Leaving OH in charge without proper briefing

[poupeedecire]

Name changed for this.

I went to a (work-related) workshop this afternoon/evening, leaving first a babysitter, then DH in charge of the DC. Whereas I previously fed the DC their dinner before I went out, DC1 asked today to eat with DH. I called DH to ask if that was ok, and he said he would prepare some pasta.
I forgot, however, to mention that DC2 would also be included in this, as well as the fact that I had put some fish in the oven for him. I asked the babysitter to put the fish in the fridge until DH was home.

Now, during the workshop I cannot use my phone at all. When it finished (it takes a little under 2 hours), I found 10 text messages and two missed calls on my phone, in which he asked me what to feed the DC/what the deal was with the fish/why I'm not answering. So I tried to call him immediately - he didn't pick up. Then I sent him a text message explaining the situation (fish was left in the fridge by babysitter/I cannot use my phone) - and got 5 messages back complaining that I hadn't given a proper briefing, not mentioned the fish to him or that both DC would be hungry, and he cannot rely on the babysitter's testimonial that the fish was fresh.

Whilst I admit that I forgot to mention the fish - does something like this warrant such a reaction? He hasn't spoken to me either since I came home.
I thought he can feed his DC? I really don't know any more whether IABU.

engineers - it isn't one event.
and punishing that's awful

Update: I tried to talk about the dinner disaster this morning - the conversation was cut short by him - apparently I don't understand him (he cannot rely on an 8-year-old's word that the fish was fresh, or on the babysitter's word) and therefore the conversation was "futile". I asked him if he understood me - and he said no. But he still left the conversation (and the house, to go to work).

My husband could manage to look after the children and he had a brain tumour so thought processes were impaired. We were a team and he worked far longer hours than I did. I feel so much for you women with incompetent husbands.

So he was told twice that the fish was fresh but because YOU didnt tell him in person he wasnt having any of it? THats pathetic and very controlling. Unless you are panderiing to him then he wont do anything at all.

Red flag, tell him to grow up.
Start going out more and leaving him to it, he either steps up or ships out. It couldnt be any worse without him at least you would know that he wasnt neglecting the kids 'without instructions'.

OP Arfanarf has hit the nail on the head.

Yes, i think so, too 😞

shut the fuck up and don't bother me with this because I don't give a shit what you think.

Bang on.

Everything he says to you, OP - this is what he's really saying.

Are you starting to feel angry yet?