Would you give up your surname of you got married?

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I'm so undecided

I wonder, vaguely, what point you are trying to make, but don't care enough to come back and find out.
Bit old hat, isn't it?

Just a thought. Might be easier if all adult women were the neutral Ms.

MitzyLeFrouf... yes! Exactly that. Me taking his name should make him the proudest man alive. Its makes us two of the same kind. Its showing the world i am his.
The only reason I'd refuse to take his name is if i was ashamed.
Not that I'm suggesting thats how anyone else is or feels - thats just me.
We all see marriage differentley. But to me its two people becoming one & making a promise to take on life together.

You're not his baby

Is there any good reason why he shouldn't take your name?

I did, and don't see any problem with it. I think it's cute

No I prefer my surname. My first name doesn't sound as nice with his name either

Yes. I'm married and I was happy to take my husband's name. A bit strange at first but now I am used to it. We have children and we all have the family name.

babybrowneyes is he not proud to be "yours"? He too ashamed of you to consider your name? I'm just curious really, whether you both even considered doing it the other way around. It just seems very one sided. Do you view married couples with different names as inferior or not serious about their relationship or something?

Its makes us two of the same kind. Its showing the world i am his.

If you reread, you'll find that those two sentences contradict one another, baby.

My friend's wife double-barrelled hers after they got married;
my friend then added her maiden surname to his and they now have matching double-barrelled surnames, which I thought was utterly romantic!
I've yet to see any other guys do this!

'double barreled names, seems pretentious and as for the man taking the woman's name....haha'

Catsatwat why on earth is it haha that a man should change his name?

Is it also haha that men should do 50/50 childcare, or 50/50 housework?

'and as for the man taking the woman's name....haha'

What's so funny about that?

Of course I wouldn't (in the event of accepting one of Mr Inferior's suggestions we commit a spot of matrimony).

I don't particularly want to be part of some conglomerate unit named by my FIL (who picked his surname because the original meant 'tax collector') even though it is a perfectly nice Bengali name.

I don't want to be rebranded as Mrs Him, after I have had a large number of decades as Ms Me.

And also I have a fabulous Scandinavian surname, with five consecutive consonants and an unlaut. Frequently misspelled and usually mispronounced. It is a name of glory - especially combined with my Indian first name - and I would be bereft without it.

Umlaut, that should read.

I don't think it's a nice tradition - I think it smacks of ownership and of eradicating women's family history and origins, myself.

That's what DH and I have knight. As far as we can tell we are the only people in the world with our surname and DS is the first person ever to have been born with our surname. I agree that it's romantic and I also think it's pretty damn cool :)

Cat why is a man taking a woman's name 'haha'?

He could have had my name if he chose to...
he'd have a couple to choose from haha. Mine in my opinion is rubbish (I darent share as everyone seems to have named their sons that) He is A B Surname, just like his father. My son carried his fathers Christian name & Surname kept the B initial middle name. (So he has his dads first name, grandfathers middle name) My daughter is also A B Surname.
My children are the fifth generation of A B C's
So no he'd never want to take my name.

Show the world that I am his - barf. This is what results in Cheryl whatsit having to have her tattoos lasered off. Would it enter people's heads just to be happy, in love and equal without needing public branding.

'all the men, including my husband said there's no way they'd change their name'

Well whadda surprise...........

Says it all really mycatsatwat sexist bullshit.

Cheryl Cole/Tweedy/Fernande-Versini needs to tell herself 'enough now'. She's had more names than petticoats.

Creativemode I need not speak. You sum it up precisely