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To ask what embarrasses you about yourself?

205 replies

anahata · 03/09/2016 13:20

Mine is that I badly bite my nails, but are too ashamed and embarrassed to show then to anyone such as a hypnotherapist to ask for help.

Anyone else?

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MouseholeCat · 04/09/2016 18:50

My dyslexia and dyspraxia- diagnosed late and had some horrible school experiences that wouldn't have happened if school had listened and assessed me rather than dismissing concerns as I was too bright. As a result, when my difficulties show I feel cripplingly ashamed.

I also get quite extreme mood swings, anxiety and depression. Not something most people see, but I feel very embarrassed about some of the situations DH has had to witness.

mamaduckbone · 04/09/2016 19:00

My wrinkly forehead. I have a high forehead and I'm quite expressive when I talk. I look longingly at other people's smooth heads. I can't have a fringe either because my hair grows with an enormous cowlick.

Gothgirl78 · 04/09/2016 19:17

I drink too much , I'm fat and my house is a mess.

MaisieDotes · 04/09/2016 19:26

lastrose keep going Star

Witchend · 04/09/2016 19:55

House is a mess. I'm not a good tidier and dh is worse. But whenever I put the effort in I never seem to make progress.
I've just spent the last five hours trying to clear our room.
I've put 2 bags of rubbish out. I have 4 bags for the charity shop (bedding and clothes and toys). I have 3 bags for the loft. And 2 bags to pass on stuff to friends.
And the room still looks well stirred.
It's now time to get the children to bed, so I'm going to end up shoving the stuff to one side.

The odd thing is I also know where everything us. I rarely lost anything.
But it really does feel why do I ever bother.
I hate people coming round because I feel they're judging me.

I occasionally dream of just picking up and dumping the whole lot. But I sort through it and we do genuinely use the stuff. I think part of the problem is that we don't have enough cupboard space. Or bookshelf space. Although we do have too many books.

Olddear · 04/09/2016 19:56

WingsofNylon why would you say that about yourself? I'm so sorry you feel like that!

GingerbreadGingerbread · 04/09/2016 20:34

My jealousy
My need to feel the best at things and if I don't the crashing anxiety and bitterness I feel
I'm trying really hard to work on it

thissismyusername · 04/09/2016 20:35

terrible posture, imposter syndrome, my inability to receive a compliment without bursting into tears, no friends, hate my job but unable to see myself achieving anything different.

Much like many others on this thread.

Karlakitten1 · 04/09/2016 20:36

Thumb sucker, with a blanket, aged 31! Weird, I know! DH gave up trying to make me part with the blanket and got one himself instead. Grin

porridge90 · 04/09/2016 20:40

My snoring, my weight (causes the snoring I think!), my gurgley throat, my feet, my ginger hair, my paleness, my inability to think before speaking, being unable to drive... I could go on and on. I'm a fixer upper!

Pardonwhat · 04/09/2016 20:46

My nose. I feel like it holds me back in many ways and I'm always conscious of that I'm not sure whether people are laughing at it or not.

WingsofNylon · 04/09/2016 20:55

Olddear it is just how I feel. This is only the second time I have articulated it so clearly. The first was to a therapist who was very kind about it but we never touched on it again as we had bigger issues to tackle.

Beardsareweird · 04/09/2016 20:59

The crap state of my house.

CastielsClevererBetterSister · 04/09/2016 21:15

My beard (not a few hairs I have a goatee if I leave it ...oh and I'm a woman just for clarity) I'm fat, untidy, I'm quite masculine, I'm not pretty.

fluffiphlox · 04/09/2016 21:30

Well I mentioned my bunions earlier and I suppose I could have them fixed if I wanted to lay myself up for weeks. I think many of these things of which we complain are actually fixable if we were really that embarrassed. I don't mean the medical conditions but some of the other things like teeth etc are. (I have a couple of veneers that are older than the dental nurse!). Or a tidy house or a loud voice or weight (again, medical conditions notwithstanding).

ThirdTimeLuck · 04/09/2016 21:31

My weight. I'm 4 stone overweight and everything is on the floor. I look disgusting.

My teeth, my mouth is overcrowded on the bottom and I have a huge gap at the top. My dentist just didn't do anything when I was a child, my mother never enquired and now I'm too skint to do anything about it.

I have huge social anxiety as a result, before I was overweight I felt fairly comfortable in my own skin but now I'm obese I don't have that. My top lip is short which means I can't hide my teeth.

nooddsocksforme · 04/09/2016 21:32

lastrose your body sounds like its the same as many other women I have always thought there were bodies that wrer universally admired- but not any that are universally derided . I don't like my legs but accept that if someone likes me that's not going to matter to them -even tho they might comment . Please try to be easier on yourself

YourNewspaperIsShit · 04/09/2016 21:45

My house. I'm a hoarder and don't clean well at the best of times. I do as much as I can but I'm scared of my kids ever asking to bring a friend round because I'd have to say no Sad

YourNewspaperIsShit · 04/09/2016 21:46

Oh and I don't have any friends Sad Which I struggle with a lot at the minute

TheLastRoseOfSummer · 04/09/2016 21:50

nooddsocksforme You only have to look at instagram or news pages etc featuring women who are 'curvy' in the way that I am and the comments are 90+% critical.

I can't take the risk of being with someone in real life who also feels like that, even if they are too polite to say anything. I can't accept that someone could like me and it not matter to them. In fact, I can't even get my head round it as a possibility.

WetPaint4 · 04/09/2016 21:58

My hair. I want long gorgeous healthy hair, but mine is none of those things. My facial moles, I have tens of them. My huge nose. Wonky lips. Huge boobs. Stretchmarks. Long feet. I'm massively obese. I'm awkward in social situations. Sometimes when I laugh, stuff comes out of my nose.

Damn I'm sexy Grin

Elendon · 04/09/2016 22:51

My lack of a profession. I did a degree that was fit for entry to be a personal assistant, which I did for 8 years before children BC. I can't go back to that now.

pillowaddict · 04/09/2016 22:55

My weight, social anxiety, parenting skills and occasional smoking habit. And my behaviour when drunk.

Ringadingdingdong22 · 04/09/2016 23:00

How absolutely thick I am when it comes to anything mathematical. It cripples me if someone asks me to work out something even simple. I'd love to look for another job but I'm scared I'd have to tell the truth about my maths GCSE.

My habit of over sharing. Need to remember to just think it not actually blurt it out.

369thegoosedrankwine · 04/09/2016 23:33

I am so clumsy. I honestly can't help it. I have bruises on my thighs from walking into things and trip over pebbles. I also drop pens etc... a lot.