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AIBU?

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Another parking one - with a note!

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 20:11

This will do totally out me, so name change coming up soon.

SIL parked on a patch of grass over the road from my parents earlier to collect her DC who my mum was watching for her. I was there with my DC. When she went back to the car this note had been left for her.

My dad is fuming, if they wake up with a horses head next to them in bed a la the godfather they'll have got off lightly.

a) the grass belongs to the council
b) it's a rented property and the owners are friends with my parents and they know it belongs to the council (there used to be good natured joshing about getting the prime spot on the grass when all us kids lived at home so there were 5 extra cars to park, plus partners )
c) my dad is friends with the chap that built the house in the first place and it definitely belongs to the council
d) the council maintain/mow it

I predict every visitor to my parents will now park there, my dad was moving talking about moving his car there as I left.

Would we BU to point out it doesn't belong to them so anyone can park there as and when they fancy? It doesn't cause any obstruction to anyone's drive/right of way.

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Cherrysoup · 25/08/2016 21:31

There was a Daily Mad sad face article recently where the council put bollards up (sadly, not penguin ones) in front of the grass over which the owner of the house had to drive to access their drive.

There were 5 extra cars at one point, OP? Crumbs, that would make me very cross.

KinkyAfro · 25/08/2016 21:31

cherry mum's rocks have been there for about 20 years with no issues. A few years ago the council did a letter drop saying they were going to charge for the ruined grass....never happened though, sadly.

TheGruffaloMother · 25/08/2016 21:31

Yeah it'd piss me off if someone parked on the grass too. No need for it really, is there? Very few people would park on their own grass because they want to keep it nice. Seems to me OP that your main source of smugness is that the neighbour has used the word 'my' rather than 'the'. Smacks of 'its fine to ruin it actually because it's not yours'.

happypoobum · 25/08/2016 21:33

Agree, parking on grass is cunty.

Will nobody think of the goats?

Kanga59 · 25/08/2016 21:34

P.S. If "my" said "the" in the note, I sense that you wouldn't have started this thread.

TypicallyEnglishMustard · 25/08/2016 21:35

Why did your SIL park on the grass in the first place? Why couldn't she get up the energy to park elsewhere and walk a bit?

Why not park on your parents' grass instead, since it clearly doesn't matter?

AliMonkey · 25/08/2016 21:38

I think you are all being a bit unfair to OP. Agree best not to park on grass but equally the neighbour shouldn't claim it's their grass when it's not - though otherwise the note was polite enough and, as she was pointing out, her dad's reaction was over the top.

NatalieRushman · 25/08/2016 21:39

Gosh. Parking, frothing, bollards, travellers and neighbours! This is urning into quite a thread.

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:39

Meh, I haven't parked there for more than 5 years since I moved out, I was parked on the road.

In fact I'm nice about parking, I live in a terraced street and we're one of the lucky ones with a drive. Over the road was having a get together (they have a huge family) and they're completely used all the accessible space on both sides of the road. One guy drove up and down 3 or 4 times until I noticed him and told him to park across my dropped curb and block me in. It was 9pm, I wasn't going anywhere, and I knew where he was if I needed to get out in an emergency.

I'm now wondering where we could source a goat

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KinkyAfro · 25/08/2016 21:40

I don't think anyone is being unfair to the OP and I would've said the same as the neighbour if the grass was in front of my house

gillybeanz · 25/08/2016 21:41

It's not ok to park on council owned property, even if it is grass.
You could not "Rock up" and let horses graze either, no idea where you get this from.
Maybe the council turn a blind eye, but that's not the same as being allowed.

I can sympathise though as the man across from my parents did the same with the actual road at the side of his house. He used to come out and shout at people who were legally parked.
He even came out to complain about family parking when the hearse turned up for Dad's funeral.
Why do they do it? All I can think of is mh issues, our neighbour was clearly ill, or they convince themselves the land does belong to them.

Bitofacow · 25/08/2016 21:42

Your forgot to mention goats Natalie.

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 25/08/2016 21:46

We had one from an 'irate neighbour' earlier this year. My DM was admitted to the Marsden when we visited to see if we could get her on a drug trial. She wasn't allowed to leave. It bring a 4 hour journey, my brother left his car just outside our driveway and took his keys with the intention that he'd pick it up that night. We were told just before we were due to leave DM that she was terminal, in immediate danger of heart failure and DNR, and that we could stay with her. Of course we did, but mum being so ill and than there being no bed available for her at the local hospital we ended up staying for eight days until she was ambulance back. We got home to find out about that. I was so angry I put a photo on the local FB page shaming the writer

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:47

You could rock up and graze there if you wanted, it went to the county council as a case, and my parents got a copy of the legal paper work saying what could and couldn't do on the land as they were an interested party.

As I remember, pigs, and fowl are not allowed, tethered animals and motor vehicles are.

You're also not able to sell things from it or open a fever hospital (from the original archaic covenants on the land from the year dot).

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livinglooney8 · 25/08/2016 21:48

You and your family sound quite rough in your tone and attitude even if you don't mean to.

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:48

Sorry about your mum Jennifer, a note like that must have been the last thing you needed.

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HoneyDragon · 25/08/2016 21:49

We had the sort of set up where I lived. People parked on the grass as it kept the road and pavements clear. County council were fine and mowed around vehicles. We all independently mowed strips in front of our houses.

We were also allowed to place skips on it. It wasn't down to look pretty it was done as one row of houses had steep driveways so it was advised to park there in winter.

Then mouthy captain twat bag moved in and insisted it ruined the neighbourhood and started parking his car in the road, and making everyone's life a living hell, trying to make them do the same.

We moved.

candykane25 · 25/08/2016 21:49

When the car was in the grass, was it on the pavement at all?

pennyunwise · 25/08/2016 21:50

We're into the over-reactions to reactions, now. She asked if it was unreasonable, and she's received a resounding yes, it was. Only one or two people were actually rude about it.

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:52

Rough, living looney

I'll have you know they live at the good side of the village with running water and electricity and everything
or was it my mention of terraced housing? That's where I live, in a city centre suburb where they're practically the only type of house you can buy. Rather nice it is too.

Parents are pretty rural.

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RichardBucket · 25/08/2016 21:52

Why not just have the grace to accept you were being unreasonable?

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:54

Candy cane I don't know, I didn't leave the house while SIL was there, and I was at the back of the house where you can't see the bit of grass.

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:56

Richard because I don't have to? --Or want to-

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Marmite27 · 25/08/2016 21:57

Strike out fail... Hangs head in scumbag shame

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PersianCatLady · 25/08/2016 21:57

I nothing really to add to this ridiculous AIBU except that you do know that some people have serious, real problems to deal in life don't you?

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