than lactose

StStrattersOfMN · 09/10/2016 16:55

You don't become lactose intolerant, you're born without the ability to process it.

dementedpixie · 09/10/2016 16:59

That's not true as you can become lactose intolerant as you get older and your body starts to produce less lactase. You can also get temporary lactose intolerance especially after gastroenteritis.

BusyBeez99 · 09/10/2016 16:59

Please tell me you're not going to be "that mum" that makes her kid sit and watch while everyone else has birthday cake at nursery because you don't want them to have it. There's a couple of those at our nursery and the kids look so sad, it's really unfair.

This is good advice. Seriously getting nutty over a fromage frais.

WhatamessIgotinto · 09/10/2016 17:02

Well, if you do not want her having yoghurts, tell the nursery.

I would add, OP, that your posts and your manner are rude and rather unpleasant.

PopFizz · 09/10/2016 17:23

My DS developed a lactose intolerance around two to three months old. The same time I had extra strong antibiotics for post C section infections. It basically screwed his stomach (he was solely breastfed). It was obvious, his stomach, stools, weight issues. He is now 8 and only just weaned onto all dairy, and even then can only cope with very very small amounts of cows milk. It's obvious way before weaning stage ime.

And know the thread has moved on, but OP YABU. And precious.

BaronessBomburst · 09/10/2016 17:24

DM is lactose intolerant which was triggered by an episode of food poisoning. It's also getting worse as she gets older.

BathshebaDarkstone · 09/10/2016 17:37

She's 6 months. Yoghurt's fine. YABU.