DS emptying DD's bin?

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DS's job is to empty the bins in the house the day before rubbish collection day. He has just told me that DH said he is not to empty DD's bin as it has sanitary towels in it. They are in bloody plastic sanitary towel bags so aren't smelly and aren't going to leap out and bite him or rub blood off onto him for cripes sake!

AIBU to tell DH and DS that he can bloody well empty the bin and carry on doing so each week regardless of its contents?

Hopefully at one stage in his life he will have a wife and I can't imagine her falling for his not being able to empty the bathroom bin because it may have used sanitary (adequately covered) protection in it.

Didi anyone mention a mooncup or washable sanitary pads?

My Dh doesn't mind cleaning out my moon cup. Says he enjoys it.

That was a joke by the way

*You're a grown woman who has given birth and has periods. No wonder you dont think it is an issue.

A teenage boy hasn't had those experiences nor had a partner who has had them. It is disgusting to ask him to do it and I am not surprised he has a problem. It likely disgusts him given his age. *

It's NOT an issue if you don't make it an issue. My 5 year old ds knows what periods are and has seen me change my sanpro. It's just another thing like me getting dressed, it's normal.
I grew up in a Christian household that didn't discuss anything to do with bodies/sexuality and I never felt comfortable talking to my mother about stuff. I don't want that for my kids

Picking through a bin that has used cotton buds, that makes me shudder.

Have separate bins or put plastics at the side.

The suggestion of disposable gloves each time the bin is emptied kind of cancels out bothering to recycle.

Don't think there's anything wrong with your ds changing the bins, or that only your dd should be doing it.
I do think you need a separate bin for recycling though.
Nobody should be sorting through a bin of used sanitary items even if it's theirs.

How big do you thnk the op's bins are? 😁

Bathroom bins are small, lifting out a shampoo bottle is hardly like sorting through a skip 😁

Nobody should be sorting through a bin of used sanitary items even if it's theirs. - it's wrapped jeez, get a grip people.

If he's uncomfortable about it, then he has a right to be! Lots of things make people uncomfortable, it's not for anyone else to tell them they shouldn't be

I've always been really uncomfortable with going to work and have come to believe that it's not a fleeting thing but a systemic problem. I've tried working but I really don't like it. It's hard to express but simply put, employers ask me to do things I'd rather not do.

I would prefer to lie on a chaise longue in a negligee and marabou-trimmed mules eating violet creams. However, my husband insists that the mortgage has to be paid.

It gets paid off next August. AIBU to LTB in September?

Bathroom bins are small, lifting out a shampoo bottle is hardly like sorting through a skip

My mum's friend overbalanced while putting out her rubbish and fell in the dumpster. She was 76 and 4ft 11ins and had dragged over a crate to stand on so she could reach because she didn't want to be any trouble.

She was found next morning suffering from exposure. After that experience she wouldn't think lifting a shampoo bottle out of the bathroom bin was a problem.

I have my normal bin and the a paper Primark carrier bag by the side. When it's full it goes directly as one thing into the recycling bin (luckily it's 1 bin for all tecycling round my way!)

I don't agree with your DH.

Sorry ... meant to say I do agree with your DH.

It's NOT an issue if you don't make it an issue. My 5 year old ds knows what periods are and has seen me change my sanpro.

Ugh. My mum did that. It was vile sorry I hated that. Piling us into the same toilet stall as she didnt want us outside alone in a crowded bathroom. Yes even at a young age, I found it gross seeing my mum do that.

I have no issue with my own body or dealing with my own sanpro but having seen my mum do it, I'd never do it in front of a child.

Wow, the level of uptightedness (a word? If not it should be) of some people about normal bodily functions never ceases to amaze me.

I have a friend who's daughter has severe cerebal palsy. Part of the care duties that her mother and the paid carers have is to deal with her periods. The damage was to her brain not her body, so physically everything happens as it should, but she isnt able to sort herself out. How on earth would her mother manage if everyone was a sqeamish about other peoples periods as so many are on here I wonder? Or if the mother herself was so sqeamish?

Its blood, on a pad, wrapped in a bag. Its not nuclear waste ffs.

And to reiterate something that many people seem unable to grasp THE OP'S DS DOESNT MIND! IT IS THE DH, WHO DOESNT EMPTY THE BINS, THAT IS MAKING A FUSS! Thank goodness the DS has more common sense than the father.

I think your dd should empty her own bin, or you could do it. I don't think it is fair for your son to do it, regardless of what your husband thinks on the matter. If people have their own bins they should empty them themselves. The reason I am saying you, is because as a mum you know about periods and may be fine with it. Expecting your son to be fine with it is not on IMHO.

I don't think children should see their mum changing her sanitary towels or tampons either. Just because something is a natural bodily function doesn't mean anyone needs to see it.

Bogyface doing a poo is a natural bodily function, doesn't mean everyone wants to see others doing it. Doesn't make one uptight for not wanting to see it.

I opened some new boxes tonight from my face creams.

I collapsed the boxes and left them on the bathroom cabinet top to be taken downstairs in the morning and placed with the recycled cardboard. I keep a box / bag for the cardboard. I cant imagine anyone making work for themsleves in throwing the boxes in the bin and then fishing among sanpro to remove it. It is madness.

I missed the bit where the brother was asked to see the sister menstruating Italian

All I read was that the brother fishes out, of a small bin, a loo roll tube and an empty bottle, which may be touching a sealed bag containing sanpro.

Hardly the same as sitting and watching someone do a shit!

And she isnt expecting her son to be fine with it, he is fine with it. The only person who isnt is the DH who doesnt have any involvement with any of it!

Agree with you Queen.
You finish a loo roll or shampoo bottle, you just leave it aside and take it down to recycling when you go down. Is really not that hard.
I also agree that chores shouldn't be done just for pocket money. Don't agree with this at all. Why shouldn't your DD contribute to the running of the household that she lives in?

Wrt the recycling of loo rolls and other items - why not ask your family members to bring those things to a central recycling bin instead of mingling all discards in the one bin that then has to be gone through manually?

You are not likely to generate a huge amount of recycling compared to rubbish, so why not, on the odd occasion you have an empty shampoo bottle or loo roll to deal with, just bring it to the kitchen?

Then you can just use bin liners and draw the strings tied and bob's your uncle..

'I doubt the kids would go for bringing recycling down each day seen as they can't manage to change a fucking toilet roll! I'm not going to have them chucking stuff out of their bathrooms onto their bedroom floors or the landings as it would literally sit there leaking detritus all over the carpet until DH or I picked it up.'
They need to be chased around until they stop doing this.
Maybe they don't see it as their business if they're not being paid for it?

As an aside, I would personally wonder about any man who openly declared he had some sort of issue with menstrual hygiene products unless they were blocking the drains and inconveniencing everyone. I think if DS is fine emptying the bins then he should continue.

But I think paying pocket money for household chores is a slippery slope. It is clearly not teaching the DCs enough about all pitching in and keeping their home clean.

Adults do not get paid for housework.

Please don't flush tissues down the loo - they, like anything which is not loo paper, contribute to the dreaded fatballs which block sewers!

Bogeyface "I missed the bit where the brother was asked to see the sister menstruating Italian" I did not say that. I said that just because things are natural bodily functions not everyone wants to see them.

Re 2And she isnt expecting her son to be fine with it, he is fine with it. The only person who isnt is the DH who doesnt have any involvement with any of it!" AND the OP came and asked us what we think, and that is what I think, he should not do it.

I don't think I've ever read a thread where quite so many people have had a problem reading and understanding the original post before. And that's saying something on here.

Why can't she empty her own bin when she is on her period.?
simple.