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Update on Entitles Neighbour

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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 14:52

I don't know how to link to it or find it, but my neighbour basically said she couldn't help me/DH out with a hospital appointment (long time in advance), but then asked me to have her dog (no notice), a few days after surgery.

Haven't seen her since, or heard the dog (Caramel) in the back garden.

She just pulled into her drive as I was pulling in after picking up my DD.

I didn't say anything but she was very icy and said "He's had to go to kennels" and then as she went in through her front door she said "I'm finding this very difficult".

Confused
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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 14:54

That should be entitled. I suppose. Blush. I'm a few sandwiches short of a picnic at the moment.

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ElspethFlashman · 02/09/2016 14:55

OMG!

I remember your thread. God, she's a card that one.

Remind me where she was going without the dog again?

BankWadger · 02/09/2016 14:56

Poor didums (her not you)

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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 14:56

She didn't say at the time, but I assumed she was going for another bonk fest with Mr Rich.
Bloody long bonk if she was.

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PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 02/09/2016 14:57

I didn't read the first thread but want to know the back story Grin

FlyingElbows · 02/09/2016 14:59

Oh no, we must know how this terrible trauma came about!

GiddyOnZackHunt · 02/09/2016 14:59

I remember. Silly woman.
Hope you're on the road to recovery.

RachelRagged · 02/09/2016 15:00

Lol She sounds dramatic

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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 15:03

My Neighbour..... we look after the dog, take deliveries, taxi her children around when she disappears, DH has cut her trees, garden for her. etc. etc.etc.
We had a hospital appointment (maybe), and DH had an important meeting that it would have been great if he could make, so we asked if she would mind as a last resort taking me to it. She said no.

Few days after surgery she turned up at the door with her dog. No notice, and asked me to look after it.
Hadn't had a note, card anything off her since the diagnosis.

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Planty18 · 02/09/2016 15:06

Wow, she is unbelievably self absorbed! I hope you just looked at her in silence and went on with your day - and also hope that you are feeling better, what a strange woman she is.

FrancisCrawford · 02/09/2016 15:10

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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 15:11

I stood their like a muppet, and didn't say a word. I'm still somewhat confused as to what exactly she's finding difficult and neither of us can work out what it means Grin
She's like Mata Hari, an absolute enigma.

On the mend thank you, but they didn't get good margins so they're doing it all over again in a fortnights's time. Which is a bit of a bitch.

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skyyequake · 02/09/2016 15:17

Hope you get/feel better soon Flowers
Tbh she sounds like a bit of a loon! I think you should just be glad she's upset with you and keep hoping she'll decide not to talk to you anymore!

AlpacaPicnic · 02/09/2016 15:26

OMFG, sh'es a massive entitled twat! I remember you mentioning her before - weren't you post surgery for Cancer? If she wants difficult, I'll come round and give her fucking difficult Angry

Flowers and Halo and Brew for you though...

diddl · 02/09/2016 15:29

What did you say when she turned up at the door with the dog?

Why did she think that you would just do it??

carabos · 02/09/2016 15:30

She's finding it very difficult that you are inconsiderately seriously ill. She's so entitled that she can't get past what it means for her.

I had a friend like this. When a long-married couple in the friendship group separated, she was furious with them for not thinking about the consequences for her social life. She was serious.

Abraiid2 · 02/09/2016 15:31

One reason I left was the Anglican married priests business. I tried to explain to my then teenager daughter why they had left the CoE and she said something about what are we having these men who also believe we are unfit to be priests in the Catholic Church, then?

Those I know are lovely but tend to have large families and very traditional wives. I am not sure they would particularly understand my life as a woman who doesn't just want to look after the family.

Abraiid2 · 02/09/2016 15:31

Aargh! Wrong thread. Sorry,

Squeegle · 02/09/2016 15:36

abrraiid that just made me laugh so much. Out of context it is very amusing. I can't imagine what you're talking about 😺

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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 15:37

Don't worry Abraiid. Throw in a couple of priests and lets make a party out of it Grin
Yes it was post cancer surgery Alpaca (she knew about the diagnosis). I still had the drain in, so it must have been the first week after the surgery.

I didn't say anything Diddl. I just closed the door really quietly. To be honest I couldn't slam it, because of the Axial Node Clearance. My arm wasn't up for the drama Grin

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Abraiid2 · 02/09/2016 15:38

I know, it must seem totally barking!

It was priests and celibacy.

Sorry for adding a note of surrealism, op.

expatinscotland · 02/09/2016 15:39

I'd have found it hard to refrain from laughing at her.

Abraiid2 · 02/09/2016 15:41

Now I am on this thread... Your neighbour must surely have something wrong with her to think that this is an acceptable way to behave? Some kind of personality disorder or whatever? Or a big gap in the brain wiring governing empathy.

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EtTuTuttiFrutti · 02/09/2016 15:41

Don't worry Abraaid. Really appreciated the funny cross post.

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Squeegle · 02/09/2016 15:42

Ettututti, I'm sorry that you are ill, and that you have such an unsympathetic neighbour. She obviously is a loon and very self centred.