He has forgotten ...

[PurpleYoyo]

My birthday that is!!! It is today! We are on a holiday with the kids and I understand that it's normal to completely detach from reality, forget what day/ date is etc.
I'm not known to be big on birthdays or to celebrate them properly but I like to be acknowledged. Aibu to be pissed off? Shall I just let it go and remind him tomorrow? He's completely clueless. What would you do?

I'd sit at tea tonight with a cupcake for one with a candle in it ....

HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I WISH YOU LOTS OF FREE TEQUILA!

Dropped a few hints like suggesting dinner but he said we could go another day as kids seem tired.

That was the point where you should have said "I suggested TODAY because it is my BIRTHDAY."

Not saying anything makes it look a bit martyrish and deliberately-making-sure-he'll-feel-even-shitter-when-he-does-realise-ish

Are you on a beach?

Write it the sand is mahoosive letters 'Happy Birthday Purple" and then tell him "You won't BELIEVE what someone has written in the sand"

Then you can film him reading it and his face as it dawns on him and post it for our amusement

I would go buy myself a birthday and let him see me sat singing to myself

Birthday cake*

love Marmite's idea!!!

I'd definitely just tell him and get a nice birthday & holiday evening out, out of it.
It wouldn't add anything to my day to make DH feel bad about forgetting.
Though I quite like the drawing something in the sand idea - maybe get the DC to draw a birthday cake with candles?

Ask him if he knows what the date is today?

He checks his phone...

Me: Do you feel relaxed and kinda detached from it all?
Him: yeah, it's nice isn't it?
Me: yeah, just not knowing what month or day it is, you tend to forget...
Him: yeah September's been pretty sunny hey
Me: yeah time flies by, what date are we going back again?
Him: on Monday 12th it's only Wednesday now.
Me: a bit of time left, eh. What date is it?
Him: I don't know... Must be the seventh or something.
Me: Or is it really?
Him: Yes, it's definitely the 7th (looks at phone for confirmation)
Me: Aha, ok.
Silence ... Silence and more silence
Him: Wait! Fuck! Is it your bday? It is! Shit!!
Me: I can't believe you forgot my birthday! (Smiling)
Him: Nah, I didn't forget it! I just didn't remember it in the morning.

He said he's going for a walk with the kids :)

Happy Birthday!

Your dynamic with your DH is adorable. I hope you have a lovely birthday and enjoy the rest of your holiday!

Relationship goals!!
A very happy birthday x

Very sorry, I love my birthday and go on and on about it before it happens. I would simply say "I wonder if there will be lots of cards waiting for me at home for my birthday?"

He will either smile knowingly because there is something coming or look like a rabbit in the headlights. In his shoes I would (Not forget your birthday) but if I did I would head off straight away, with kids (to give you a rest) or without them (speed and agility), and buy the biggest bestest gift I could fine. I do hope you are not on a dessert island! Coconuts are lovely but you can't eat too many!

Don't stew all day and get angry tomorrow, give him a chance to redeem himself.

Happy Birthday and don't wait until the shops shut to drop your hint!!!

I love that! "I didnt forget I just didnt remember this morning!"

:o

Loving that sudden decision to go for a walk with the kids ...

Happy birthday!

I had a conversation very similar to yours earlier with DH. It's our anniversary today which he forgot I won't tell him I only remembered last night and the look on his face when I asked him the date was priceless

You sound like you have a lovely relationship, being on holiday is a good excuse I suppose. Although if he forgets it again next year I suspect you won't be quite as accepting!

Is he back yet? And what did he bring with him?!

I vote that this becomes a daily post about op and her hubby. Daily updates!

Has MN turned into NM? What's with all the twee words?

Am I the only one that doesn't think this is cute or sweet?
You've been with him for eleven years. Your birthday is on the same date every single bloody year!
I can't believe at no point ever did he not realise that -
a - your birthday was approaching and
b - that it would be your birthday while you were on holiday.
I wouldn't be impressed at all.

I can never get my head round the lack of communication in relationships. Do people deliberately not discuss an upcoming birthday just so they can be pissed when it gets forgotten? We talk in our house, so if someone has a birthday approaching it usually gets a mention.

I remind my dp on a daily basis starting about a month before otherwise I would have absolutely no chance!

Oooo, I must be psychic.

puts crystal ball away

🎂🍾 Happy Birthday Purple