Not to want my daughter's initials to be 'S.H.A.G'

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I'm not a troll, I promise. I just signed up today as I need some help. My husband is completely settled on the name Sophie for our baby. Our 2 middle names, Harriet and Anya are our parents middle names which we have to use as it's family tradition. However in the order that we thought of, it would spell SHA and our surname begins with a G Would our daughter be teased or would it be ok?

I wouldn't even be too keen on SAHG Tbh! Personally I would scrap Sophie for something else but yadnbu to switch the middle name order around.

I think using Charlotte is a much better option and still swapping around the other names so the initials don't spell out anything that can really be pronounced (CAHG). To me, that doesn't resemble anything

Why do you HAVE to have the two middle names because it's family tradition? How extremely silly. Two middle names will be a huge PITA anyway--hard to fit on forms.

Mentioned this to DH, he thinks this says some about a man's mentally, and if he refuses to change he is an idiot.

Don't do it! DDs initial are ACE. We noticed it before, and thought about changing, but decided as it was a positive thing we would just go with it. We've never pointed it out to anyone, but every now and then someone does botice and comments on it. The same would happen to you. And teenagers can be cruel.

Middle names aren't often used though so wouldn't really matter. I would still change them round though.

Secondary schools locally have initials embroidered onto pe tracksuits and games kits. No 11 year old girl wants shag on her top. We use initials for references on letters at work again will she want people phoning saying ref shag1456 etc

I know a F.L.A.W and I do cringe. YANBU

My dad is a twat. Trevor, William, Andrew T(surname)

He's had a lot of stick. Please put your foot down.

Henrietta Lyon suffered all her life till she married
The Hamburger sisters wished that neither had been called Anna

a colleague got a personalised plate with her initials SLG but when she had an affair

initials COUNT

nobody with the surname Hunt should be called Michael for example

then again the D'eath and B'stard families now revel in their names

kids are cruel
avoid the avoidable

TBH in my grandparents defence, they said the word twat wasn't around when he was born.

We log in at work with our initials. Mine are an abbreviation that was commonly used for a sexually transmitted disease years ago . I cringe every morning.

Especially when she needs her school gym kit initialled ... oops

Why is the question even being asked!

These posts irrationally annoy me sooooooo much.

i know a nisa in year 9, she calls herself by another first name after being called, well, you work it out, through out her school life.

My daughter is BMW - we didnt notice at first

I went to school with a Charlotte Rosalind Amelia Pearson....she got it ripped out of her for years. Really, don't do it!

my husband says it will be fine and nobody will care

You need to ask your husband to think back to when he and his friends were teenage boys and how they would have reacted if they found out a girl has the initials S.H.A.G.

Then he has to think back to how teenage girls were and how they could sometimes be cruel too.

Once the kids in the playground know she will be teased.

Changing the order isn't enough. SAHG. No.

Swop middle names. My daughter has initials JIM, and people comment on that! SHAG will definitely get comments

Put your foot down newuser, how would DH like it if his initials were something like FART or PISS, he wouldn't be happy would he? If he could see into the future and hear horrible bullying classmates of Sophie's tease her by calling her SHAG he'd feel angry with them, wouldn't he? Slap him in the face and make him see sense, now. Tell him that if he goes ahead and does this, you're proved right etc, you will never forgive him and you'll bring it up every time there's a problem at school. If he wants a quiet life he'd better rethink.

DDs school uses teachers initials as the class name

Is your surname relatively ordinary? Mine is, which means that professionally I have to use my middle name as there are lots of "me"s out there with same first and surname.

There awere 2 kids with the same first and surname as DD2 in her first nursery, and her first name isn't even that common - so middle initials were used

My DH has three first names and as always been known to everyone (including his parents) by the middle one
My DB was known to everyone but immediate family by his secondname
I don think order maters but initials do ...

When choosing names for our (then unborn) child we considered Scarlett. It was the first girls name we both immediately liked and agreed on. Until I realised that with our double barrelled surname initials (T-D) she would be STD.

We immediately vetoed all 's' names.

Definitely put your foot down. My ex was Ben James and we ALWAYS took the piss. I still laugh about it now with friends..... We were 17. We are now 39. Don't put your kid through it!!

People often notice middle initials, I've seen loads of instances where they have been used... Do not use shag 🙈🙈