He has forgotten ...

[PurpleYoyo]

My birthday that is!!! It is today! We are on a holiday with the kids and I understand that it's normal to completely detach from reality, forget what day/ date is etc.
I'm not known to be big on birthdays or to celebrate them properly but I like to be acknowledged. Aibu to be pissed off? Shall I just let it go and remind him tomorrow? He's completely clueless. What would you do?

I can never get my head round the lack of communication in relationships. Do people deliberately not discuss an upcoming birthday just so they can be pissed when it gets forgotten? We talk in our house, so if someone has a birthday approaching it usually gets a mention.

She didnt mention it because he usually remembers. I remember everyone elses birthday, so why on earth should be expected to remind them of mine?

It does hurt when someone who you care about and make a point of remember their birthday, forgets yours. It often isnt about the birthday but about a general lack of thought and care for you. I find too that the ones who forget others birthdays are usually the ones that throw the biggest fits if their own isnt perfect.

In the OPs case, she was surpised he forgot as he never does, it wasnt a "set him up to fail" situation at all.

Happy birthday sorry I forgot to say that first 💐

That now makes no sense as my previous post hasn't posted! 🙈

Get a bottle of champagne and give him the bill saying thanks for my birthday treat 🍾 Happy Birthday 🎂🎉

We talk in our house, so if someone has a birthday approaching it usually gets a mention.

We talk in our house, too, but usually if a birthday is going to be mentioned it will be someone other than the birthday-owner - for instance, to ask what they want, or whether they'd like to go out that day. If it's my birthday I can't really see myself mentioning it in conversation unless it's directly relevant - e.g. just to say that I've taken the day off work that day or something.

Happy Birthday OP!

Get a bottle of champagne and give him the bill saying thanks for my birthday treat If this was me it would mean getting the bottle of champagne, giving him the bill and nothing happening as our funds are 1 lot!

Happy birthday, Purple. My husband forgot mine last year. I was away and the change of routine seemed to do for his memory. The 2 NT children forgot too! I waited 48 hours before I mentioned it ...... On the day i did get texts from my brother and a friend. Here's an extra large piece of cybercake.

(Belated) Happy Birthday, Purple....
I have the kind of O/H who would regularly forget my birthday.... if it wasn't for the fact that it falls the day after his own - and he can't forget our wedding anniversary either as our DD was born that day.....
At least it saves me getting upset every time.

Shameless place mark to find out what he came up with.
Happy birthday OP!

I want to know the result of the "walk with the kids"

Bogeyface he didn't forget her birthday, he didn't know what day is today. Isn't this totally normal?

(I once forgot my own birthday)

Happy Birthday

So how did your evening go? Did he make it up to you?

Hope you've had lots of by now.

I came back from my honeymoon on my birthday. My new husband had forgotten. His face was a picture when the guy on passport control wished me a happy birthday.
I didn't mind- I'm shit with dates and the pressure is well and truly off now.

Hope you had a great day yo-yo.
My friends got married 9/9/99 so he wouldn't forget the date. Every year I have to remind him xxx

My husband forgot my birthday the first two years we were married. He's just scrap at remembering anyone's though. Put on an email reminder or make suggestions of things you could do, or gifts he could buy. I got a great DVD Box set, jewellery and a lovely meal followed by the cinema but I needed to help with the date!

Our daughter was born on 1/1. My husband remembers that, just not the year!

Marking place to see what he came up with!

Happy birthday! Hope he made up for it! The only person I mind missing my bd or Christmas etc is my DH. One Christmas he said 'oh I'm sorry I've been really busy sorry' I was internally livid trying to do the whole it's about the kids!! Was boiling inside as I'm the only person he has to buy at Christmas - I love the Christmas shopping etc! Silently stewing and polishing off some chocs & then the sneaky dog was like 'here come check the turkey' and in the kitchen was something I'd wanted for years!!! So sometimes the surprise can be better than getting the gift when you expect it!

Oh just forget his. Birthdays seem to be more trouble than they are worth.

My DH forgets birthdays, (remembers his though), anniversarys etc.
Has to ask me when our kids were born.
I remind him subtlety when it's my birthday. Not that I want anything apart from acknowledgement. (He knows this)
I also don't sent cards/presents to his family anymore. Told him if he wants to he can. I love my in laws but I don't think it's my job to choose presents/cards for them. I did for a long while. Turned 40 and thought "fuck it"

That's a great story... Men are hilarious. Mine forgot mine once. (Extenuating circumstances - he was working in London for Olympics and I was in Singapore en route to Australia). It was my 40th. I got an iPad for my 41st!
I hope you had a wonderful day and enjoyed stringing him along!

I didn't forget it! I just didn't remember it in the morning

I'm unashamedly nicking that line. I've forgotten my own birthday before, let alone other people's & that will help.