To ask what embarrasses you about yourself?

[anahata]

Mine is that I badly bite my nails, but are too ashamed and embarrassed to show then to anyone such as a hypnotherapist to ask for help.

Anyone else?

My messiness and disorganisation mainly. I wish I was a clean, tidy, organised person.

Used to be my teeth, but I went to the dentist last year after many years avoiding it because of fear. My teeth are still very crooked, but at least now I know they're healthy, so I feel better about them.

Now, probably my scars. I used to self-injure, 10+ years ago. I'm in a much better mental state now, but wouldn't want anyone I didn't know well and trust to see my arms or legs.

Everything. I have social anxiety so am a big ball of embarrassed and ashamed of how I may be judged negatively. I'm hoping to get back into work after years at home, I feel so embarrassed and worthless but that's more of a reflection of the values of our society/the media - the less money you earn the less respect you deserve. I can't shake that feeling despite knowing I've done plenty of worthwhile stuff while not in paid employment and its self funded. I also look younger so people are surprised I have a good degree, previous exciting career and plenty of travel etc pre kids. I am a bit younger than the local average anyway so a total misfit.

Nothing. I am not perfect but perfection is boring. I'm not going to go through life with the hand brake on just because I have a few flaws. People can say what they like, I can't be arsed to care!

In ability to grow a spine face to face. I never speak up for myself if someone disagrees with me for fear of upsetting them. When I do, I feel good about myself for a few minutes and then the obsessing over what I said and if it was ok and if they now think I'm a twat etc (even if I didn't particularly like them in the first place, so why would it matter?) I wish I could have more conviction in expressing myself!

My horrible teeth. They used to be perfect, not yellow, perfectly straight, no gaps, no fillings. They were lovely. Then my wisdom teeth came in when I was a teenager and they were too sore to brush- they overcrowded my whole bottom jaw so all my nice straight teeth now overlap and are impossible to clean properly. Because of this I ended up with him disease which made it agony to clean them and it's just getting worse. There's a big tartar build up that the dentist got rig of for me but said he will not pully wisdom teeth until my gums are healed. But it's too sore to get into all the crevices that are now there and it's a vicious circle.

I also don't like that I'm 11stone and only 4ft10, and have astigmatism so get a wandering eye when I'm tired.

For all of those flaws though dp seems think I'm a bit alright so I'm happy as long as don't look too long in the mirror

Sorry for awful autocorrects on a phone with a cracked screen. Oh there's another one. I'm terminally clumsy :(

• Weight

• General social anxiety, I remain convinced nobody likes me. I am actually nice and inoffensive. I don't admit this to anyone.

• I am clever and I try not to be too clever around people because they comment and it becomes awkward. This sounds wanky, but I mean in terms of general knowledge, e.g. quizzes etc I can do quite well but sometimes I pretend I don't know the answer so it doesn't look like I'm showing off.

I could go on for hours, honestly.

That I'm single and my best friend is a dog.

I fart a lot

I'm fat. I have been all my life and also very unfit.

I got a Fitbit Flex last year and since then I've lost just over 3 stone.

I'm still obese and now I've got loose skin.

I have a couple of skin conditions which make me look like I'm covered in spots and goosebumps and with the excess skin I'm finding it hard to look at myself in the mirror.

My body shape.

It doesn't matter how big I am (10/12 at smallest and only a 14 now) or how toned/fit/well dress I am, my body shape is one that is universally reviled and mocked and derided.

I'm single.

I plan to stay that way because then it won't ever be an issue again.

I am unable to wear shoes

Well I could make a list - but in the main it is the eczema from head to foot. Last year really bad on the face - that is a bit more under control.

When really bad, clothes get blood stained, so I tend to have to wear two layers at work when it is still a bit too hot to.

Objectively, general body shape not too bad - but still a bit embarrassed when the warm weather comes round. Manage to wear shorts and tshirts much more than in my 20s. Guess that's part of being over 40 and able to say bollocks to things.

I have a pronounced limp: it's improving a little, but I feel very self- conscious of it.
This thread makes for sad reading: lots of probably lovely people, but all feeling some loss of self- worth.

OP, I used to bite my nails - for a long long time and was embarrassed too.

I have two hints:
1). Buy a little bottle of Mavala nail hardener. It is amazing miracle stuff that gets absorbed into your nails, strengthens them and then somehow allows you not to bite them.
2). If you need to go for a job interview/ wedding/
Occasion of any sort and you haven't managed to grow them in time, get a full set of acrylics done. It gives you back that confidence.

The Mavala really helps though. I couldn't recommend it more strongly !

My big thing is that I go red when under pressure. It might be appealing in a young girl, but it looks atrocious in a fifty year old supposedly mature and experienced woman

I'm not embarrassed that I have 9 kids but people can make you feel that way about having them sometimes.

I'm too embarrassed to talk about my mental health to anyone, even a doctor.

I'm embarrassed by my obesity.

I hate my lips. They are so thin and awful and I think my face would look so much better if I had fuller lips.
Lip fillers are so expensive though!
I feel like in photos when I smile I just don't have lips at all

Oh and I would love a boob job but that's unlikley also.

I opened this thread thinking I wasn't embarrassed by myself at all, but now I'm embarrassed about everything.

My teeth, they are wonky and a bit yellow, but i can't afford to have braces to fix the wonkiness, and I don't like visiting the dentist. I just keep my mouth shut when I smile.

My weight, but I'm doing something about it. I lost 12 lbs in the past month, so now I "only" have 4 stone to lose in order to get into the healthy weight range. I'll get there, slowly and surely, I'm not giving up this time.

My house. It's a tip, even though I've spent days this holiday decluttering it's barely touched the surface. I'll do some more at half term.

My horrible knobbly old lady hands. Wrinkly and dry from too much gardening without gloves and swollen knuckles from rheumatoid arthritis.

The fact that I'm 5 ft 2 and fat. I actually feel ashamed to be seen sometimes as I used to be OK - not slim but not fat either. If I have to go to a formal event, I agonise over what to wear, spend a shit load of money on an outfit and still look terrible.

I wear clothes not because the look nice or I feel good in them but because they cover my fat stomach (I say stomach but I mean the whole space between my vagina and my boobs, it's gross)

As you can tell, I have really high self esteem!

My teeth. They are probably the worst you've ever seen. And the fact I go for a wee 'just in case' about 10 times if I'm about to go somewhere without a loo.

My anxiety issues, my shyness, social awkwardness.

I obsessively pick and bite the skin around my nails when I'm anxious all the fucking time which I think is called dermotilomania (sp?).

If I'm nervous/overexcited when talking to someone, I will interrupt them or talk over them. I know I'm doing it but can't stop.

My accent embarrasses me sometimes (East London). It doesn't fit in with where I live now and DH's family will rib me for it. Also when at work if I'm talking to someone "posh" I feel incredibly self conscious because I sound like I should be in eastenders!

for you all.