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He has forgotten ...

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PurpleYoyo · 07/09/2016 11:31

My birthday that is!!! It is today! We are on a holiday with the kids and I understand that it's normal to completely detach from reality, forget what day/ date is etc.
I'm not known to be big on birthdays or to celebrate them properly but I like to be acknowledged. Aibu to be pissed off? Shall I just let it go and remind him tomorrow? He's completely clueless. What would you do?
Cake

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Sprinklestar · 07/09/2016 12:07

I'd actually be really hurt by this. It's one date in the whole year and he can't be bothered to make an effort?!

trafalgargal · 07/09/2016 12:21

Happy birthday (it's mine today too)
Are the kids old enough to be primed to prompt him (even if they aren't a few rousing bursts of singing Happy Birthday may be all he needs)

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PurpleYoyo · 07/09/2016 12:24

I don't really know what to expect really. For the 11 years we've been together he's never forgotten my bday. It's always been low key. He's a grand man. I'm actually looking forwards to his "what the fuck it's your bday?" expression on his face when it finally dawns on him. I shall keep you posted. He's completely clueless and I'm rather amused.

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WuTangFlan · 07/09/2016 12:24

I don't follow the logic of not telling him now, to me it seems a bit passive aggressive to stew all day and tell him tomorrow. Tell him now, while he has a chance to sort it out!

flowers Happy birthday! Hope he is suitably mortified when you tell him.

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PurpleYoyo · 07/09/2016 12:25

Thank you for the birthday wishes ya'll Grin

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WuTangFlan · 07/09/2016 12:25

Flower fail! Flowers

ScrambledSmegs · 07/09/2016 12:25

Tell him. And I hope you have a very happy birthday. Thanks

allthecarbs · 07/09/2016 12:26

Happy birthday!
Get him told ASAP and film the look on his face

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PurpleYoyo · 07/09/2016 12:27

Trafal Cake

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MyKingdomForBrie · 07/09/2016 12:28

He should at least have wrapped presents in the case for you though - if he's done that and forgotten the day I'd probably just laugh but if he's clean forgotten even before the holiday I would be hurt I think.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 07/09/2016 12:32

Happy Birthday! Flowers

Are you absolutely sure there's nothing planned for later as a surprise?

I don't understand how people can forget their OH's birthday, I really don't - it's the same date every bloody year!

If he has forgotten, then I think a very special dinner (with champagne obviously) & no expense spared is definitely in order!

ThomasRichard · 07/09/2016 12:34

Happy birthday!

Do update us with what happens when he realises :o

PovertyPain · 07/09/2016 12:37

Are you sure it's your birthday? Have you got today's date right? Wink

BadTasteFlump · 07/09/2016 12:38

I never get how anybody can forget their partner's birthday. Surely people talk about it in the days leading up to it?

Eg: "What do you fancy doing for your birthday next week.."

Happy Birthday btw!

BadTasteFlump · 07/09/2016 12:38

Sorry also meant to say - didn't the fact that your birthday would be during your holiday come up at any point?

DelicatePreciousThing1 · 07/09/2016 12:41

Definitely not being unreasonable. Remind him - people who forget the birthdays of OHs deserve to be made to feel rotten.

NoobThebrave · 07/09/2016 12:42

My DH often forgets things. He leaves for work early and my favourite year was he obviously remembered at work and then came home pretending he had not forgotten while carrying weird gifts from only shop between home and work It is just a day and we say it's a 365 thing, no point being all mushy on Valentine's Day and inert the rest of the year 😂 (He isn't on any but does do occasional non event amazing gifts!)

Have a wonderful birthday :)

DelicatePreciousThing1 · 07/09/2016 12:42

Happy birthday!
Cake Wine

Shodan · 07/09/2016 12:49

I think I'd start by humming a couple of bars of 'Happy Birthday', quite quietly but within earshot.

Then, a bit louder.

Next, half hum half sing 'Happy Birthday hum hum, hum hum birthday to me'

Then a full on 'HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR ME-E, I WANT CAKE FOR MY TEA'.

See how long it takes for the full realisation to spread across his face.

Extra points if he has to 'take a walk', or get something he's 'forgotten'.

SleepDeprivedAndCranky · 07/09/2016 12:53

Just say it. There's no point getting pissed off with him. You are setting him up for a fall if he doesn't know what date it is. Most people don't even know what day of the week it is, when on holiday.

RedSoloCup · 07/09/2016 12:55

My DH needs reminding, he definitely would if we were away on holiday! I just always remind him easier than the soap opera drama (remember Jack Duckworth always forgot lol)......

trafalgargal · 07/09/2016 12:56

Get the kids singing....loudly

Aebj · 07/09/2016 12:59

My dh forgot about my 30th. He hasn't lived it down since!!!!
happy birthday

SillyMoomin · 07/09/2016 13:03

eeeeek. Hoping it's just holiday fun that has pushed it out his head / he's planned an ultra surprise for later!

Happy birthday op

Mouthfulofquiz · 07/09/2016 13:10

I like the idea of singing happy birthday to yourself!!

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