To be a bit annoyed?

[MushuDragon]

A friend asked me to look after their DC while both of them had to work.

Now this is from 7:30am-5pm and 40ish miles drive each way. So myself and DC woke at 6 (we are usually up at 5:30 anyway) to get ready and to give us time to get there.

So we set off at 5:55am and arrived only home at 6:30pm.

I asked before this if they would assist with petrol money, which I think is fair enough. They said they would give me £40 as they'd pay more than that for a child minder for those hours on a Saturday.

During my time there, I cared for their 11month old like he was my own, cleaned the kitchen head to foot as it was filthy, the lounge and the bathroom.

This was 2 weeks ago. I was told before I arrived, that when I arrived they would give me the cash so I wasn't short after paying for fuel to get there.

The guy friend said 2 days ago he'd transfer it over that day. Nothing. He then said last night he was just about to do it. Nothing.

I messaged this morning to see how the DC was (as I regularly do) and I've not heard from them all day which is very unusual.

Also 2 days ago they asked me to watch DC next week whilst they both work. I said yes only on the basis that I could get the cash a few days before I come down. They said yes.

So down to my AIBU.

AIBU to feel like they are taking the piss? Expecting me to go act like a child minder and cleaner and use my own cash (to end up short) whilst they both work and both get paid a full days wage whilst having a free child minder?.

I've been £35 short last week due to this. Which isn't much but on a skint week, it adds up.

Aibu?

He's read the message. He hasn't replied.

I think I'm done. I love their DC but I can't allow myself and my DC to have the piss taken out of us.

He still owes the £40 though as that was agreed so he needs to make sure you get that even if you don't babysit again.

I doubt I'll get it.

He's ignored 4 messaged now.

Live and let live. Not going to be taken for a mug again.

I'm disappointed to be honest.

What possessed you to spend all that time cleaning their house for them?

They sound awful to expect so much from you (its not like they brought their child to you or that you live a 5 min stroll away from them) and then ignore your request for the money. You shouldn't have to ask even once.

What will they do in a couple of days when they need more childcare? Silly people. Ignore them for a while and see what happens. Then go back to insisting on the money again. I really wouldn't be agreeing to more childcare again unless you really need the money and see it upfront. I certainly wouldn't be cleaning for them again!

If they are struggling to pay then they should be honest and give you an idea of when they can pay.

Have you sent a final message to say you can't help them?

It's so sad they've jeopardised your friendship this was, they've utterly abused your kindness.

What possessed me?

The kitchen was disgusting and I needed to make meals for the DC. I couldn't do it in that mess. It was filthy with fruit flies all over.

My DD wet herself rather than use their toilet as it was so dirty.

And in the lounge, their DC was picking stuff up and trying to eat it. I couldn't figure out what food it was and considering it had dust on it, I figured it was probably best not to let him eat it.

don't do it next week. they're taking the piss not paying you. let them find out how much they'd have to pay a childminder!
I'd just message saying 'not seen money go in, assume you've sorted childcare for next week, I've now made plans with a friend, transfer £40 for last week asap as you've left me short.'

Did they reply to your text?

OP - you sound a very kind and caring friend.

Your ex friends have taken advantage of your good nature. I hope I am wrong, but I doubt you will see that £40 owed to you.

I remember the first thread.
They are massively taking the piss, don't go

I've had no reply since 9:22pm on Friday 2nd September.

I've sent a total of 4 messages. All been read, but no reply.

Pair of idiots. Is it just the dad you are communicating with?

Post on his page on facebook, so everyone can see it, asking for the money?
Definitely do not do any more "favours" for them, they are massively taking the piss and will continue to do so.

Yeah only him I've messaged. I don't have her number.

Not keen on the putting it on FB idea.

Text them asking what time they want you next week, then could you get them to pay you for last time under the pretense that you need the money for petrol to get to them again? Then cancel one you've got it obviously

So when you arrived to look after their child I'm guessing they just didn't mention the money and you didn't like to ask. Seems they were hoping you just would decide to forget about it. Have you helped them out before?

What day were you supposed to be going back to help them?

Oh, and did they thank you for cleaning all of their mess??

But surely they need to pay you £80? £40 they owe you for the other week, and I would be asking for £40 up front before going back to them again.

Then again, I wouldn't be going back. They're not friends but users. Sorry.

Exactly that hot.

I've now been twice to help them out. Won't be going a third time unless this gets resolved and get paid in advance.

Meant to be going Saturday 10th. And asked to be paid by Wednesday 7th so I can get fuel and ready

God op I remember your first thread about this family.

Don't go back. They are serial users.

Don't go. They have no intention of paying you.

Sounds like there's something not right with your friends. I'd be worried about the child if I was you, and it sounds as if you are. Do you think that they maybe can't pay?

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.

Op if I remember your last thread their poor children are living in squalor. They need so much more help than you could provide and I feel so sorry for the children.
don't let yourself be used.