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To not want to pay my DH for half my birthday present?

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SapphireSeptember · 07/09/2016 20:27

My birthday was on Monday. My DH was a complete twat for the whole day and ruined it for me, and he didn't get me a present. So when he went to our nearest big shopping centre yesterday to buy some clothes I asked him to get me a few things, to make it up to me. He then comes home with no clothes, a load of expensive crap he didn't need, and the demand that I pay him half because he's now skint. I would like to clarify this is the first thing he has got me in years, he only got a job in April after being unemployed for seven years, and I supported him and paid for everything in that time. Should I demand he pay me half for all the money I spent on him? I cannot believe him, I'm so annoyed with him right now. Angry

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ImperialBlether · 07/09/2016 20:30

Do you mean he bought a load of expensive crap you didn't need?

steppedonlego · 07/09/2016 20:31

You, my dear, have a cocklodger.

ImperialBlether · 07/09/2016 20:31

It sounds like he's horrible. After being supported by you for seven years you'd think he'd give you a lovely day and treat you to something nice, not buy something you don't want and charge you for it!

How did he ruin the day?

Itrytoohard · 07/09/2016 20:31

What was it he got?

honeysucklejasmine · 07/09/2016 20:32

Huh? Did he buy you anything?

JennyOnAPlate · 07/09/2016 20:33

Does he have any redeeming features? You're wasting your life on this man.

ConvincingLiar · 07/09/2016 20:33

What did he buy? Was it for you or for him?

ImperialBlether · 07/09/2016 20:33

I've read this again and wonder why on earth you're with him. There are a lot nicer men around.

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SapphireSeptember · 07/09/2016 20:36

Oh no, he got what I wanted (not expensive, because I have cheap tastes) and I know damn well he could afford it. The stuff he got was expensive and now he says he can't afford the rest of the month. Which is ridiculous.

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JenniferYellowHat1980 · 07/09/2016 20:37

You can do better than that.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 07/09/2016 20:37

I would demand he move out. Sharpish.

MooPointCowsOpinion · 07/09/2016 20:38

Yeah. Cocklodger.

Urgh. He must be so unattractive when he acts like that, it's a wonder you can bare to look at him.

Clickclickclick · 07/09/2016 20:39

Yuk, he's a cocklodger. Get rid.

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SapphireSeptember · 07/09/2016 20:42

I think Iove you!

He ruined my birthday by dragging playground drama with his best friend into it (he's 31, his friend is 18, they act like they're in Primary school!)

I accept that I can do better, I think he's terrified of that but doesn't seem to want to improve. I think he's actually getting worse.

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MsJamieFraser · 07/09/2016 20:44

Well tell him to take his expensive stuff back and then thrown the cock lodger out!

EarthboundMisfit · 07/09/2016 20:45

Wow. Do you have DC?

Original poster
SapphireSeptember · 07/09/2016 20:47

No, no DC, thankfully.

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SapphireSeptember · 07/09/2016 20:48

He'll probably say he can't afford the train fare to take it back.Hmm

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AcrossthePond55 · 07/09/2016 20:52

He bought you what you wanted, BUT expects you to pay for half the crap he bought himself because he spent part of his money on you? So, in essence, he's expecting you to pay for your own gift plus part of his shit.

Oh Good Lord, he needs to be long gone!

TriniRedVelvet · 07/09/2016 20:52

Why is a 31 year old man hanging around with a 18 year old Confused

He hasn't grown up. I would get rid. Not easy I know, but there it is.

Irelephant · 07/09/2016 20:54

That's really shit of him you deserve better. Happy belated birthday op.

EweAreHere · 07/09/2016 20:55

I'd seriously think about ending your relationship. Seriously. Is this how you want the rest of your life to be spent, with someone who only thinks about himself?

And for the love of frogs, please don't have children with this man.

ageingrunner · 07/09/2016 20:55

He's 31 and his best friend is 18? That's unusual. I'd think that that might be a sound that your Dh is rather immature

ageingrunner · 07/09/2016 20:56

A sound?? I meant a sign

QueenLaBeefah · 07/09/2016 20:58

Just dump him.

You know you can do better than him.