Taking my boy in the ladies toilet...

[40andfucked]

So we were in a busy sports pub full of very happy (several drunk) people after a great win. My son needed the loo so I took him to the ladies with me. I was told by a very stroppy barmaid who happened to be in there that she wanted him out.
I said I didn't feel comfortable him going to the men's, she said well he's not coming in here. I said I don't want him in the men's alone. She said 'well go in there with him then'! So u did!
He's 10. Normally I'd send him in the men's, but not in a pub full of drunk strangers. I know some may think I've very over protective, but it really wouldn't have hurt her to just let him go for a quick were!!

Of course all our children are different. I wait outside the gents for him perfectly prepared to go in if I get concerned.
He can stand still outside and wait for me if I am quick but frankly, if he were not, he and I would use the disabled together.
I would rather discreetly pee in front of him than take an 18 year old in the ladies.

Exactly OfAFrenchMind.

Satan I think what you do is understandable, but I also think it's preferable for a woman to go into the men's with a 15 year old than for him to go into the ladies, especially if you shout through first (which you already manage to do). Women feel much more vulnerable in the toilets, even with cubicles, than men do.

40andfucked you Certainly can have it both ways. Your kids were there, sitting with you. They would come to no harm. Different kettle of fish to send them off alone in to the toilets.

I still want to know what MN bingo words are?

At what age are you going to stop taking him in the ladies Saran. You can't have an 18 year old man in the ladies toilets?

a8mint you should probably think twice before challenging people in that way saying they're funny looking.

What if it was a girl with short hair in boys clothing?

totalrecall It isn't about how concerned the public might be, it's about options. You have more than Satan does in this situation, you just don't want to act on them. Your 9 year old would be able to go into the men's without you (unless you homeschool him or he happens to have a male teacher then he already does this on school trips). A severely disabled 15 year old may not ever be able to do that.

I get it's difficult satans but, let's not pretend that your specific problems when you carer is out with your son is a reason why your average NT 10 year old should use the ladies or the disabled toilet.

Personally, using a disabled toilet because your 10 year old can't use the male toilet is broadly bollocks.

These last pages!! You guys are epic. Sooooo funny!

joell75 You're also happy taking your kids somewhere where men are so off their heads you think he's going to be assaulted in the toilets?

We have really different ideas of where it's appropriate to bring a child.

Ha fucking ha

joell - mn bingo words (in my experience):

toilet
paedo
disabled
wheelchair
bus
buggy
SN
NT
ASD
benefits
council house/estate
goat
sky tv
fruit shoot
gregs
chav

I'm sure there are more

Don't forget cis

He's a 10 year old boy I think the barmy barmaid overreacted.

Erm...Greggs. This thread is surreal.

Those are the bingo words? Surely most of those are perfectly acceptable without causing offence?

Its not that I don't want to act on them. I never thought it was a problem to be honest as I have said no one has ever complained, and seeing a 9 year old boy in the ladies doesn't bother me, so I never thought it would anyone else before this thread. But I think a young boy is very different from a 15 year old. I understand there are difficulties but Before long we would have fully grown men in the ladies. That's not right SN or not.

ofafrenchmind2

Nobody said boys should be protected at all costs. The OP simply wants her child protected at all costs.

Shy pissers? Women that freeze when they open tampons? Women standing in the toilets 'discussing periods'? Where the fuck do you live...Malory Towers?? Somebody needs to grow up and join the real world. The one with grown women in it.

And without boys of 10 in the ladies. Jeez
How many more times?

And I'd like my 13 year old daughter to use the toilet without boys and young men in it. Thanks.

Well Joell, those women and girls are fucking everywhere. Seriously. In the office, in schools, bars, restaurants, museums, what have you... I guess you are not one of them, but have some thoughts for those who are. They exist, and they have the right to feel confortable in the fucking loo.

Have you never seen a male cleaner in the ladies? Or is that ok but an accompanied older child or adult with severe learning difficulties isn't? When my son is an adult ( and likely to have the understanding of a toddler) he will be with me in the ladies if it is that or wet myself.

Satans you have my empathy. Good luck to you and your boy x