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To think going to the loo in front of your dh is disgusting!?

269 replies

Piniatapearl · 22/08/2016 22:54

This just came up in conversation with my sister. She thinks it's perfectly normal that her and her dh will have a shit in front of each other whilst the other is showering or brushing their teeth or whatever.

I just think it's really unnecessary! I do have poo issues so is it me being weird or her?

I'm definitely not the poo troll by the way Confused

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toadgirl · 23/08/2016 13:22

Not something I do, but disgust is subjective.

lovelybangers · 23/08/2016 13:30

Toilet time is private time.

No public farting either.

claireehmurray · 23/08/2016 13:31

What with having conceived, IBS, inconvenience, having food poisoning, (list goes on) avoiding this would be laughable! Considering we plan to spend our lives together....

Happyhippy45 · 23/08/2016 13:39

We have an ensuite now so getting ready for bed someone is usually going for a wee. Not a poo though. NEVER in 24 years together.
We subject each other to "the fart that comes with the first wee of the day".......it's not something that can be held in. They are often hilarious.
I don't understand equating childbirth to bowel movements.

Sara107 · 23/08/2016 13:50

I can't bear this, need absolute privacy. Dh happily goes in front of me and I can't bear it, we've lived together 14 years or more and I don't get how he can't realise how gross I find it, and how much it really turns me off. Even if I'm not in the bathroom he doesn't even close the door so you can hear / smell it all anyway. He actually gets pretty offended when I shut the bathroom door.

HornyTortoise · 23/08/2016 14:06

I pee in same room as DH occasionally. Would never poo in the same room..I nearly had a breakdown when I had to have a nurse with me to poo after an operation :S

RebeccaWithTheGoodHair · 23/08/2016 14:09

Having an en-suite is just like living in a tiny flat where you can't escape the sound and smell, I hate it.

DD and I share the main bathroom and DH uses the en-suite. He's the most private man going and in 20 years I have NEVER heard him fart (which is weird). However he will pee every night just after I've got into bed which I find slightly off-putting. I'd rather he farted.

As a PP poster said how is it possible he doesn't self-combust?

I'm teaching DD to fart when she needs, I'm sure no good can come of holding it in for hours on end.

LuluJakey1 · 23/08/2016 18:38

I was always a bit uncomfortable farting freely infront of DH. When I was pregnant with DS I had terrible wind and just could not contain it or control it- much to DH's amusement. I lost all dignity about it.

elh1605 · 23/08/2016 19:39

I far in front of dh all the time and vice versa-natural bodily function. I had to pee in front of him after my c section as trainee midwife didn't have the time to stay with me so made him, but pooing is a no go in my opinion.

HornyTortoise · 23/08/2016 19:43

Oh farting is fine. DH and me are rather childish in that respect as often if one farts the other will try to outdo it Blush Never when the kids are around, or if anyone else is there though. We don't want anyone knowing how disgusting we are and would not like the kids going to school having farting competitions then saying they learnt it off mumym and daddy lol

Keletubbie · 23/08/2016 19:47

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over the month. Considering all the places I've let him stick stuff, I see no reason to worry about him popping in while I'm on the loo Grin

euromorris · 23/08/2016 20:05

Have no problem with wee, but we don't make a habit of it. Just for those 'caught short' moments. Poo - I'd really rather not, but DH had to barge in on one of my showers years ago when he was ill. I left pretty sharpish though, and finished my shower later.

He saw worse during labour, and then saw my insides during the emcs!

We don't choose these things, but we don't make a big deal of them either, when they do happen in emergency situations.

EastMidsMummy · 23/08/2016 20:22

23 years married. We have never pooed in front of each other. Revolting thought.

cariboo · 23/08/2016 20:25

pee yes, poo never. Having a wee in front of each other is strangely erotic.

brambly · 23/08/2016 20:27

cariboo I agree!

Beardsareweird · 23/08/2016 20:29

I could wee in front of my mum or sister, but not my DH and I wouldn't be able to poo in front of anyone.

milliemolliemou · 23/08/2016 20:30

@Fluffnuts - haven't read to the end of the thread but for the Lord's sake go to your GP and ask for surgical repair. You and your DH may have adapted but it's not a way to live a life.

dementedma · 23/08/2016 20:34

Nope, never. It's unnecessary and gross. We only have one bathroom so anyone having a bath asks if anyone needs to use the loo first, then the door is locked and bather left in peace.
Have never understood the people whose teens come in and chat to them while they are naked in the bath, and as for teens having a shit while parents are in the bath, that is just disgusting and disrespectful.

Ghodavies · 23/08/2016 20:36

Yuck no!!

MaQueen · 23/08/2016 20:38

We've been together for 25 years. There isn't an inch of my body that he doesn't know better than I know myself...so have no problem weeing in front of him.

Draw the line at shitting in front of him, though.

heatherwithapee · 23/08/2016 20:51

I'll wee in front of the kids (they're young so often accompany me in the cubicle if we're out), but not in front of DH. I could not poo in front of anyone and have no desire to watch / listen to anyone else poo but certainly not DH.

Wtfismynameagain · 23/08/2016 20:56

Haven't rtf, but as long as no shits while I'm bathing/showering I don't care. Dp shits in the morning, so as long as dd and I have brushed teeth that morning we are all good! We eat, we shit, we fart. Not pleasant sometimes but that's just everyday life. We don't care!

NavyandWhite · 23/08/2016 20:57

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DownWithThisSortaThing · 23/08/2016 21:04

We don't poo in front of each other, it's just a bit minging with the smell and everything. I don't like the smell of poo!
But we wee in front of each other all the time. We're usually in a rush in the morning so if one of us is in the bathroom and the other needs a wee we just go. Its just a wee, you don't even see anything, I don't get why it's embarrassing.

Madbengalmum · 23/08/2016 21:06

Wee yes, poo no.