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To think that scholarships for women shouldn't be open to men?

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HermioneWeasley · 20/09/2016 19:55

So, scholarship to support women in STEM - a massive issue for all societies that we're not harnessing th talents of half our populations in this area.

But if you "identify as a woman in a way that's meaningful to you" you can apply.

What the ever loving fuck?

Another example of the damage being done to actual women, by saying that "woman" is a feeling in a man's head.

To think that scholarships for women shouldn't be open to men?
To think that scholarships for women shouldn't be open to men?
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CoteDAzur · 21/09/2016 08:04

Full - re "I think we've reached this topics natural conclusion now, with each party unwilling to move"

Er... Was I wrong to take your "Good points, Cote" as acknowledgement that you had changed your position and understood why males who "feel" they should be women should not be considered for women's positions?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/09/2016 08:05

MyOwnPrivateIdaho

The gender based social conditioning you refer to only happens to females . MtT will not have experienced this social conditioning. Hence the scholarship should go to those who have experienced the social conditioning I.e. women.

FullTimeYummy · 21/09/2016 08:09

Yes Cote I have always agreed with that. Its the fairness of "women's positions" I disagree with.

Hence I can't get behind the idea that with the trans caveat, the scholarship has now become "unfair".

JudyCoolibar · 21/09/2016 08:09

Do we know how many men who claim to be trans who make no effort to live as women have applied for and received STEM scholarships? We need to get a handle on how much of a problem this is in reality.

FullTimeYummy · 21/09/2016 08:20

Judy

Good question, I suspect not many "men" at all. Another reason why the fairness level of the scholarship hasn't shifted a great deal

PuntasticUsername · 21/09/2016 08:21

"Or in this case, this person might be disadvantaged, but in a different way, but isn't really a large enough group for their own scholarship, so we'll throw them in with the vagina lot. Arguably not fair should a woman miss out on a scholarship, but the system was anything but fair (for individual women and men) in the first place."

You seem to have moved from "It's perfectly fair on women to give their scholarships to men" to "ok, so actually doing that will only benefit the men and might well be unfair in the women but I don't care - life's unfair, whaddaya gonna do?

I guess that's progress in the argument, of a kind... Confused

CoteDAzur · 21/09/2016 08:24

"Its the fairness of "women's positions" I disagree with."

Why?

Do you disagree with scholarships in general?

Do you disagree with scholarships for disabled people and black youths, for example?

What seems to be the problem with giving scholarships to women? Confused

39up · 21/09/2016 08:25

I don't think there's any evidence that all these naughty men are signing up for women's scholarships as trans women for shits and giggles.

There's a lot more evidence that trans women instead receive massively more in the way of harassment, abuse, and marginalization. And posts like these absolutely contribute to that.

myownprivateidaho · 21/09/2016 08:26

I disagree that social conditioning only happens to women! We're all conditioned I'm afraid. And agree that the scope of this matters hugely. If it were the case that men were simply rocking up at interviews at a dress and scooping up scholarships that would be one thing. But there's no evidence that that is happening, or even that any trans-woman has received a scholarship.

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 21/09/2016 08:30

judy

My understanding was that this is the first scholarship offered on these terms

So until the applications are gathered in we wont know how much of a problem it is

And of course you are never going to be able to tell the difference between clare who feels like a woman or clare who is a woman on an application

But i do realise that you were being sarky with your post Grin

And brilliant logic there yummy

FullTimeYummy · 21/09/2016 08:32

Sorry folks, but I'm not repeating myself any more. I thought we for somewhere but obviously not

I'm out

I hope nobody's scholarship is taken from them by a man who identifies as a trans serial killer

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 21/09/2016 08:33

my

No one said that social conditioning happens only to women

myownprivateidaho · 21/09/2016 08:40

rufus see itsallgoingtobefine's post at 08:05:55

BeyondASpecialSnowflake · 21/09/2016 08:46

Back up a second. I understand tummy if you think what you are writing is nice and fair, but you think it is logical?? Confused

Judy, how many more female serial killers can you name without googling? not that I'm expecting a sensible answer

BeyondASpecialSnowflake · 21/09/2016 08:48

Reading comprehension, 0/10

"The gender based social conditioning you refer to only happens to female..."

SweetAndFullOfGrace · 21/09/2016 08:49

39, no one is disputing that transpeople are on the recieving end of harassment. What people are disputing is transwomen being able to apply for a women's scholarship. It's not a scholarship for "every minority group that has ever been discriminated against".

WellyWanga · 21/09/2016 08:50

myownprivateidaho

She is talking about female socialisation in reference to the womens scholarship program. Why would she talk about black or ethnic, male, disabled, socialisation?

If we were discussing a different type of scholarship then we would be talking about other socialisation and disadvantages in the relevant area.

venusinscorpio · 21/09/2016 09:03

Yes, myown, we're all conditioned. And men are conditioned differently. Trans women have been conditioned and socialised differently to women. Therefore where they need help they need different "gender" help to women. I.e scholarships endowed for trans people rather than appropriating those for women.

PuntasticUsername · 21/09/2016 09:08

"Sorry folks, but I'm not repeating myself any more. I thought we for somewhere but obviously not"

Or, you've realised that your arguments make no sense, you can't even keep them straight yourself so you're admitting defeat and fucking off.

venusinscorpio · 21/09/2016 09:15

What a surprising turn of events, that's never happened before.

FullTimeYummy · 21/09/2016 09:19
Grin
RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 21/09/2016 09:22

myown

I did see that, but i think you may have misread it

yummy

I will give you this, you don't take anything personally Smile

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 21/09/2016 09:28

Anyone for tea and jammy dodgers?

WilLiAmHerschel · 21/09/2016 09:30

Do we know how many men who claim to be trans who make no effort to live as women have applied for and received STEM scholarships? We need to get a handle on how much of a problem this is in reality.

There may be none yet. But as the idea that anyone can claim to be a woman, becomes more widespread this will soon change.

RufusTheSpartacusReindeer · 21/09/2016 09:32

Just the jammy dodgers please