Would you give up your surname of you got married?

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I'm so undecided

But for those of you who are so against changing your name, why, in many cases, do your children have their father's surname rather than your's?

I think my view is that no one owns a surname

I kept my surname and my DC have my name. I did a hell of a lot more work than their father so that is one of many reasons.

No one owns a surname? Oh ffs get a grip. I own my surname. It's mine. I have documents to prove it. As does anyone else with their own name.

No - seemed like pointless admin.

But each to their own.

Also I hate my dad, my surname was his so good riddance to it

Also I hate my dad, my surname was his so good riddance to it

No. I do use my husband's name booking things over the phone though because he has a common, easy to pronounce name and I don't!

I don't have children but if I did they would either have my name or a double barrelled name with mine first (which sounds better with mine and OH's names)

I didn't, and never thought about it. Bit annoying at docs and things to not have same name as DC, more for them (docs receptionists, not DC!) than me tbh. But then DH died and I remarried, and now our family has 3 surnames between us. Having not changed name first marriage, was a no brainer that I wouldn't second time.

Said that, have two lovely friends also widowed and re-married who have both double-barrelled and their kids all have too. Which I think is fab. This is one of those things that you just have to decide for yourself I think. No right or wrong answer.

I get more annoyed by being called "Mrs DH" or him being called "Mr DW" tbh. Or forms that don't have a Ms option. People should be able to do whatever they want.

I did. My maiden surname was always being spelled incorrectly, although it turns out my married surname can be spelled in about 5 different ways which is equally as frustrating. I like that our family has all the same name and tbh I don't know of anyone who has kept their name once married, so it would have been considered unusual and I can imagine having to explain it all the time.

I really dislike my surname, to the point i don't use it unless i absolutely have to, i prefer to go by my first and middle name. I would change my last name to my deceased mums name but i know it would really offend my dad so i haven't. I would absolutely take a partners name, purely out of hatred of my own, as i can't imagine much to be worse than mine.

I wouldn't. Not because I'm against changing it, if that's what people want to do then all the power to them, but because it's mine and I'd want to keep it.

I don't plan on ever having children but if I did I'd probably either double barrel it, give them mine if my husband didn't feel strongly or use mine as a middle name.

I didn't. I did begrudgingly give DS a double-barrelled both our surnames surname.

DH wanted me to drop my name completely with DS but I stayed strong. Really kids should have their mother's name because it makes it more true to the genetic line.

I changed my name.

We spoke about it a lot at the time and I decided I wanted to take his name.

If that's the case Lessthan Where do you draw the line? If two people with double barrelled names marry, do their kids have four?

And so it would continue!

Yes I did. It mattered to my DH but not to me.

'If two people with double barrelled names marry, do their kids have four?'

I'm surprised it took so long for that chestnut to appear!

I kept my name and my dc have my name.

No. I married nearly 25 years ago and it didn't occur to me to change my name. My sister married a few years earlier and changed hers. She has since said to me she regrets it a bit (we have a great name and it is relatively unusual where we live).

My kids have Dh's name. If we married today, I suspect we would give our children my name. DH loved my dad, had issues with his own and my surname makes naming children way easier than his. Also he is a very confident man whose surname means little to him. It would have probably utterly freaked out his parents though.

I like being the DH's Name Family. My kids are fine with it too. But recently I registered DD1 for something on line and it ended up her being her name/my surname. She loved it.

I find the argument "ooh no, I'd never take a man's name" bizarre. The vast majority of us are given our fathher's surname at birth so you are already branded with a man's name. It's just a question of choosing which man you want to use the name of - your father or your husband. Neither is a particularly feminist option....

I did but it's personal choice. It's not that big of deal for me.

We will be double barrelling. The dc all have my surname. That won't be changing.
So me and dp will be "Mrs and Mr myname-hisname" and the dc will be "x myname"

'It's just a question of choosing which man you want to use the name of - your father or your husband. Neither is a particularly feminist option....'

What a load of old guff.

I don't plan to, and will likely double-barrel children's names so that we can both share a name with them. The fact that people think this is the action of a pretentious fuckwit only makes me more keen to do it tbh :D

I'm sure that we won't end up with thousands of children with quadruple-barrelled surnames in the future (which seems to be a grave concern amongst the anti-double-barrellers) because like their parents before them they will be able to choose their own names and their children's names

It amazes me when people say they don't know any woman who hasn't changed their name on marriage - it's not THAT unusual - I've got aunts, colleagues, parents of friends when I was a child, and my own mum used different names at home and at work (so I'm very accustomed to people having alter egos and it working just fine).

Surely by that argument you should say 'your father's name or your father in law's name'?

But no, because people like you see a man's name as being his own and woman's as just being her father's. On temporary loan until she finds someone to marry.

As I say, guff.

We both kept our names when we married. DC have DH's name, I can't get too worked up about us all having the same name, after all I know they're mine!

The Spanish seem to manage the double barrelled thing quite well...