We used a name to honour my FIL (but changed the spelling) so he is moaning that we might as well not have bothered. Should I change it?

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I'm actually upset/annoyed. My FIL has an okay name (I don't love it, but we used my dad's name for DS1, so didn't mind using it) however both DH and I hate the way his dad's name is spelt, it's a 'unique' spelling.

So we used the original spelling. He is very annoyed claiming it's a completely different name and is giving DH a hard time about him preferring my dad and letting me walk all over him

Now I don't even want to use the blinking name!! WIBU to change the name? (Our son is registered btw)

I can't stand these unique spellings it's plain tacky I can see why you would use the classic orginal like a normal human. ☺

Hahaha Whillyam I have never seen that spelling ever!!

Rebecca cloud - you beat me to the Friends reference - hilarious episode!

Just grin and say "sorry, Willy Ham FIL, you are going to remain unique in that respect" and then talk happily of something else (think of the something else now so you're not caught on the hop at the time).

The spelling he uses is bizarre to say the least

I wouldn't stand any nonsense - tell him there is no way your son's name will be spelled Whillyam and if he keeps going on you about it you will change it so none of your children will be named after him.

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Just change it to something completely different because he'll clearly just hold it against you forever if you name him William. And don't, whatever you do, name him Whillyam. That's a completely unnecessary burden to place on a little boy.

Personally, I would go with something like Ahliksander? Or how about Ehdword?

I think it is the first name tho!

Yabu to use a name you don't like. Pick a new name and use Willy Ham for the middle name, keeping unique spelling.

Natalie Or perhaps a nice normal name like Elwould or Peater?

He spells it Whillyam.

Oh good lord, OP this is a wind up, isn't it? Who could be so - well ... I can't think of a word - as to misspell a perfectly sensible classic name such as "William"

Tell your FiL to do one.

Or just rise above it. This is the most YANBU that I have ever seen in AIBU.

He spells it Whillyam

He does NOT! No way?

Blimey. Stick to your chosen spelling, OP.

No, he really does...

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Thanks all, will have a proper read when I finally get to sit down

It looks like his surname also starts with a W. Is his full name actually Whillyam Wallace? And that's why his folks went with that spelling? Go on. Say it's so!

My advice - use the William name in the middle and call your child something else entirely - like someone upthread suggested "It's William but spelled K.E.V.I.N or D.A.V.E or P.E.T.E.R" but don't use William as his main name.

Walliam? As in David W who IIRC had to use that because there was already a comic David Williams? Clutching at straws ... FIL is being a bit of a nob, isn't he?

You did the right thing..you changed what will, by some ,thoughout a life be considered a "chav" spelling that will be made fun of (I see this every day..) to a spelling that will not load problems onto your son.

MaudGonneMad... Creased me with that Will.I.Am comment haha

With that attitude I'd be changing the name to something I liked and not bothered with any naming after family members, he doesn't appreciate the gesture so what's the point?

William is a great name! If FIL is called Will'Yam or Wylleeyumm then I would have changed it too.

Oo that's a nasty spelling. I'd change DS's name to something completely different toot sweet in your situation.

I don't think that the problem is the name - the problem is the manners!

I've seen some weird spellings of names (Chole for Chloe anyone?!) but that one takes the biscuit.

I would go for the more conventional spelling myself - it's still the same name. (I had a kid on my books once with the Irish spelling of Ewan (Eoghain) - caused no end of problems, and that isn't a stupid spelling, just Gaelic). Don't get me started on the Kryztofers and Shardonees of this world . . .