.....to think that this is not an unreasonable house rule?

[LaContessaDiPlump]

DS1 (5 yo) has a tendency to throw things as part of general playtime. I will be sitting on the sofa and all of a sudden something will go flying past my line of sight. I do not like this. I do not consider it to be acceptable behavior from anyone who's older than 3 yo and capable of following rules generally (he is fine at school). I have told him I do not like this and that if he absolutely must throw, he can do it in the hallway (nothing breakable there), in his room (break your own shit, I don't care) or outside in the garden, but not in the communal areas like living room, kitchen and bathroom. He doesn't listen.

DH claims that I am being completely unreasonable and has mitigated the rule to 'No throwing HARD things' i.e. soft items can be thrown with impunity. I have said I don't like this and have requested that it stop; I have basically been told to suck it up.

I'm really unhappy at having what I think is a perfectly reasonable request be basically just fucking ignored by the other people in my house, particularly by my husband who is old enough to understand the request and comply with it.

I have started to wonder if I'm being unreasonably sensitive in not wanting items flying around the room unpredictably.

AIBU?

[Canyouforgiveher]

Bander the annoying thing to me is that if I tell DS1 to bugger off upstairs and do his throwing there, he won't. It has to be right there, with me in the room. It's all power and control and I hate it. If he'd just go upstairs and do it there then there wouldn't be a problem.

I think you have put your finger on the problem here. Your ds is seeing that he can override you because he sees your husband doing it. Good for you having that conversation with your husband today but I also think you need to seriously take back control and power with your son.

So if he throws things you tell him very firmly to stop. If he doesn't you take him firmly by the hand and bring him up to his room and tell him to stay there until he can control himself. If he says "well dad says I can" tell him that you are not his dad, you don't care if his dad said he could because what matters to you is what YOU say. Normally I would say parents should support each other but your husband is being such a twat you need to make it very very clear to your child that you are the one in control.

[Topseyt]

He says he threw the water as an experiment to see how you would react and now he knows that doesn't work!!

If that is meant to be an apology then it is the weirdest one I have ever heard.

I hope he won't try anything else just to test out your reactions!