To ask what your age cut off point to have a baby is?

[Mummyyummy2012]

I'm 43 and figure I am probably too old for any more children but deep down in my heart I'd love another...aibu to ask how old you think is too old?

Had PFB at 36, then got upduffed at 38 and it turned out to be TWINS, born a few days after my 39th birthday.

To all those of you considering another baby, just be aware, as I was NOT, that your chances of having twins are much higher if you are between the ages of 35-39, and separately, higher if you are tall.

Getting more than we bargained for is quite the understatement. And they are ALL boys...

I was a late starter, having my first baby at 42. I'm now 45 and we're going to give it another shot. I don't have a hard and fast age cut-off - if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, well, we tried.

We had our first when I was 18. Second at 20 and now have a third who was 1 last week and I was 31.
I've found it much harder being older both with being pregnant and energy compared to the first two times.

As for cut off age I don't know. I swore we'd stop at 2. Now we have the baby I'm considering a 4th so she's not on her own growing up.

What will be will be. 😊

Ideally 35 would be the oldest for health risk reasons, but often life isn't ideal so would say 43 would be the oldest though I personally wouldn't want any more after 40. If you didn't have any however 45 would be the oldest I'd have gone up to I think.

I had DS at 34 and would have liked another within 2-3 years, but never had the opportunity. I separated from DS' dad at 39 and decided that even if I met a new partner, it was definitely the end of that phase of my life.

I am 46 and recently had a hysterectomy and my surgeon asked me if I was sure I didn't want any more DC - obviously from a professional POV he had to ask, but I just could imagine doing any of it now. The thought of having a sixteen year old at 62...not for me!

I just had a baby at 42 and although I don't intend to have any more personally for other reasons I would think 44-45. At least three family members (aunts/nan) had children at this age so I guess in my family it's normal.

Had my first at 21 second and 27 and 3rdvm at 33 , for me my first at 21 was the easiest but if your healthy go for it

Had my first at 26 and fourth (and last) at 42. It's been fabulous. Did briefly think about a fifth, but probably for the best, another wasn't forthcoming!

Btw I hate the daily mail.

As a child of older parents, I wouldn't advise leaving it after 36.

You might think a pregnancy is doable, and no doubt it is, but actually as a child, there isn't very much going on in your teens when your parents are 65plus.
IME there's nothing nice about old parents - mine were fit and healthy until they weren't, one dead, and one needing a lot of help years before any of my friends' parents were even pensioners.

I decided to have my kids early, in my 20s, but that didn't happen (various reasons, including looking after old parents) Had my last at 36, no grand parents able to babysit as they are old or dead. It's not just youself you need to think about. Your kids need parents who can be there for them in later years to give a hand, and have a childhood with.

I'd say 36 as the cut off. Friends who have had their kids older are just wrecked, even years after the tough early years, they look old. You just don't bounce back.
And I feel for their kids who will have old fogeys as parents, and may spend their twenties looking after them, as I did.

Just my perspective. And did I mention I hate the daily mail.

I want them all out of the nest by the time I retire at 60!

I was 39 when i had #4, not unusual in my family at all and that was me done, i didn't start until I was 30, and wouldn't have done it any other way, I'm not concerned about being 60 when my youngest hits 21, not one bit, you don't change your outlook and personality all of a sudden at an arbitrary age. As for the prospect of my kids losing their parents 'early' I lost my dad at 24, he was 48, my cousin lost both of her parents at the age of 8 , when they were 32 and 33, conversely, my gran is 95 and still fairly sprightly, so these things are not predictable in any way.
Nearly every one of our friends who married young and had their kids young are divorced, some of them more than once, all after their youngest left home and they had to deal with each other as adults for the first time

I was 39 when i had #4, not unusual in my family at all and that was me done, i didn't start until I was 30, and wouldn't have done it any other way, I'm not concerned about being 60 when my youngest hits 21, not one bit, you don't change your outlook and personality all of a sudden at an arbitrary age. As for the prospect of my kids losing their parents 'early' I lost my dad at 24, he was 48, my cousin lost both of her parents at the age of 8 , when they were 32 and 33, conversely, my gran is 95 and still fairly sprightly, so these things are not predictable in any way.
Nearly every one of our friends who married young and had their kids young are divorced, some of them more than once, all after their youngest left home and they had to deal with each other as adults for the first time

I was 39 when i had #4, not unusual in my family at all and that was me done, i didn't start until I was 30, and wouldn't have done it any other way, I'm not concerned about being 60 when my youngest hits 21, not one bit, you don't change your outlook and personality all of a sudden at an arbitrary age. As for the prospect of my kids losing their parents 'early' I lost my dad at 24, he was 48, my cousin lost both of her parents at the age of 8 , when they were 32 and 33, conversely, my gran is 95 and still fairly sprightly, so these things are not predictable in any way.
Nearly every one of our friends who married young and had their kids young are divorced, some of them more than once, all after their youngest left home and they had to deal with each other as adults for the first time

I had my first at 19. Second at 23, third at 24, fourth at 32, fifth at 40 and the last at 43. I'm now 54 and would rather be shot than do it again.

Had first at 35, planned a hazy 2nd at 38. Then realised next birthday is 38 😱
So...40? (Or when DD sleeps through the night...)

Had v straightforward pregnancy and birth, but found my altered lifestyle took a long time to get my head around. Had an amazing time in my 20s and early 30s and our careers are well established.
Swings and roundabouts, pros and cons.

I'm 43. first preg with first baby.

Mother Nature didn't play ball with me. 10yrs ttc and finally hit the jackpot with 5th private ivf

Yes I'm older then would have liked to been. Ie early /late 30's but
I'm fit and healthy so yes termed as an older mum but shouldn't have any real problem (hopefully)

I said I wanted 2 children before I was 30, and feel very lucky that I got them
If I hadn't my personal cut off would've been 35
For me having them when I did worked out best for my career even though I ended up a single parent in my early 30s

Im 36 weeks with my second at 23 and i am done. I dont suit pregnancy, i will have one of each and im happy!

Am glad I will still be young enough to enjoy myself when the kids are more independent/leave home.

I had mine at 41 and expect to be the same. I don't understand these smug posts. Your health can knacker up at any time.

I had always said 35 was my cut off. I wanted three, each two years apart. But life doesn't always give you what you'd planned for. So after having DD at 29, we had two miscarriages, then DS was stillborn, then another miscarriage. Suddenly I'm 35 and 10w pregnant. I'm yet to decide, if this one goes well, whether or not to stop at two or get on this emotional rollercoaster again.

there isn't very much going on in your teens when your parents are 65plus. I am a bit stumped by what you mean by this. My recollection of being a teenager is that I had no desire to spend time hanging out with my parents whatever age they were. I pretty much organised my social life and can't think of anything I relied on my parents for at that age that I wouldn't have been able to rely on them for at 65 (money/emotional support/lifts/homemade cake while I was revising for exams).

I am curious what you do mean though, as I am likely to be older (late 50s at least) when DD hits late teens.

I had mine very young. All done by 24th birthday. Loads of energy and 5 under 4 at one time.
I've been chasing my grandkids around aged from 45 and I'm knackered. I think you need to be very physically fit to have kids later on in life. 😁😁

Whenever you are unable or unwilling to have them. I had my first at 37 and had an astonishingly easy pregnancy and was nowhere near ready earlier. My grandmother had her first at 40. I've got friends from school who started at 16 and are 100% done with babies now, and friends only a couple of years older who have gone through menopause.

One of my best friends had her only DC just after I had my last one. She was in her 20s, I was late 30's. She died of cancer before she was 50 - never got to celebrate his 21st never mind enjoy grandchildren. I'm fit and healthy in my 60s. I would be perfectly capable of looking after a baby / toddler. There are no hard and fast rules - and we really don't know what's round the corner, just have to make the best decision we can in the situation we are in!

I'm in my second pregnancy at 37 and this feels so much harder than it did at 32. My body feels much older, more tired and more achey. Definitely not something I could do again.