To think it's odd that DD wasn't allowed to wear a tank top for non uniform and was made to put on her PE top?

[Radia]

DD is 10 and they have a bloody non uniform day so soon already (it was a charity thing). Not that I care, by DD faffs around all night deciding what to wear.

She wore a tank top and jeans. Oh no, that wasn't allowed? We weren't given a list of things that were allowed/weren't allowed. She was told she needed at least short sleeves so had to put on her PE polo.

Isn't this really odd?

"Anyone would think she turned up in a crop top, leather mini skirt and stilletos."
At my dc's old primary a couple of children did, no-one batted an eyelid. They changed shoes voluntarily as they couldn't walk!

Even if a child is developing buds, why should they then be taught to cover up? Girls growing breasts is a normal, predictable part of growing up, you'd think by now we could stop being so precious about it.

If they had mass that day it wouldn't be appropriate to have bare shoulders.

In Australia these garments are called wife beaters!

Yes a tank top is a knitted sleeveless jumper. Your DD wore a vest top.

They are a bit casual for school without a cardigan but I'm surprised they made her cover her shoulders.

At the Catholic church I went to and the Catholic school my dad taught in when I was a kid, wearing jeans to mass would be a big no no......so mass on jeans for genes day would be problematic!

The question should also be: would they have reacted in the same way to a boy wearing it? To me they are absolutely fine, I have a few and my DD has a few two, would definitely not occur to me that some would see it as inappropriate! How odd!! And I've always heard them referred to as tank top, I'm not British, been in the UK for 15yrs or so...

I don't see how having developing breasts might make that top inappropriate. It wouldn't show any more than a T shirt with sleeves.

I can't remember mass comments about Samantha Cameron's shoulders when they left no. 10.

merry possibly her her church is more relaxed, or she put a cardigan on inside. It's the same for men and women- no bare shoulders in a Catholic Church. I've never been in a mass where observing this has been a problem.

I wasn't saying it's how I feel if she was developing but maybe the school was trying to protect her ?

I've always found strappy vests on kids look a bit wrong. Like they are wearing underwear, though unhappily wear then myself (despite not being skinny!) But I mean thin/string straps not thick ones like the ones posted. Kids wear dresses with vest type tops... I usually put a t shirt under DDs dresses but more for sun than modesty.
Can't believe the posters mentioning it being worse on fat kids...

Meant I happily wear them. Damn phone.

I took my guides to camp and the rules said shoulders must be covered (knowing my guides I added in no crop tops to the info I gave them!). It was about sun safety rather than modesty (all girl environment, outdoors all the time).

My point is it's fine to ban items of clothing if there's a reason (avoiding sunburn) but it needs to be stated clearly in advance. If it's not, it's unfair to punish a child for wearing something that is perfectly appropriate!

Sorry, I meant mass as in lots of - not mass as in going to mass.

YANBU! It's totally fine the school are being ott unless some kind of health and safety issue that I can't think of.

I'm Catholic and DC are at RC school. People wear anything to mass now, so it really can't be that. Also I'd have worn a top like that to mass even as a child no problem.

Also. I know this is a catholic school, but as far as I understand it is providing an education generally to local children, not just catholic children, and nobody was going to church.

A lot of shops call these style of tops tank tops.
Vest tops can come under the spaghetti straps.
Vest has two meanings too me, thin strap top, and leather waistcoat

I live in tank tops! Silly school. -.-

Our non uniform high school...Doesn't allow vest tops in there dress code..Never given much thought why as I have a DS..

I am sure OP next uniform day there will be a letter circulated about what you can and can't wear

Blimey it's a primary school not the Vatican! Totally OTT but then stupid uniform rules seem to be the flavour of the month.

Still talk about the off the shoulder, black lace number than a chubby eleven year old wore to the disco!

You should not be working in a school.

I can't believe there are posters wanting to essentially slut shame a 10 year old for daring to show her shoulders. Oh those poor boys and men!

And as for the fat comments!

Hmmm.... So what do people who call a vest top call a tank top? I know Americans call it a sweater vest but this that the case for the uk too?