to be really pissed off at my friend for saying "I'd do her"?

[CoolToned]

This is how he describes women.

To be fair, he's a geeky guy who is probably just compensating from years of being a geek. He's actually a specialist doctor (just finished) and a good person otherwise.

It just disgusts me. I called him on it before and he's back to doing it again.

That's how he describes women he fancies. There's not much difference in someone saying "I'd do unspeakable things to him" on here. I don't think this is a big deal.

I'm sure you must say things which also annoy him!

Do you fancy him OP?

This is really no big deal.
I've been known to say "I totally would" on occasions.

ExBIL used to say "aye she'd get it" about women all the time. My stock response was "ah but would she want it?" Usually shut him up.

I don't really have a problem with it. I have indulged in the occasional 'I so would' myself.

The only thing that amuses me is that the speaker - your friend or me - is implying that their personal desire is the limiting factor in the equation. As if it is a given that the target would of course reciprocate. That we are doing them a favour

Basically, what aye said quicker than me.

Not a problem to say it to a friend IMHO.

To say "I'd do you" to a stranger would be rather creepy though!

I've said that about men, and the occasional woman lol

Blimey, do you also get really annoyed with all the Mumsnetters who say, "I'd do him" on celebrity threads?

It's certainly more polite than your friend saying, "I'd fuck her"

I don't see it's a problem. Me and dp often say which celebs we'd "do" given the chance Especially Sean Bean... I'd club that like a tree!!!

Climb not club

StillMaidofStars - that's what I tell him! Like he has a chance!

Why wouldn't he have a chance? A good person, specialist doctor, what is your issue? You sound less than nice putting him down.

I look at men and think 'I so would' Am not single but have a libido, what is wrong with that?

If it is the only way he talks about women, that he is only able to think about them in terms of how sexy he finds them, then I'd find it boring and juvenile and I think the friendship would die a death quite naturally.

Hopefully it is something he only comes out with occasionally and he is able to have non-sexual conversations too.

How do you know he wouldn't have a chance?

In fact the first thing I thought when you said he's a geeky guy who is probably just compensating from years of being a geek

Was that actually, that's not very nice either.

Horses for courses. You might not fancy 'geeky guys' as you describe them but that doesn't mean other women don't.

Wow you sound a nice friend. Who says he wouldn't have a chance. Just because he's not your cup.of tea doesn't mean no one would be interested

That's a tongue-in-cheek reaction! When he says he'd do this he'd do that, that's just my answer!

And I like geeky guys - I'm married to a very geeky one.

And by the way, when he says "I'd do her", his meaning is the Urban Dictionary meaning.

Ugh. I'm with you OP, I think that's a horrible way to talk about women.

Hmm
I also say "I would" which does seem the same as that...and wouldn't kick them out of bed etc comments.
If he only sees women that way then different again but as he's mates with you, I'm guessing he's not like that?

I'd say "I'd do him"

But I'd also say "I'd ride him in to battle" so maybe I'm not the best judge of classy lines

Queen, cross post....fab line!!

I hate the phrase too.
It's the arrogance, a man bestowing his approval, and the assumption that she would be interested. 'She'd get it' even worse.
I know not everyone takes issue with it, but i hate hearing these phrases.

MrsKCastle - yes! I mean when did "she's cute" or "I like her" become obsolete?

And he doesn't even mean it like that! He means, "she's not that cute but I'd do her" like in the [[http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=I%20mean%2C%20I%27d%20do%20her UD] definition.