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Having a newborn baby's ears pierced.

217 replies

metaphoricus · 27/09/2016 21:41

I know that millions of people do it.
But the baby has no choice. I would so like to know the explanations for the decision to put a hole through your baby's perfectly formed ears.
Why would you do that?
(I had a friend who did that, and I had to ring an ambulance because the 2 month old baby got a blood infection). Mum didn't want to call an ambulance because she was afraid of being told off for doing this to her child. She was bathing her 2 month old baby's ear in olive oil, and hoping for the best. Please let your child grow up, and then decide if they want a piercing. Babes in arms do not have a choice.

OP posts:
Champagneformyrealfriends · 27/09/2016 22:21

Long not laugh! Good fail though.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 27/09/2016 22:21

Next you'll be saying this is wrong??

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 27/09/2016 22:21

It's a feminist issue though. Boys don't have to have their ears pierced.

There, that'll help with the bingo cards.

Huppopapa · 27/09/2016 22:22

There's no law against calling your child Neveah, [anything]leigh, Clamydia (really) or many others used by my clients that are far, far too specific to permit me to post them. That does not make it a good idea. Grin

Original poster
metaphoricus · 27/09/2016 22:22

I had both my DDs ears pierced as babies and I'm happy with that choice. It's not mutilation for crying out loud

Well actually. It is.

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Shadowboy · 27/09/2016 22:23

I had my ears pierced when I was 8 months old. Cultural thing (I was not born in this country) it was not considered 'chavvy' or 'cruelty' etc just a cultural norm. I have no issues with it.
I didn't do my daughter's ears as I didn't want to spoil their perfection. If she want her ears done in future- no issues.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 27/09/2016 22:25

We need to get over ourselves Grin

123MothergotafleA · 27/09/2016 22:26

What's the problem with some people? Surely all babies should be tattooed and have the full works, piercings in ears , nose and eye brows.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 27/09/2016 22:27

We just need to get the anti-vaxxers involved and I'm going to have a great night-love a bit of idiocy on a Tuesday night.

LavenderRains · 27/09/2016 22:28

I work in neonates and a few years ago a lady was quite disgruntled when she asked if we could pierce her daughters ears and I refusedConfused
Tsk, call myself a nurse!

Pinkandbluemcdonald5 · 27/09/2016 22:29

Yes there have been threads like this before but haven't a lot of topics been covered already?

a) there are new readers all the time to mumsnet, longer term contributers should either not read if the op is too repetitive or browse other sections.

b) anyone who re isntates an old thread is criticised for it being a zombie thread.

It's quite sad that newer posters are berated for their posts. Perhaps there should be a sticky saying you cannot talk about, baby piercings, moon cups, wedding invites, wheelie bins, (god this list could be endless Smile)

DiJiBiDi · 27/09/2016 22:30

I had mine done as a child (my mother is of Caribbean ancestory) I'm still alive with intact ears...

WankingMonkey · 27/09/2016 22:30

I hate it. When the child is old enough to ask for it themselves, fine. Otherwise, wrong.

ditzychick34 · 27/09/2016 22:30

Is it too late to get a bingo card?

enchantmentandlove · 27/09/2016 22:32

Dd is three months and I won't personally get hers pierced, as I would worry about it getting ripped or infected, and I hate seeing her hurt or upset which she would be - if only for a few moments.

However, I don't believe that parents who get their babies ears pierced are bad parents or abusing them. Unless a child is being abused, my take on things like this is always 'parent the child you have'.

ditzychick34 · 27/09/2016 22:34

8 month DD, come near her with a piercing gun and I will rip your hands off!

engineersthumb · 27/09/2016 22:34

Ok I haven't got my child's ears pierced, tattooed or given plastic surgery... for all this good behavior can I get the permanent markers out!
Of course we could just let them grow up and decide on their own body mutilations!

NorksAreMessy · 27/09/2016 22:38

If you are a WOH trans M with a breast fed baby with his ears pierced to match his princess dress and wellies, and who likes to put a buggy in wheelchair spaces on trains but who never uses the disabled loo....are you a Goodie or a Baddie on MumsNet?

SandyY2K · 27/09/2016 22:38

Just to point out to those saying "it's not mutilation" - technically speaking it is exactly, literally that. You are punching a hole through a part of the human body.

^^^^ Nonsense.

An vaccination is no different.

Is that mutilation as well? Because that hurts a baby too.

Good heavens. A lot of drama over nothing.

BlancheBlue · 27/09/2016 22:39

People who do this are common

LaurieMarlow · 27/09/2016 22:39

It's not mumsnet bingo til someone tells us it's on a level with FGM.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 27/09/2016 22:42

TBF, I won't be piercing DD BUT I will give her a lemon wedge soon and photo it. Is this mean? I think I probably would BU?

PinkyOfPie · 27/09/2016 22:44

There we go, someone comparing a vaccination to stop diseases to vanity by proxy. Told you it was coming

Do I get a prize for guessing!

Champagneformyrealfriends · 27/09/2016 22:44

Does a vaccination leave a permanent mark on a child? Dd's haven't. sandy Pain for health gain is one thing-pain so people know she's a girl is wrong. There's no comparison.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 27/09/2016 22:45

Pinky you calls it! Star