To think it's odd that DD wasn't allowed to wear a tank top for non uniform and was made to put on her PE top?

[Radia]

DD is 10 and they have a bloody non uniform day so soon already (it was a charity thing). Not that I care, by DD faffs around all night deciding what to wear.

She wore a tank top and jeans. Oh no, that wasn't allowed? We weren't given a list of things that were allowed/weren't allowed. She was told she needed at least short sleeves so had to put on her PE polo.

Isn't this really odd?

What has that taught her? To be ashamed of her body.

Completely agree - and am fuming, even though I don't know your DD

I'd be inclined to go all guns blazing over this, but appreciate that a ten-year-old might not be too thrilled with being the focus of attention over a feminist issue. Maybe make it crystal clear to her that her church school has retrograde, sexist views that are a pile of arrant shite!

Honestly do people really send their children to RC schools and then complain about " retrograde, sexist views that are a pile of arrant shite! "

What did they expect? isnt that what they signed up for?

Seriously though, I would be annoyed if no guidelines were issued in the first place.

It was the school she was allocated...

I'm conflicted I don't see an issue with revealing, skimpy etc with it but this is the boy version and for some reason I feel that's perhaps too casual for school to

Are boys also not allowed to wear sleeveless tops?

If yes, then I think it's pretty equal.

A vest is different to a tank top. A tank top has a high neck and covers the shoulders. Just saying.

My dc are in a RC school... Its the best in the area.. Thankfully they have moved passed the ridiculous misogyny that was rampant when i was a kid.
A girl wearing this type of top wouldn't raise an eyebrow anymore. As it shouldn't!

A rule of thumb is if you wouldn't wear it to work on dress-down day, it's not suitable for school - ie, no football colours, no offensive slogans, no skimpy clothing.

And a vest is not at least short sleeves. A vest is no sleeves at all.

That top is not skimpy on an adult either though.

metaphoricus I don't know if you're saying that because of the picture I posted but the boy vest I posted and the picture of the girl looks the same to me

No, the sleeves thing was what they said to DD and that's the reason she had to change. They didn't say that to me.

Louisville - Hope you don't think my post was directed at you. I agree with you, I think! There's nothing wrong with a vest top on a boy, or a girl. I just think perhaps it's a bit too casual even for a dress down day at school. I was more concerned that the younger generation don't know the difference between a vest and a tank top! Tank tops are knitted from wool, and itchy, and traditionally worn over a shirt, and definitely not comfortable summer wear.

I would be asking the school why. Common sense has left most schools nowadays I think.

I wouldn't wear shorts on dress down Friday but it is totally appropriate for mufti day at school. Same with trainers.

I work in a professional environment. Strappy summer dresses were acceptable for the summer, although I would put a jacket on if I was seeing clients.

We are metaphoricus sorry no sleep was making me wary and not knowing if you were talking to myself or if I were coming and going!

Well a huge proportion of 10 year olds are overweight. If your daughter is fat then that top would be both unflattering and inappropriate.
Could that be it?

so, its only FAT kids that arent allowed to show skin?

Maybe we're talking regional variation Metaphoricus rather than the younger generation not knowing what a tank top is.
I would most certainly call a top like the OP's daughter wore a tank top, a vest would be strappier and only ever worn as underwear.

OP a tank top is perfectly appropriate for school non-uniform day. YANBU.

Well a huge proportion of 10 year olds are overweight. If your daughter is fat then that top would be both unflattering and inappropriate.
Could that be it?

I'm fat and I wore a similar top today. For shame.

Why the fuck would it be inappropriate It's just a top.. It's not skimpy or revealing (and so what if it was, she's 10 years old ffs) my then 5 year old daughter wore a similar top a few years ago in the Christmas nativity, no one batted an eyelid

My 9 your old son regularly wears these kind of tops suddenly a female shows her shoulders and the boys are supposed to become wild beasts? Kids that age aren't looking at each other that way. However if you work in a school and find it distracting.... you should be on a register

I don't let 5 year old DD wear those tops because I'm worried about the sun (in Aus).

However, they aren't inappropriate nor sexual or ANYTHING other than normal clothing.

YANBU and I would want it in writing from the school why they chose to body shame her. And I would follow that up too.

For shame on those who think a 10 year old should "cover up" a tank top. Why is it inappropriate? Is she going to be stiring the lust of other children? Or maybe it will be distracting for male members of staff.

I could see how that could be a problem if the girl is very mature and is trying to show off her sexuality.

My DDs both went to Catholic schools - youngest left three years ago. The uniform code was strict and the mufti-day code was even stricter.Tank tops would definitely have been verboten as were 75% of their home clothes.

When DD1 started working in the City colleagues told her that the dress code was draconian, however after 8 years of convent school strictures the satorial requirements of a big four accountancy firm read like beach wear to her.

Isnt almost this exact same thing on Facebook/the Daily Mail today but set in the US (where that vest top would be called a tank top) and with a tank top and shorts not jeans?

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3804320/Does-anybody-NOT-okay-Mom-slams-elementary-school-forcing-ten-year-old-cover-inappropriate-tank-long-sleeved-jacket-90-heat.html