Taking my boy in the ladies toilet...

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So we were in a busy sports pub full of very happy (several drunk) people after a great win. My son needed the loo so I took him to the ladies with me. I was told by a very stroppy barmaid who happened to be in there that she wanted him out.
I said I didn't feel comfortable him going to the men's, she said well he's not coming in here. I said I don't want him in the men's alone. She said 'well go in there with him then'! So u did!
He's 10. Normally I'd send him in the men's, but not in a pub full of drunk strangers. I know some may think I've very over protective, but it really wouldn't have hurt her to just let him go for a quick were!!

MoreCoffeeNow

"No, you can't. That would be even ruder."

Hahaha

I am swaying towards boy because he looks like a little Elijah Wood!

It is Elijah Wood but with Gender neutral hair.

X post Jason

But i've proven my point.

I've been called many things in my life but never a troll!

This is worse than TES. Lol

Sorry. 40

It's against the rules to do that.

Ooh look OP is back....

So what was the deal with the radar key? Why were you going to let him use the disabled toilet?

YANBU Considering a 14 year old boy was abducted and sexually abused in Debenhams, I just wouldn't risk it in a pub full of drunk men.

And yet she risked letting the child be there in the first place

I didn't say I was going to use it, I don't usually, I was just asking for alternatives to going into the mens with him! As it happened I did go in the mens with him and it was empty!

My 8 year old normally holds it until we are at home but he now goes into the men's on his own. Unless it's a very rare out of house poo then i have to be there to wipe.

Do you go in the mens with him or take him into the ladies?

Going into the disabled toilet when neither of you is disabled is NOT an alternative.

Can't work out whether you are being deliberately goady

Oh look news flash. A toilet not full of predatory men with their penises (peni?) Out waiting for unaccompanied children....

Couldn't be that it's just a regular toilet used by regular people....

And as such sometimes it's empty some times its not but it's hardly a black hole waiting to corrupt your child with a glimpse of someone's undone flies

He was not in the pub most of the time, he was at the park, with his sister (aged 18 in less than a month, see I have a girl too so I can appreciate both sides of the argument) and his cousins. It was a 30 minute walk home, he was just using the toilet before we left.

Jason what did I say that was against the rules???

vvhat did i say that's against the rules

Nothing, me calling you a troll is against the rules...

... although sometimes MNHQ like to insist they don't have rules only guidelines
then when you break the rules they tell you otherwise.

Right - no wonder the barmaid got arsey. You took him into the pub just to use the toilet?

You HAVE to be a GF - Nobody is that much of a pisstaker in RL surely?

I was in the pub, with my sister, brother, husband and niece. My daughter had taken my son and two cousins to the park. The match was almost finished, we were leaving shortly, so they came back to meet us in the pub. My son needed the toilet.

What is a GF?

So why couldn't one of the men have taken him to the gents in the first place?

giles it's very rare but it does happen. I bet the parents of the young lad that was raped in the changing rooms in Debenhams guffawed at the idea to - untill it happened to their child.

I find it really bizzare (and only on MN) where other parents mock other parents for bring cautious if they choose to be. It's like there is a weird denial to some posters that sexual assaults happen to kids.

It's a goady fucker OP.

To be honest if I'd seen your son in the women's toilets I wouldn't have minded that much, provided he was behaving properly.

Can't say I've ever seen 10 years old boys in women's toilets generally though.

Being cautious is fine, but you have to balance that risk.

Realistically the child was much more likely to be injured in the playground than they were to be attacked.

A goady fucker

You obviously don't want to answer this but why would it even occur to you to ask for the RADAR key for the disabled toilet?? If the pub was that dangerous they should have waited outside and he should have waited for the toilet.

I have worked in pubs and we used to have to stop people using the toilet if they weren't actually buying anything.