DS emptying DD's bin?

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DS's job is to empty the bins in the house the day before rubbish collection day. He has just told me that DH said he is not to empty DD's bin as it has sanitary towels in it. They are in bloody plastic sanitary towel bags so aren't smelly and aren't going to leap out and bite him or rub blood off onto him for cripes sake!

AIBU to tell DH and DS that he can bloody well empty the bin and carry on doing so each week regardless of its contents?

Hopefully at one stage in his life he will have a wife and I can't imagine her falling for his not being able to empty the bathroom bin because it may have used sanitary (adequately covered) protection in it.

lets get real here, its only a few days a month and she is in her own home not a Hotel, and why should her brother empty her bin anyway?

I don't think I've ever read a thread where quite so many people have had a problem reading and understanding the original post before. And that's saying something on here.

Agree. It's like a load of people saw the word sanitary towel and stopped reading, while falling over themselves in their rush to comment on how gross it all is.

Why can't she empty her own bin when she is on her period.?
simple.

Because then she'd have to announce to her brother both the start and end of her period each month, which might reach the awkwardness line for both of them? While being completely unnecessary at any rate - he has no problem doing her bin with the rest of the bins as part of his paid chores.

TotallyOuting,
You sound Fucking Ridiculous and must be friends with OP.

Its not totally that sounds fucking ridiculous.

Many of us agree with the OP, many dont. Are the ones who dont friends with you?

Are the ones who dont friends with you?

• Loo roll tubes and empty bottles go directly into the recycling

• Seperate pedal bin with liner for sanpro, emptied after each period (or more often) by whichever female family member used it last

• Bathroom bin with liner for tissues, cotton wool, floss, etc

Totally agree that nobody should be picking through bins!! Unhygienic and unpleasant for whoever is doing it. Feel very sorry for DS. Bin liner would be much simpler and more hygienic.

ManaFleet, OP's DD has her own bathroom, so the rule of one separate sanpro bin emptied by whichever female member of the family used it last doesn't really work. It would probably be overkill for one person to have two separate bins.

I'd have thought the simplest thing is to rethink the whole bin rule, so that bedroom and bathroom bins all get emptied by their respective owners, DS does all the other bins, and maybe does another job to earn his pocket money.

as a mum you know about periods and may be fine with it.

Where to start...

Ugh. My mum did that. It was vile sorry I hated that. Piling us into the same toilet stall as she didnt want us outside alone in a crowded bathroom. Yes even at a young age, I found it gross seeing my mum do that.

I wouldn't make him come in a bathroom stall with me, at 5 he's OK to be outside and talking to me so I know he's ok. It's when I'm getting ready if he wanders in I don't go off and hide.
like a 2 second thing, to just change a pad and you barely see anything so unless your mum was taking her sweet time about it and waving it around I can't understand why it has affected you so much

How disgusting not to empty bins every day

• it's like a 2 second thing even.

Maybe my ds is just really laid back, he's forever just wandering in when I'm in the bath or on the toilet to ask me a question or ask for something

like a 2 second thing, to just change a pad and you barely see anything so unless your mum was taking her sweet time about it and waving it around I can't understand why it has affected you so much

I can do without the image of my mum putting a tampon in. I cant unsee that. I wouldnt do it in front of a partner or anyone else and I dont want to see people doing it.

First of all I thought you were right. But I wouldn't expect ANYONE to actually pick through a bin worth of recycling, mixed with sanitary towels. We have a bin liner in the bathroom bin and recycling comes straight down to the kitchen recycling as its fewer and further between. My husband, for example, usually does the bins, I would feel really mean saying "yeah sorry I've just had my period so just pick out the shampoo bottles"

Why doesn't DD wrap them up and put them in the dustbin outside the house herself? I agree with others - it's pretty gross to have them in a bin for up to a week, and in this weather. There is nothing wrong with any bodily function, but would anyone feel that to wipe your backside, put the paper in a plastic bag and leave that in a bin for a week, and then expect someone else to deal with it, is reasonable? It's a simple courtesy to deal with your own private functions - privately.

Drives me mad when I stand the empty loo roll tube next to the bathroom bin to bring down for recycling and by the time I go back (having got distracted) husband has put it in the bin. I then have to fish it out & its really only my stuff plus the occasional wet nappy in there. I definitely wouldn't expect the kids to have to remove recycling when emptying bins but I would expect both children to take their turn with jobs like bins, regardless of earning situation. I personally think if your daughter has her own bathroom emptying the bin (or at least bringing out the recycling) should be her job.

I don't have a bin in the bathroom, all rubbish is brought down to kitchen where the general waste and recycling bins are
Pads are wrapped in loo roll and put in kitchen bin which is emptied daily

Your DH is teaching your DS that there's something disgusting about periods. There isn't. Your son should continue with his chore, use bin liners if you want, but tell your husband to back off.

Periods are not disgusting - but the decaying, fetid remains of tampons or sanitary towels really are.

There's a reason there are separate bins in public toilets and it's not because everyone is coy about periods, it's hygiene waste - nappies are classed the same.

So let's not make it like this is about periods in themselves being gross because they're not, byproduct is unpleasant when it's been hanging around though.

Do think dealing with recycling separately would solve this - ours goes pretty much straight out. I wouldn't take a solitary loo roll outside at 2am but it would go out in the morning.

@Dillydilly, not everyone thinks that periods are 'unclean'

Surely the most pertinent fact is that the sanpro is wrapped?!

It wouldn't be sorting through "bodily fluids" - its sorting through dry, wrapped rubbish.

I do exactly the same, wrapped sanpro, empty bottles, loo rolls go into the bathroom bin. On bin day the bottles get plucked out. It isn't time consuming, it isn't disgusting.

My 9 year old DD helps

If the sanitary protection is discreetly contained in bags what's the problem? We all have to empty bins at some point and rubbish by its very nature is not particularly 'nice' but you know, he can get used to it. DH is being prissy.

Sounds like your DH (presuming that you have one) needs a kick up the tochis. I might gag a bit at the smell if there's a weeks worth of st's in the bathroom bin, but bodily functions are bodily functions. What sort of fainting blossom couldn't get sanpros for his dw? Ridiculous. People have bodies, and things come out of them.

Should just add to that that I'm the (possibly d)h.