To start a TWELFTH thread that nobody responds to?

[AverageGayLad]

See that? A Twelfth. Not the.

Welcome to the twelfth (it DOES look a weird word ) thread that nobody responds to! We're a fun bunch, the most fun on mumsnet!! I cba to list everyone and who they are, but I'm sure newbies will get to know us through our posts A couple of quotes from posters, which will have to do as opposed to me writing a description of everyone:

I'd like the words mysterious, mystical and endowed with supetnatural powers after my name please, AGL. says Bettercallsaul1

MyDressIsInferiorBlue adds:
Get a battery operated rabbit they are less trouble than a man but can still thrust (and always on demand too, unlike a man)

AGL I'd like the words 'hot', 'intellectual' and 'witty' after my name, please. No 'flouncing', 'dunno' or 'Co-Op Boy' (the latter is well and truly over). says ItShouldHaveBeenJess, as well as being quoted telling us:
I'd be happy with a thrust. Just one.

Let the insane posts, photos and pouting begin!

YY Portia. LTB isnt always easy for someone in that situation. The numbers of women living on the streets due to domestic abuse are rising due to the shortage of housing.

What happened to Nigella a few years ago was not less awful so please dont take this the wrong way but having money and a spare flat to go to would have helped

Its a different kettle of fish for someone much lower down the socio economic scale.

I mean having money and a spare flat takes the financial worry and worry about homelessness away.

FORTY ONE and he behaves like a teenager.

Actually i apologise.........because thats an insult to them. I know some very responsible teens.

Is that why you are reluctant to let him parent on his own.

Im rambling a bit but you deserve a break now and then. You sound like a great mum but you need time to be Jess too.

Helena. Good point. For many women, the alternative to staying with these twats is (very limited) accommodation in a hostel., or B&B type affair - made far more difficult if you have children.

While the guys continue to live and behave exactly as they did before.

Yes Helena I understand but I had my Mum to run to but I wouldn't admit to myself that she was right. Do understand your point though. LTB is all very well if there is somewhere to go. Annoys me when those initials are touted from a comfy armchair.

YY Portia. Its so good to find MNers who GET IT

Jess , Portia A recent thread of mine.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2706045-to-think-LTB-just-got-a-whole-lot-harder-domestic-abuse-related

Agree, Helena, especially for younger women.

I was lucky in that my rented flat was in my name (he'd ditched me again at about eight months pregnant so I sorted it out myself).

I was never exposed to physical violence, but a lot of emotional abuse.

Am very grateful for these threads as they have helped me realise there are lots of decent, caring, considerate people out there.

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Wdll his drinking got worse but he was functioning and just about holding down his job. Mum bought me a laptop for my birthday so I started to plan my escape and realised I'd need a job and another qualification. So I started my course mostly online while he was passed out pissed. He'd think I was on msn talking to men and start shouting and kicking things as a toddler would. I'd shout back and he'd push me so I'd push back if I could but also had dd asleep upstairs.
He even peed himself because he was so drunk and once shit himself.
By this time I'd been to the dr who prescribed lorazepam for anxiety and put them on a reoeat prescription. They made me feel calm and able to cope but I was taking them like sweeties because I'd got used them and needed more to get the calm effect. Kinc of like booze your tolerance incfeasex
Jeez hope this makes sense and will type more in a bit .

YY Jess Likewise

And emotional abuse can be just as insidious......leaving scars that dont show.

Sorry for typos

I have the most enormous headache! Took DS to GP, GP sent us to hospital, up on the children's ward with suspected appendicitis.
They prepped him for surgery, all really quick, then the two surgeons came in, pushed on his tummy and said we can go home. It's likely the start of appendicitis but not bad enough for surgery, so I have to keep an eye on him and any changes go back.
I'm drained!
Just took ibuprofen and Coke.

Portia .........thats amazing That you did a course in the midst of all that.

for all you strong, beautiful perfect women

Escape route !!

Portia that's awful. I have tremendous respect for a woman (or indeed a man) to have the courage to leave an abusive relationship. It must be terrifying. I'm extremely lucky that I don't have personal experience.

Aww GayLad is sweet.

I should clarify at this point that i dont have experience either.

Red sorry to hear that...........stressful and worrying.

I wasn't going to let him grind me down anymore. I took my A levels while pregnant so I thought if I could do that I could do my course. The pills were making me calm and I could concentrate. Didn't realise I was addicted to the bloody things

Oh god red. So you've just got to wait?

Red I hope hour ds will be ok

portia. My ex repeatedly told me I 'looked like shit' if I wore make-up, nice clothes etc, but would be ridiculously possessive if I said 'hi' to the bloody postman!

helena. I agree AGL is very sweet, but should be gently discouraged from the other thread... I feel he is mocking us.

Thanks AGL

Everyone I'm sort of getting a bit emotional so will do dinner and be back later.

Agree Jess