To ask what embarrasses you about yourself?

[anahata]

Mine is that I badly bite my nails, but are too ashamed and embarrassed to show then to anyone such as a hypnotherapist to ask for help.

Anyone else?

Like many others, my embarrassment embarrasses me and inhibits me in front of large groups.

I grew up on an awful housing estate in the north side of Glasgow, regularly featuring in those 'worst places to live in Europe' lists. I escaped by getting a degree, and "marrying well" as my granny would say

I now live hundreds of miles away, in a fairly affluent area of England, but I can't shake off the feeling that I'm somehow an imposter and that I don't belong here. I dread the question of where I come from, and hope that the vague answer of 'Glasgow' is enough. I so want to be proud of my roots, but can't stop thinking that I come across as being rough as a badgers arse compared to the people I now come into contact with.

My voice

I always have a sweaty top lip . How awful is that

annhatter spend some money on a set of nail extensions, they are wonderful. I've had scabby fingers all my life , bitten , broken, tearing at the edges, generally awful. I had these done a few months ago on a cheap offer & they are practically indestructible, I can't believe how tough they are. They felt a bit odd at first but you soon get used to them. If you have the cash to spare go for it. They need filling , repainting every 2-3 weeks but are totally worth it.

My hairy chin - I am a woman.

And my voice. It's all quavery and makes me sound stupid.

anahata mistyped your name sorry

I'm hairy. When I was at school it was about the time the spice girls were popular and girls at school would wear very skimpy outfits at the weekend but I was to hairy to wear anything like that. I wouldn't even wear shorts in the summer and my parents just thought I was weird. I'm pregnant and my belly is covered in hair. More so than usual. Midwife listened to baby's heart the other week and I just had to pretend it wasn't there.

Hairy chin and I fart. A lot. Makes working in an office difficult (the farting, not the hairy chin).

Physically - my flat chest, my spotty skin which makes me look like a hormonal teenager but somehow still old and haggard! I'm also conscious of being very short and the fact that my hair is thinning.

Probably what embarrasses me most about myself is the fact that I'm 35 and haven't had a meaningful job for more than a year. I have very few useful skills and my hotch potch CV of different jobs I've done since I graduated (mainly to accommodate my family) - secondary teacher, HR assistant, fast food restaurant worker (that was a desperate few months) carer, music teacher... makes me virtually unemployable. What I actually wanted to do was be an actor but now I'm too old to train in that area I love my family to bits but being a SAHM just doing odd jobs for the past decade has left me pretty depressed and feeling that once my children grow up I will have nothing to do and no worthwhile contribution to make. I get so embarrassed every time someone asks what I do.

My weight.

My voice, on the phone I sound like a child.

More perplexes me than embarrasses me: people have a very different view of me than I have of myself. I feel awkward, anxious and panicky a lot of the time yet others find me confident and outgoing. A friend said to me once that she wished she could be like me, I asked what she meant. She said I walk into a room like I have every right to be there but that's not how it feels to me at all . Another friend told me I have a gift of being able to bring people in a room together. I feel like I gibber nonsense all the time and people gather to watch as they would a performing seal .

My weight is bang in the middle of the healthy BMI range. I lost 3 stone 3 years ago. But now I am left with horrid overhang and stretch marks

My size. I've had a bit of a revelation this last couple of weeks and I'm going to change it but it's what embarrasses me daily.

I talk too much and always realise what I should have asked the other person later and then think what an arse I am. Wonder if it is something to do with having an AS parent so rambling on pretty normal when I was growing up. Or maybe am just an arse.

belly there was a girl in my DD's year with size 12 feet.

This was two years ago when they were 13 year olds. The girl in question has since moved to another school so I don't know whether her feet have grown any more or not.

I am always late because I have agoraphobia and find it hard to leave my house.
I am awkward and clumsy and frequently babble on with irrelevant chatter.
My teeth are wonky and stained. My skin is very very pale and I have very thin hair.

I'm a huge narcissist

Oh I forgot my thin hair. Hate hate hate it.

My weight.
My teeth - they look absolutely fine to anyone seeing, but I need some major work doing at the back, including one that has been cracked in half for so long I actually don't want to admit it on here.
I feel like I often say stupid things in real life and wish I didn't!

I've a couple of small raised moles on my face, one on side of face and one on chin, they make me self conscious, silly really!

I have a habit when nervous of stating the bleedin obvious
I am very boring (I am in awe of some of the posts on mumsnet threads)
I have very chunky legs which I have always hated - altho now I am in my fifties it doesn't matter so much . Thelastrose-not sure what body type you feel is universally reviled cos ive always felt having fat dumpy legs is the worst thing
Rainy- I say many stupid things

I have loads of physical flaws and things but I'm not embarrassed by them as such.

I'm embarrassed by my idiotic behaviour in the past and the situations I allowed myself to get into and the things I have lost as a result.

lastrose I can't think of a body type that's "universally reviled". Is there really one?

So much self-loathing on this thread. Does anyone think that weight issues/ crooked teeth/ big nose etc are reasons for others to be embarrassed? Of course not. Why are we all so hard on ourselves

My morbid obesity.

My gross gross morbid obesity which is all my fault.

My fault.

That I don't have any friends.

I'm not socially awkward or anything, people generally seem to like me and I find it easy to talk to people. It's just the way things seem to have worked out.

I moved to a different area in my mid twenties due to work which meant that I drifted from many of my close friends from school/uni and it was hard to make new friends as I was working very unsocial hours. My Best Friend moved to the states three years ago so we only see each other about once a year now. I have lots of acquaintances and work colleagues that I am 'friendly' with but we don't socialise outside of work. I get on well with all of DH's friends and their partners, I am very fond of some of them, but they are more his friends than mine.

When I became pregnant I was hopeful about the prospect of 'mum friend's between DD ending up in SCBU, endless problems with BF and PND, I didn't make it to many mum and baby groups, the local childrens centre etc. initially and by the time I did all the friendship groups seemed established.

I realise I'm lucky in many ways. I have a lovely DH, a beautiful DD and am very close to my family. But I do get embarrassed as I seem to be the only women of my age (early 30's) I know who doesn't have a close-knit group of female friends and it makes me feel a bit pathetic.

FindoGask I've sent you a DM - I have the same thing and just found something that helps. Finally!

This thread makes me so sad. All you lovely women feeling such a load of shame. I'm not excluding myself - there's not much I actually like about myself - but I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Love to all x