My birthday was on Monday. My DH was a complete twat for the whole day and ruined it for me, and he didn't get me a present. So when he went to our nearest big shopping centre yesterday to buy some clothes I asked him to get me a few things, to make it up to me. He then comes home with no clothes, a load of expensive crap he didn't need, and the demand that I pay him half because he's now skint. I would like to clarify this is the first thing he has got me in years, he only got a job in April after being unemployed for seven years, and I supported him and paid for everything in that time. Should I demand he pay me half for all the money I spent on him? I cannot believe him, I'm so annoyed with him right now. 
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SapphireSeptember · 07/09/2016 20:27
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SapphireSeptember ·
08/09/2016 13:03
Answers to people's questions. I've been with him for nearly ten years, it was lovely until he lost his job because of mental health issues. I thought if I waited he'd sort himself out, but he didn't. He's been friends with this person since December, and because of the drama surrounding this friendship the scales have fallen from my eyes and I've realised how awful he can be. I didn't think my self esteem was that bad until I started counselling, which has been really helpful, and I'm at the stage of being able to tell him what I think instead of being worried I'll hurt his feelings, (which sounds pathetic, really.) We're living with his parents at the moment, but we have separate bank accounts. I've been biding my time really, while I get some savings together to get me out of here. I agree with what people have said, I need to leave, I don't want his crap anymore. 
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LyndaNotLinda ·
08/09/2016 10:37
Honestly your life will be much happier without him. You're a cash cow and have been for seven years.
If you want kids, you need to get out of this dead end relationship and find yourself a partner who you can have a proper relationship with - not an overgrown child.
sandy - knitted condom 
Madinche1sea ·
08/09/2016 10:32
This is all very bizarre.
When you said you were supporting him for 7 years, I presumed you must have DC and he was a SAHD. But it turns out you don't have DC, so what on earth was he doing for 7 years?!!
So this man has been supported by you from the age of 34 to 31!!! 
It's no wonder his best friend is 18. Nobody of his own age would relate to him. He's a child.
And what was the playground drama he ruined your birthday with?
OP there is a whole planet full of adult men. Please get yourself rid of this.
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bakeoffcake ·
08/09/2016 08:38
Get rid of him and next year you will have a much happier day 
He sounds a selfish, immature twat.
I also find it rather strange that a man in his 30s has a best friend of 18
. If it's because they are the same level of maturity then that's another excellent reason to LTB.
mostlyslowly ·
08/09/2016 08:17
Trafalgar, that's how it should be done. 
Off topic, but why do women put up with all the crap that some men seem to think is ok. Is it low self esteem?
I'm a bloke and feel bad that people get treated so poorly by others of my gender
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