Taking my boy in the ladies toilet...

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So we were in a busy sports pub full of very happy (several drunk) people after a great win. My son needed the loo so I took him to the ladies with me. I was told by a very stroppy barmaid who happened to be in there that she wanted him out.
I said I didn't feel comfortable him going to the men's, she said well he's not coming in here. I said I don't want him in the men's alone. She said 'well go in there with him then'! So u did!
He's 10. Normally I'd send him in the men's, but not in a pub full of drunk strangers. I know some may think I've very over protective, but it really wouldn't have hurt her to just let him go for a quick were!!

I have, I said so pages back.

You said you've seen an "Older looking child"
And your DH had seen girls 5 and under in the gents...

But i coudln't find the quote, what's "older looking"?

How do you know they were 10 coffee?

Also I personally would have no issue with seeing a 10 year old in the womens. My 11 year old DSD would though.

Where are all these unsafe toilets that people speak of?! I must know to avoid them. Yes yes service station toilets at night are dodgy (we all know that) but where else? A nightclub, no doubt but a child wouldn't be there.

How do you know they were 10 coffee?

They just had their birthday, there was an "I am 10 today" badge on their Tshirt."

I have a son and he won't be using female toilets when he's that age unless he develops some issue in which he doesn't feel he's capable.

I could think of a thousand excuses for situations in which boys and women would have reasons to intrude on female spaces, most are hysterical and involve imagining Final Destination level risk, and shouldn't trump a females right to have a space uninterrupted by the opposite sex.

sorry boys and men that should say*

Where are all these unsafe toilets that people speak of?!

The general location of parksouth in swindon.

Jason

I've taken my 10YO into a service station toilet, then I know where he is and doesn't wander off, quick in and out, no big deal.

Total - My son isn't the 15 year old. I only use the ladies with him if there is no unisex loo and sometimes there isn't. The local public disabled loos are not unisex, but a larger cubicle in each sex toilet. In that case you go with the sex of the carer.

I've been teaching primary for 35 years so I am a good judge of ages of DCs.

"Older children" means considerably older than 8, the age I'd previously specified should be the cut off.

My 11 year old DSD would though

Sounds like you want her to have a problem with it because you want there to be a problem.

And how did you know they were boys?

In that case you go with the sex of the carer.

Presumably the 15 year old goes into the cubicle as well and isn't left unattended in the ladies.

Coffee the 15 year old would sit in a seprate cubical next to the one that the carer is in.

No joking, that's the standard practice with male / female cubicaled disabled toilets.

I see it regularly.

The mums think the boys is too dangerous. Their words. You don't know who's in there etc. In a leisure centre.

Yet the girls are often sent in alone, while dads wait outside.

If i challenge it i get into the arguments made here. Plus, as i said earlier, it's self fulfilling- the more mums take their boys into female toilets, the more sinister the mens seem, as they're empty apart from the odd adult male.

Really so you regularly get into discussion with parents of boys in the toilets? And how old are these boys?

It is all quite funny because no one has toilet angst in rl.

I agree... It's bizarre how some people are so militant about a pre-pubescent boy using a toilet. I can understand people thinking it's not quite right, but the level of indignation on here is out of all proportion to the issue!

And how did you know they were boys?

Do give up on the trying to pick holes, it's getting silly.

I know they were boys because I've been teaching for 35 years and I can tell boys from girls, it isn't that difficult.

I don't think I've ever noticed who was in a toilet let alone spoke to them.

I will have to start keeping a tally.

I know they were boys because I've been teaching for 35 years and I can tell boys from girls, it isn't that difficult.

Actually it is hard to tell the difference.

it's getting silly.
It's always been silly, the whole thread is silly.
Have you only just realised i've not been serious?

Sounds like you want her to have a problem with it because you want there to be a problem.

Nope, shes simply at the ewww boys stage and at the very beginning of puberty. She goes off it if her brother walks into the loo when shes in there, so I am quite sure she would have an issue with a random young man