To be sad my DD has to wear glasses?

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I know I probably am, and her vision is more important that her appearance but I am sad.

She has big beautiful eyes that I think will just look silly behind lenses.

I worry about her wearing them at nursery and being different to most other children.

I am fretting about getting her to keep them on.

Neither me or DH wear glasses so I am wondering if I have done something wrong to cause her needing them! I didn't go about her vision, I went as she sometimes turns her eye in for a few seconds.

I know I probably am BU and perhaps am posting here expecting most of you to tell me to get a grip.

Anyone else felt this way?

Oh gosh, yes, children's glasses are so cute now!
I have had tears and tantrums when one of mine had to come to the optician's with me and was told no they could not have glasses themselves!

My middle one has worn glasses since the age of 4 and I love thrm. Little one tried their very best to convince the optician that they definitely needed glasses. Fortunately the optician is used to 6 year olds and told a very disappointed child that they had perfect vision

When I was a child, there was still a bit of a stigma attached to wearing glasses: the sense you get in old American films that the girl with the glasses is not going to be the popular one who gets asked out by the male lead. Ime this attitude is completely incomprehensible to today's: they simply don't know that glasses is supposed to spell nerdy and not popular. So it doesn't. Completely outdated idea, thankfully.

Of course children haven't suddenly got nicer and stopped bullying- but glasses are no longer a major factor in that equation.

my daughter got glasses when she was 4 she has beautiful eyes and i was a bit :-( at first but she is 6 now and suits them so much they are like a part of her.

Ok so first off apologies for anyone I have offended - it really wasn't my intention at all!!

The young children I know with glasses all have thick lenses which do magnify their eyes.

The optician today didn't actually explain much other than she needed glasses. On the prescription it says right: sph +2.5 left: sph +3.25. Cyl -0.75 Axis 90

I didn't know she had vision issues, I had taken her about her eye turning in occasionally.

I am sorry my feelings have shocked some of you and thanks to those who can understand.

I do not love my daughter any less and I am sure the initial shock will wear off. This is a third visit and each previous time nothing about glasses has been mentioned.

I have nothing against glasses, and great if they can do their job. My DD is two and a half so I guess half of the battle will be keeping them on.

Thanks for helping me see I am BU.
To those who have been unkind - a simple "Yes, YABU" would have sufficed! It's not like I've said "my DD needs glasses but I'm not going to get them"

Clearly I just needed to get it out.

Thanks MN.

I get it. I've worn them since I was 7 and hate it still. I got shit all through school and still, even though I know I'm passably attractive etc, feel frumpy and dull in glasses. Choosing new ones is always a hassle, as I effectively want invisible glasses.

I hate having to cock about with contact lenses. I hate having to swap to prescription sunnies. I hate not being able to see help. I hate feeling like I can't wear certain outfits cos they don't look right glasses. I hate going out in the twatting rain. I hate enter g a warm room after being out in the cold.

All my issues, I know, but it's why I would/will be sad when my dc need them.

My DD was extremely envious of her school friend who got glasses aged 5.

She told me she couldn't see so I booked her in for an eye test.

She completely flunked the test on purpose. The optician diagnosed her with the most severe case of malingering he'd ever seen. DD was pleased, not knowing what malingering meant. She ended up with some vanity glasses from Claire's.

It is ok to be upset your child needs them, OP, but it isn't the end of the world.

I was a bit sad when ds needed glasses more because he's a twin and would be the only one with them on the family. ..he was 4. So I get where your coming from.
That changed when he got them. ...wow he was so happy. ..he was the talk of his class and so special and he was thrilled. Then I was sad he had needed them and didn't have them. There are gorg glares about and he's wearing his new star wars ones with pride. He minds them. ..he's so careful but we've gone through 6 pairs this year. ..so what kids are kids and if they break we get new ones but now he had them I can't imagine him without and he's super cute. ..Super cute and his twin is green with envy.
It'll be ok
..its an adjustment

One of the few memories i have from.childhood is putting on my first specs aged about 7. Every last leaf on a tree on perfect focus.

Things that silly on kids - painted nails, bikinis, footy kit when not playing, other peoples names. But never glasses.

Well yabu a bit but I do understand. Having poor eyesight is hardly a good thing and it's a lifelong problem. I'm 40 and very shortsighted. I've spent a fortune on glasses and contact lenses and it is an inconvenience wearing either.

Dd is 4 and I'd be disappointed if she had to wear glasses although I wouldn't let her see my feelings.

YABU, glasses are often very attractive these days, not like the NHS ones that were the only choice years ago. Many have children's characters on them and some people think that you look more intelligent in them.
If they help her to see better that's the main thing so don't worry.
Just get the optician to demonstrate to her how to take them off with care instead of yanking them off roughly and don't keep folding/unfolding them when she takes them off as it weakens the hinges.

It's not a high prescription so they won't be that thick and will magnify less. My dd has had glasses from 18 months old and is long sightedness. She will always need them. I felt an initial shock/sadness but now she doesn't look right without them. There are loads of lovely frames these days.

I felt a bit sad when dd got her glasses age 2. Sad for her really, that she'd need them all her life. But after a while you can't imagine them without glasses. I think mostly the stigma is gone these days. Dd didn't like being different at first but got used to it. I know what you mean. But it will be fine.

I bet all your dds little friends will be jealous and want glasses too!

Yes, we've had more experience of that than people not being nice. At nursery other dc were forever pulling them off her face to try them on.

She also has prescription goggles

Dds friends liked trying hers on too as they made things look fuzzy for them

u wanna try wearing glasses in the 70's

i was 21 months wheni had to wear them my mum was devatsated -these days kids are wearing false lenses just so they can wear frames!

it wasnt so cook when i was growin up it is now

cool sorry

just to add the presciption is quite low

im 12 and 11!

I understand OP. I was really sad when one one my children had to start wearing glasses and it was discovered that his eyesight was almost as bad as mine. It was a real struggle as he hated the glasses and got really upset over the whole thing. he was so embarrassed he was actually shaking when telling his friend over the phone that he has glasses. Still, he doesn't like to be seen with them on and has only recently become comfortable wearing them in school. My heart sinks every time we have an eye test to discover the vision has worsened.

However, if I can say something positive about your situation I think it is good that she has glasses at an early age where she wont feel so self conscious about them. Hopefully by the time she is older it wont be an issue. There are some really nice glasses for children these days and now I actually think my son looks nicer in them than without! We are also exploring contact lenses so when she is older that is something to consider too.

It will get easier, honestly :)

I was well chuffed when I went for an eye-test to be told I needed glasses, I like the geek chic look though.

Just let her try on loads of pairs that suit her face shape - I look better with mine on.

Times have changed since all those crappy "4 eyes" remarks.

My little girl looks completely adorable in her glasses.

My son might need hearing aids soon. He is mortified by the idea. I keep telling him that they are mostly pretty unnoticeable now a days. But he is 17 and was bullied at college and feels they might make him a prime target again.

I love glasses, I love them on adults and children. My daughter has never had a negative comment, and neither has my teen son when he can be arsed to actually wear them.

Miraflex make fab kids glasses that are kept on with an elastic strap - they are bendy and come in lots of colours

My DS has worn glasses from 6m old, and will wear them for life.

I can't imagine him without them now. Give it a week and you'll feel the same.

Slightly bigger eyes (not that they will be, since they don't use jam jars for lenses anymore) are much better than a child who struggles with school/reading/life because they can't see properly!

Kudos to you for getting her checked though - I didn't get glasses until I was 11 as I just wasn't aware that other people saw a non-blurry world, and so didn't tell my parents!