To think it's odd that DD wasn't allowed to wear a tank top for non uniform and was made to put on her PE top?

[Radia]

DD is 10 and they have a bloody non uniform day so soon already (it was a charity thing). Not that I care, by DD faffs around all night deciding what to wear.

She wore a tank top and jeans. Oh no, that wasn't allowed? We weren't given a list of things that were allowed/weren't allowed. She was told she needed at least short sleeves so had to put on her PE polo.

Isn't this really odd?

Shoulders? Arrggghhhh. The moral fibre of the... Hold on it's not an issue at all. How very odd.

I think it was ridiculous that it was considered too skimpy/sexy/revealing

But if a girl wore a dress with shoulder like that, which DD does every day, it surely wouldn't be an issue! Not scruffy at all.

Looks fine to me. What on earth is "inappropriate" about a sleeveless top?

Speechless. She would prob have been allowed a strappy summer dress.
It's been roasting here!!!!

If someone can look at a 10 year old wearing a top which shows arms and shoulders and think, "skimpy" or "inappropriate", I'd say the problem is with their attitude, not the 10 year old's clothing. It's not as though it's a crop top with sexy or babe emblazoned across it or something! I wear tops like this all the time in the summer, including for work. No one has ever said they are inappropriate!

Yanbu, my DD went to a non uniform Primary and wore those types of tops all the time during summer - only way to cope within the heat during the hot summers.

I see nothing 'inappropriate'.

So like this ?
How is that innapropiate?

Absolutely ridiculous. Not inappropriate at all. She's a child, for Christ's sake.

God schools being hysterical about a 10 year old's clothes.

No YANBU to think this attitude is odd. But YABU not to expect oddness from school. They're steeped in sexism and bizarre ideas about clothes, hairstyles etc. Surely you know that?

Wait till she gets to secondary school. They're even odder.

May have been about sun safety if it has been hot there though. I know I've had girls try to wear the for PE and had to get a tshirt out of the spares box for them. Parents would complain if they got burnt shoulders and I can't give them suncream

How is it inappropriate? Am I missing something?

My dc aren't allowed to wear singlets/tank tops on non uniform days, but we are in Australia and its 100% a sun safety thing.

That's a normal thing to wear, not at all inappropriate! Maybe, as when you go into the Vatican or St Peter's, you have to cover your shoulders, the RC-ness was the issue.

We wouldn't bat an eyelid at our school.
We have seen much more revealing clothing.
Still talk about the off the shoulder, black lace number than a chubby eleven year old wore to the disco!

That style of top seems fine to me. I would have gotten her to wear a cardigan or something with it but that's because it's not been warm enough here to just wear a top like that alone.

How odd that they asked her to change it I would definitely query this with the school and see what they say.

What has that taught her? To be ashamed of her body. Everything is covered. As long as it was weather appropriate for where you live I really can't see a problem.

I am totally at a loss as to what is inappropriate about that? Not trying to be goady but the people who think it is, do you mind if I ask why? I'm genuinely interested

What?

If they don't have a list of rules then they can't arbitrarily decide a tank top/vest top/sleeveless t shirt isn't ok.

I'd be having words.

Well a huge proportion of 10 year olds are overweight. If your daughter is fat then that top would be both unflattering and inappropriate.
Could that be it?

You've joined the site to post about this so it must be something that really concerns you.

Are they introducing burkinis for swimming lessons too?

I haven't joined to post this, I changed my username, as I don't like posting about my children without a namechange. Why were you advance searching me? however, yes, it has bothered me.

Also, she isn't overweight, but even if she was, can they really decide what kids look flattering in?

What on earth is inappropriate about a 10yo's shoulders arms and neck?

this is a "tank top".

Honestly what she is wearing does look like a vest tbh. Would you wear it to work?