To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

fair point GinSoakedBarroomQueenInMemphis

Could the OW's husband have taken the photos? It's just maybe I am missing something in my education but would it not be really hard to take s picture of yourself with legs spread playing with a sex toy?

OP, how are you doing?
And your kids, am I right in thinking they are quite little?
I'm so sorry this is happening to you, it's just sickening.

I'm guessing the OP has had to collect DC and talk to her DH. From what has been posted we don't know that the OP's husband is complicit or has been having an affair. If he isn't the sharpest he may just not know what to do. It's his DW's best friend fgs.

Flame away.

so sorry

What a horrible situation Op, hope you're ok.

I don't blame the OWs DH to be honest. Despite what she's done it's likely to be him who loses most of his time with his children, his home and a large chunk of his earnings.

Plus there will be an awful lot more stigma for him and his family as cheating women and cuckolded men are (as this thread shows) treated a lot less sympathetically than the opposite number.

I'm these situations, fuck everyone else I'm afraid. You do what's best for your kids.

So sorry op, sorry you had a very unsupportive poster kicking you when you were down.
I can't imagine the shock you've had.
Glad you haven't posted the pics, you don't need the trouble.
You've Done nothing wrong here, the only people in the wrong are him and her.
I would have told the other husband too. I would want to know if my dp was cheating.

The OW's DH has his own situation to deal with. I don't think he should have been obliged to tell anyone if he didn't want to.

Hope you're ok OP x

Update - my mother in law collected the children from school whilst I went to meet my friends husband face to face. He said that he has known for a while that his wife sends nudes to married men - she apparently gets a kick out of it and has low self esteem. She ONLY sends them to married men. He said he knows she would never meet anyone for sex which is why he hasn't left her and puts up with it. He knew she was doing it to my husband as he regularly checks her phone but didn't feel it was his place to tell me. In all the years I've known her I never knew this side to her - but then again you never know what's happened behind closed doors. My husband still hasn't returned.

It's really not about a "girl code". Like a pp mentioned - would it be ok to use racist or homophobic language if she was black or gay?

Tbh though I'm more offended by the posts saying things like "is he home yet OP?" ... "have you heard anything OP"... like it's an episode of Corrie. When Pink wants to/ needs to update she will.

Good point re the thread title. But we'll forgive Pink given she is utterly, utterly devastated. Other posters don't have the same excuse really!

Thinking of you OP.
I do believe it was OW DH that messaged you back on facebook, however, maybe in a few weeks it may be a good idea to revisit messaging him, when there is less chance of her watching his FB.
Assuming you CH has returned , I would suggest giving the scissors a rinse after. Incriminating evidence and all that.

OP did you ask her DH if she had given your CH a heads up on this? If not where the hell is he? Could he be with her? Has she been in contact since her text?

for you and this shitty situation

Your friend sounds seriously fucked up. So does her husband.

Do you know if it's only married men she knows?

I still can't believe she did this to her best friend. What a fucked up, predatory arsehole.

OP so glad you have support of your MIL. I wonder what she expects to gain from all of this? I hope your husband returns soon and you can try and sort everything out. It's a huge possibility that your husband hasn't done anything wrong. She might be twisted and trying to sabotage your relationship as she is unhappy in herself.

Do you have any idea where he could be OP?

My husband is not with my friend as when I was talking to her husband he said that she was at home with he children. I have no idea where my husband is and it's driving me insane not being able to have it out with him