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To say fuck off and get out!!

61 replies

PrincessOG16 · 21/09/2016 08:17

To DH so I can clean up properly?

He tries to help and is useless, I like doing it my own way. DD is at nursery and he's not leaving till 10am

Ugh I want my freedom back.

He's off work till late next week. Has only been off 3 days and is already getting on my nerves.

So, DH, fuck off out so I can clean this house from top to bottom the way I like doing it!!

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qwerty871 · 21/09/2016 08:18

Lol

EdmundCleverClogs · 21/09/2016 08:20

Yabu. Does the cleaning really need to be started at 8am Confused. Let him enjoy a morning in his own home, and chill out for the next hour and a half....

AgentProvocateur · 21/09/2016 08:24

If he's there till 10am, go out for breakfast or coffee together or do something less dull than cleaning. Would you really rather clean your house than spend time alone with your DH?

JudyCoolibar · 21/09/2016 08:24

Does it really need to be cleaned from top to bottom today? Can't you do the bare minimum and then do something nice with DH, leaving the rest till next week? For sure my house isn't going to be cleaned from top to bottom this week, in fact probably not till next month: I think we'll survive.

acasualobserver · 21/09/2016 08:26

He can't be in all of the rooms all of the time. Pick a room he isn't in and clean that.

Justaboy · 21/09/2016 08:44

Tell him that he''s bloody lucky that he's got you to clean up anyway, as a single man i have to do that all myself:(

I'd love to have someone around to do it here, their way would be fine!.

diddl · 21/09/2016 08:46

Of course YABU.

Why should he have to go out?

Is he really bad at cleaning or just doesn't do it the way you would?

Oysterbabe · 21/09/2016 08:48

It's too early for cleaning. This time of day is for coffee and watching the news.

gamerchick · 21/09/2016 08:49

Ah there's always cleaning to do. I would prefer taking the husband to bed for an hour. Puts both in a better mood.

Goingtobeawesome · 21/09/2016 08:51

When DH is here I can't get on like I would normally. Never really thought about why. It's his house though, bit mean to force him out.

Stillunexpected · 21/09/2016 08:52

Chill. If he's only off for a week, presumably you cleaned the house from top to bottom the way you like it last week and can do it again next week? It's hardly going to disintegrate in a week is it? Sit down, talk, go for a walk or have a coffee instead!

Arfarfanarf · 21/09/2016 08:53

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Topseyt · 21/09/2016 08:54

That does seem rather mean, even if it were tongue in cheek.

PacificOcean · 21/09/2016 08:57

Maybe you should try to chill out a bit Confused

Kintan · 21/09/2016 09:00

Poor guy, hasn't he got as much right to be there as you!?

tibbawyrots · 21/09/2016 09:03

arf

YY. The soundtrack to my teenage years.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 21/09/2016 09:25

Good Lord arfarfanarf, were you hiding in the hall cupboard for he first 18yrs of my life?!

I hope there'll be a generation that grows up without this type of household terrorism.

Me & my dad always 'did everything wrong' and 'couldn't be trusted to do it right' so it was always 'easier to do it myself' (according to my dear mother)... yet we were then raged out for hours at a time for 'not helping' and the real whammy 'treating me like a skivvy' and / or 'this home isn't a hotel'.

Basically, no way to win. And 'winning' wasn't some kind of evil plot to disempower my mother & keep her as some kind of household slave. 'Winning' would have been pleasing the un-pleasable woman. And taking away the armery she used to beat us into terrified submission.

It was foul and cruel. We lived in a very isolated place and so couldn't escape from her vicious bullying. I have little to no relationship with her now.

pictish · 21/09/2016 09:29

Yabu on so many levels I just can't even...
I do not relate.

Imnotaslimjim · 21/09/2016 09:35

Either get him to help or wait until he's gone. Surely it can wait and you can enjoy some time with him? I never do housework when DH is home so we can spend time together.

Arf sounds like my childhood too. My mum once stood ranting at me, while I was washing up, that "no-one ever helps in this house" when I pointed out that I was helping by doing the dishes I got a clout round the ear for being cheeky!

usual · 21/09/2016 09:38

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CigarsofthePharoahs · 21/09/2016 09:42

Arfarfanarf, have you been spying on my Mum? Grin
We never did anything "properly" either.
Op, if you need to start cleaning, then just do it. If you don't want help, then say so.
Or just cool off for a bit.

alfagirl73 · 21/09/2016 09:44

I think it's a bit harsh to say he's "useless". You say yourself he's trying to help which means he's doing SOMETHING - just not how you would do it. Sounds a bit like he can't do right for doing wrong.

It's his house too presumably, he's having some time off... instead of moaning about it, schedule some nice relaxing things to do together while your DD is at nursery and you have the opportunity. Even if it's just going for a walk or a nice brunch or something.

pictish · 21/09/2016 09:48

Cleaning - nope
Cleaning at 8am - nopey no
Cleaning in a special way that no one else can do, at 8am - no no nopey no

Tell you what though...I'm missing the housework chip and I genuinely envy those who have it installed like you do. Life would be so much easier.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 21/09/2016 09:52

justaboy you mean you would lve to have a woman to do your cleaning for you? What a lucky gal who wins your heart Hmm

GabsAlot · 21/09/2016 09:54

who cleans at 8am

anyway hes trying to help be grateful

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