To ask what your age cut off point to have a baby is?

[Mummyyummy2012]

I'm 43 and figure I am probably too old for any more children but deep down in my heart I'd love another...aibu to ask how old you think is too old?

I had ds1 at 21 and now pg with ds4 at 29 and fingers xd this is it.

It is a long stretch...looking bk. I think you have a baby making period in ur life...and when u reach the end of that period...you just want to wrap it up and get on with bringing them up and stop faffing with nappies and prams.

I had my 3rd at 41 but straight after that, I couldn't imagine having anymore. Me and my hudband are now 47 and I think the sleepless nights would really hit us hard now if the occasional hangover or late night is anything to go by!

Wow, so young! I didn't start until I was 36.

I think it totally depends on how fit and healthy you are, how easy you find pregnancy and what your attitude is to the risk of disability.

I didn't meet my dh until my 30's and we didn't get pregnant for a few years - so my DC were born in our late 30s. I worked right up until the births and was very happy and healthy all the way through. Pregnancy was a doddle for me.

If I'd got pregnant at any point in my 40's it would have been unfortunate from a career POV for me (understatement) but from a medical / health POV then I would have had no worries. Yes, increased risk of disabilities, and that was something we were both aware of and had discussed (we were on the same page with what we would do if that were the case).

The theoretical cut off is going to be a very personal one for each person I think.

Having our first at 31. Wouldn't want to be trying much after 35/36.

It was supposed to be finished at 40 but I love children and babies. We have 5 and I'd love more at 41 but unfortunately my husband couldn't cope and probably my body couldn't either. Started at 27 and have 4 boys, 13,12,12,8 and a little girl 2.

I had my first at 23, second at 27 and thought I was done. New partner and I had our baby at the age of 38. I always thought I was too old for anymore but it's wonderful being a mum again.

Whatever age is best for you! Whilst pregnant with dc2 another mum whose dc went to the same childminder was very vocal about how 'disgusting' it was for women of 40 to be having babies. I was 36, she was 28 and having dc3 having had dc1 at 17, dc2 at 18 and still being single. I then had dc3 4 weeks before my 40th and she has never spoken to me again. I just used to smile when she told me about having children so young as I thought she was happy. No idea why she took such a vocal dislike to me!

I had my first at 36 and second at 37 as I didn't want to leave it longer and find I couldn't have another. I also didn't want to be a mum to a newborn past the age of 40 (I'm 40 in a few weeks' time).

The older the kids get the more I'm glad that the newborn days are behind us! I'm too creaky to start over again!

Had first at 37, second at 39. Now 41 and also pondering another one! There are increased risks etc but I know plenty of women who have had healthy babies well into their forties. A very personal choice well worth mulling over so you can decide and then know whatever happens baby or not that you had a good think about it.

For me it was 40. I sneaked the last one in just in time when I was 39 and a half. I knew I was done after that one.

I'd set a deadline for the first at 28 (before I went it alone), but had one at 31, and one at 35. I'm 38 now, and I'd feel confident about having another if the urge came upon me, I would say that certainly I'd extend it another 5 years and review at that point!

I'm 38 in January. I've got 3 and my youngest is 7. We've decided to try for one more. If it happens it happens. I'm still capable of conceiving as I miscarried earlier this year. It probably won't happen as I've not been too well but I've started taking folic acid, quit alcohol and smoking.

After years of trying for a third I thought I was past it at 41, to my surprise I had a baby boy at 42.

Love him to bits but probably wouldn't do it again, pregnancy was much harder than at 30 and 35 for the other 2

I had dd1 when I was 20 and dd2 when I was 21. I always said id have another two when I was 30 and 31 and do it all over again.
I'm now 29 and there is not a chance I will start again. I'm looking forward to travelling with dh in our late 30s and 40s.
My cut off age has always been 43. Although I think this is a bit old to be having a first baby if you want more than one.

I had ds at 41 and would have loved more but dp realise now was ill. 2 of my friends had another at 46/47.

I had my last at 33 and it was a bit too old. However, that is mainly due to medical problems which progress with age and pregnancy exacerbate. If I was fit and healthy I would say up to 45.

I had my second at 42, 13 years after my first. I have found it very tough. Not least because my ex-h decided that having a baby wasn't for him and buggered off leaving me a single mother of two. My DS is now 5, but has a diagnosis of ASD. This has probably made it a lot harder but in all honesty, it IS tough having a baby beyond 40. I have more patience, definitely, but it is exhausting. With the benefit of experience, I wouldn't have left it beyond late 30's. That's helpful isn't it?!

For me I wouldn't have gone past 35 because I'm a scaredy cat so had my last at 33. But a cousin had her first at 43 after many miscarriages and is doing great, baby is just gorgeous. It just depends on you and your circumstances.

My cut off would be 45. I had my 1st at 31, 2nd at 33 and 3rd at 42. For quite a while after having ds3 I felt broody and considered another and it was finances and space that stopped me not age. However Dh is 16 years older than me and I now have health problems so I'm really glad we stopped at 3 as I would struggle with a pre schooler now.

Mummyyummy can you afford more kids? if so, go for it. There are risks. But I was trying to have a baby at 43 too, but ended up adopting.

It's so personal. Mine personally was 35. Had DD at 28, then unexpected twins at 32 so no more. At 43 I'm knackered and tired but starting to get my life back so the thought of a newborn makes me feel ill. I finally get lie in's.

But if I had struggled with fertility, meeting the one blah blah, there is no age limit. Some of my friends have had their first at 42/43 and they seem a lot more committed to motherhood than me

Probably about 43. But its an individual thing. I had dc2 at 40 and felt quite broody after that, but now the moment has gone for me!! I would consider adopting an older child though.

Don't know - am 35 and thinking I've now only got 5 or so years 'left' to have children, which is a bit worrying.

I had my youngest, now 16, at 39.
For me 40 would be the cut off age.
It's not just about having a baby, it's about having the energy and commitment to raise a child to the age of 18.