To ask what embarrasses you about yourself?

[anahata]

Mine is that I badly bite my nails, but are too ashamed and embarrassed to show then to anyone such as a hypnotherapist to ask for help.

Anyone else?

Sucking my thumb and going to AA meetings (not both at the same time though. That really might be embarrassing).

My forearms. A single episode of self harm as a teen (20 years ago) resulted in a lot of obvious scarring. I still get caught out every summer by at least one or two comments that catch me off guard and make me feel tongue-tied and panicky. For a professional and capable working mum that never fails to make me cringe and want the ground to open up.

My terrible hot temper when I see red and basically lose the plot. It makes me loathe myself but I have tried everything to stop it happening.

My tongue.

It can sometimes be rather too sharp for my own good. What may be intended as mild disagreement, polite assertiveness, or a simple difference of opinion can sometimes come across as patronising condescension or sarcasm.

It is in part a product of my education, and I'm aware I sometimes need to bite my tongue rather than use it to belittle others.

My inability to make friends. According to actual friends and family I'm funny and kind. But when I meet new people I make a tit out of myself and can see their attention literally draining from their eyes. Thought ADs would help but nope the anxiety is crippling

I have a spotty bum and no matter how much I shower, scrub and use different lotions, it won't bloody go away .

When people stare at me like some kind of freak because I have self injury scars. I mostly feel embarrassed for their ignorance.

I'm fat. I have two kids with autism and feel people judge me. I'm terrible with people and very shy. I don't have many sociable hobbies and I'm generally a bit of a loser.

Mines is my lady area! I just don't know how to trim it to make it presentable so i never have 😳

When I am stressed I subconsciously scratch my arms with my fingers or anything I am holding - it's not on purpose it's just a reaction to stress like biting your nails or something! But my arms are scarred and red and it's shameful I HATE it.

I avoid doctors appointments etc because they always ask to do my blood pressure (I take blood pressure tablets) and then ask wtf happened to my arms - I can't face discussing it anymore!

Oh so many things. My upper arms are fat even when I'm slim, but at my current classification of obese class 2 I just think they look like big broad slabs of corned beef. They're blotchy and ugly and no amount of exfoliating or moisturising or scrubbing or tanning improves them.

But I am quite embarrassed about my strabismic left eye - its pulled inwards. It's becoming more noticeable as I get older, and I found out today that it can never be corrected. I can't really even wear contacts any more, not without looking boss eyed.

Teeth which are disintegrating.

Fat.

Hairy chin.

Posh voice (I'm not posh)

The way I completely fucked up my career and now have nothing to look forward to in life.

I have the biggest ass in the universe. It does not matter how long I ride the bike or walk on the treadmill, my backside is jumbo. It really is, people have commented on it. :(

My shit teeth - not too visibly bad but the inside of my mouth feels like a disaster zone and indeed is. Gaps, fillings and sore.

My posture, it is completely crap...

My front garden. The lawns overgrown and the plants I put in are dead.

My messy old car.

Not a lot else. I've come to terms with my personality, my nose, my failed career etc

My hideous belly. I'm ok with being a bit overweight, I just wish I was in proportion. My belly is huge in comparison with the rest of me.

My self-doubt that jumps up and puts me down even when others aren't. It makes me a different person than I really am and I have to actively try to stop it most days.

It reminds me I should/could be different and I would be happier (funnier, smarter, thinner). It causes embarrassment as at times it makes me feel that others don't like me and I can go for periods of time not talking beyond very basic answers. Afterwards I realise I've come across as cold and stuffy.

I have hidradenitis and have abcesses that are so painful and leave scars that I'm embarrassed about. They're on my boobs and fanjo so I won't let me husband see me naked, and feel so ashamed that I'm scared to have sex.
I comfort eat because I'm so depressed about it and I've put on loads of weight which I'm also embarrassed about.
It's such a vicious circle and I can't see a way to get out of it.

I'm embarrassed that my past two relationships have ended with my exp cheating so I must be a shit girlfriend . I also manage to spill food down my clothes every time I eat. for you beautiful people on this thread.

My hairiness - I'm like a gorilla, hairy toes and fingers and stomach and back and chin etc etc
My weight - fat and frumpy
My small eyes
My nails - I bite them but even if I didn't they turn upwards
My jealousy
The fact that we rent and probably will never be able to buy
The fact that I dropped out of uni and until recently spent 7 years as a waitress even though I used to belong to Mensa.
The state of my car
The state of my house - too embarrassed to invite people in as its so shabby. Sofas are ancient cheap Ikea jobs with big rips in the covers now.

Fat, ugly and a bit of a gobshite.
I'm addressing the fat part so hopefully I'll soon just be ugly and gobby

Agoraphobic and chronic problems with anxiety. I don't want to be noticed, I want to be invisible but ...
I am almost bald. I have crooked as sin teeth. My forehead is huge. I have inherited very masculine features. I'm obese. I use crutches and even with them can barely walk. I have really really bad hyperhidrosis and I've considered ending my life over this because I cannot stand the stares or comments anymore. it's very shit being so ostentatious when you want to be invisible.

I would never and have never judged anybody else by my own standards and agree with a pp that people probably don't think about how we all look as much as we think they do.

sleepflower43 that condition always looks so painful. It must be horrific. Is there anything you can do for it?

AdmiralData You are right, I never judge anyone by the same standards I hold myself to.

MaiseDotes and nooddsocksforme My hips are quite large and my bum is round. My current measurements are 39-30-41. I think I look ok from the front (apart from fat upper thighs) but not the side/back. The things people say about famous women who have similar figures all apply to me; "gross", "deformed", "disgusting", "grotesque"... My mother used to criticise my figure from being a pre teen until I last saw her a few years ago and other people have commented, so I know it's not just me. I feel unworthy and I've had shit relationships due to my low self esteem because of it/because decent men can attract someone better. I always assume that men who are attracted to me have issues themselves and don't think they deserve more. I feel ashamed on behalf of anyone I go out with because I don't want other people to see them and think I'm the best they can do. So I've decided to stay single. My figure isn't any less offensive, but at least no one sees it now and I don't have to feel guilty for not being good enough.

the fact that I am still in my awful marriage - my friends must despair of me

Everything :(