AIBU...to want my bag for life back

[bunnyfuller]

Petty I know but I feel really narked and thought a bashing on here would sort me out! A mum who lives near me has two little girls younger than mine. I pass on various clothes/shoes/school uniform etc that is still in good nick. She does some hairdressing on the side of her f/t job and kindly cuts my/my kids hair 2-3 times a year for a v cheap price (cash).

Recently (middle of July) I gave her a bag of dressing up clothes which my girls no longer used, lots of items. I put them in one of my big, strong bags for life and asked her to return the bag.

Fast forward.....3 weeks ago I asked her if she could return it....she said yes definitely, it didn't arrive. I saw her in the street Mon Eve and asked her again, she said 'oh, didn't I bring it back?' Then 'oh I'm sure the girls brought it back' I assured her they hadn't so she promised to have a look for it. She cut my eldest's hair on Tue so when I took the money round after I findihed work I asked her again. This time she said 'oh DC brought it round and hung it on your door' so again I said we hadn't got it. She's now promised to replace. They're in no way hard up so I'm utterly mystified why giving the bag back has been such a huge deal. Did she think it was a plakky bag and thinks I'm weird for going on about it? AIBU for being quite pissed off now? Happy for a flaming because I'm obsessing a bit I need other views!

She binned it, I expect.

Move on with your life, it's just a bag.

I think it's a bit odd to want it back if it's a plastic one. It would be different if it was a jute/more sturdy version though.

You say ‘placcy bag’ so I assume you are talking a 10p plastic job rather than a hessian one? I really don’t think i could get worked up over a plastic bag. Life is too short.

IT was one of the sturdy ones - a huge Christmas one made of thick hessian. No, I am NOT asking for a plastic bag to be returned!

Out of order for her not to return the bag if you specifically asked her to do so, but we live and learn... Next time, hand the clothes over in a bin liner!

Maybe they did hang it on the door and it's gone missing from there?

how much did this bag cost?

I seriously think it's way OTT to get this annoyed about a bag of this type.

That would irritate me too, particularly since you'd asked for it back. It's the principle. I reckon she's passed it on.

Seriously? Is this a supermarket bag for life? If so then you really need to forget it, it's a bag.

Why would she think it was a 'plakky' bag then?

I save the cheaper or more worn out ones for these situations and don't expect them back.

I would just learn from this and move on otherwise you get a reputation for being the weird bag lady.

I'm with you - it as your bag, you asked for it back, you need it , you don't have it, you now need to go and buy a new one. All because she can't be arsed. Annoying!

The bag cost a fiver. There were a lot of dressing up clothes. It's the principle - i asked for the bag back specifically because I use them for my shopping! A fiver is a meal for us, I know it doesn't seem much to some.

How much are you out of pocket? Knock this off the price of the next haircut.

Alternatively, forget all about it.

[singing] 'let it go' , pita but in the bigger scheme of things it really is much of nothing isn't it ?

I will definitely learn! Didn't expect to lose money passing something on!!

Don't give her anymore clothes, very odd for her not to give it back. I'd text her to ask again. Then leave the matter.

Lesson learned. You need to learn to use cheap plastic bags for giving things away in future.

I think most were thinking it was a bag for life with a rough cost of 10p... In which case it would be crazy to get this upset about it IMO.

I'd forget about it, but if it is a lot of money for you and it was a bag you use all the time that you will replace because she has lost it then I guess it's fair enough, but id be careful she didn't return it and someone hasn't taken it, or maybe your DH/DP saw it and shoved it under sink (mine would)

100% not worth loosing a friend over, see if she replaces it but you might just have to let it go

I think you need to write it off. It's gone. I would only pass things on in bags you are happy to never get returned or black binbags, to anyone you ever give anything to.

I think your using the wrong terminology which isn't helping you here. A "bag for life" is one of those 10p plastic ones that supermarkets will replace "for life" if it rips.

What your talking about is a purchased hessian bag that actually cost you a few bob. At first I thought you were being unreasonable because I thought you meant a plastic one, but I do see your point now.