Speaking as a man....

[LumpyMcBentface]

'Man here'

'Male opinion'

Please just stop it. Unless your post has something to do with your genitals (in which case probably don't post it) it has no relevance to what you are about to say.

We won't all stop, draw breath, and think 'finally! A man's opinion. We can all stop debating now'.

It just makes you look like a pompous mansplaining tosser.

I have no problem with a man announcing his sex in a thread, sometimes it's the politest thing to do. As long as it isn't followed by something patronizing, or mansplain-y!

I quite like when men self identify, as I know who to ignore. seriously
apart from pigletjohn as his plumbing tips are pretty good I don't think I've read a single post from a man that was in any way edifying.

I've also noticed the I'll ask DH, or my DH says, and that makes me twitch also. I feel like posting, "just because you listen to your DH mansplaining, (and you don't have to btw) doesn't mean we have to endure it too!"

I don't think I've read a single post from a man that was in any way edifying.

How would you know?

I have posted what my partner has said and then I got abuse. It was interesting to read the responses I don't post what he says now.

Urgh it's so annoying when posters say "I showed this thread to DH and he says...."

Like anyone gives a shit what your DH thinks

tibbawyrots

God that reminds me of the woman who couldn't believe I knew what binary is because her husband worked with computers and he said different.

I've never met or heard of a registered electrician who is female, though of course now I've said that a flood of them will appear.

I'm not an electrician, but I have rewired a house and my first proper job was at an electrical wholesaler. I could tell you how to change your light fittings and plug sockets - recently changed one of mine to one with a USB output.

When men post a thread they do get it. That man can't post nothing without at least 1 female poster or maybe 2 giving him abuse. I would say most of the time it is uncalled for. A poster would post are you lost.

That's a bit harsh VR. You must have read dozens of my posts over the years and they've all been extremely illuminating
In my v humble opinion.

And how would you know the dh is mansplaing?

My DP takes the Mickey out of me he reads the headings of what threads I am on. He hates it when I go on his phone to read mumsnet.

While I agree that it shouldn't matter

I think it might be stemming from the fact that if a man on here does not tell people he's giving a mans opinion then some people on thread find out the opinion is from a man or sounds like it's from a man it sometimes can then turn into a but what would you know your a man or other nasty comments which then makes it look like said person was trying to hide the fact they were male.

It doesn't happen all the time but I have seen it happen probably because a lot of people on here just assume posters will be female (for some reason)

My opinion is on most subjects it doesn't have any relevance what a persons sex or gender is to how valid their opinion is.

I would think that sometimes men just feel they are intruding on a conversation between mums and don't want to misrepresent themselves. I never read it that by saying 'man here' they are implying they think it makes them superior or more knowledgable......but then I don't assume that men think that about themselves until they prove that they think that about themselves with their words or behaviour. Saying 'man here' doesn't indicate it. But interesting how many women think that those two words automatically mean the mans intention is to indicate superiority. Is that not a bit sexist?.....

"I've just asked DP" surely again depends on the context.

In a thread about a specific problem where the DP might be qualified then no issue surely?

Re OP:
Maybe some men use that preamble because all "the mums " have spent soooooo long having their say?

Tbh, I think those who think this type of intro is patronising and unwanted, are seeing and taking "offence" where absolutely none is intended.

Does one have to be a "mum" to use this site? No? In that case, anyone may contribute.

It's true pan, I was being a teeny tiny bit harsh.
I'm sure I've read one or two of your posts in the past: can't recall you ever mansplaining, to be fair, but then I can't recall any of them in particular, so I may be mistaken.

Yes Delicate, totally agree, and there are many on MN who make very assertive automatic assumptions that woman = good, man = bad. I thought gender bias against women was the kind of attitude that MN was trying to counter, quite rightly, but merely reversing the direction of the bias is counter productive.

but then I can't recall any of them in particular,

Picked this up on twitter this morning - bloke says:

"A woman asked me what mansplaining meant. I sensed a trap. We've been staring at each other for half an hour, in silence."

Trouble is, all the women on here think all the other posters are women too. So they are just letting you politely know that they are not a woman.

Delicate I agree. I've a relationship with my husband, and although I have others, he's truely my closest friend. He explains some things to me. I explain some things to him... I know, I know, I should probably LTB.

Its called mumsnet though....?

Its called mumsnet though....?

So anyone that isn't a mother should get off the board should they?

Its called mumsnet though...?

This old debate! The strapline says "By parents for parents" and I am sure the founders stated that they thought Mumsnet less of a mouthful than Parentsnet, but were aiming to serve parents. That said, non-parents post here too, and why not?

Of course, I shouldn't say whether I am a man or parent at this point. I'm sure my username gives no clue on that score.

Don't mention you're a man. I mentioned it once, but I think I got away with it all right (with apologies to Basil Fawlty).