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You couldn't write this sh*t!!!!!

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Tryingtostayyoung · 21/08/2016 18:36

I literally can not believe what has just happened to me, I am fuming, in shock and shaking...

I have a very good friend, part of the same friendship group wouldn't say she is my bestest friend but always been a good one. I was out for dinner with our group a few nights ago and she was talking about how she is convinced her fiancé is having an affair. We all told her we didn't think he was because tbh he's fantastic and quite obviously loves her and she's just paranoid (always been a bit of a drama queen)...

Now rewind to around a month ago I was at a family function and my younger cousin was there (18) who I'm not exactly close to but we do get on very well. She tells me that she has a new boyfriend I ask why he isn't there, she confides in me that he has a serious girlfriend but that she is depressed and suicidal and he can't leave her Hmm I expressed that it was wrong even if that was his situation because he should be focussing on trying to end it gently, not doing the thing that could push this poor girl over the edge...

So surprise surprise you all know where this is going... I am out today, cousin calls me, can i come over, I can hear she's in tears. Turns out she's pregnant, she wants the baby, the prick is pressuring her to abort. I start trying to talk to her about her options etc etc. Her phones ringing like MAD and she tells me it's him and she's ignoring she thought he loved her etc then she gets a text and she tells me he's outside and wants her to come down and talk to him, I look outside and who is it?! YOU GUESSED IT!!!!

My friend is definitely not depressed or suicidal he is just a complete and utter wanker and I am furious. She went with him and i didn't tell her because i don't know what to do. I don't like to get involved in things like this normally but AIBU I'm already involved aren't I?? Fuck sake!!!!

OP posts:
SirKillalot · 21/08/2016 20:48

You did the right thing OP.

e1y1 · 21/08/2016 20:50

Yeah why would it take any longer than 20 minutes?

"your DP is a cheating bastard" - there done in 30 seconds.

SouthWindsWesterly · 21/08/2016 20:50

I imagine the DH told him exactly why OP got involved.

Arfarfanarf · 21/08/2016 20:51

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bangingmyheadoffabrickwall · 21/08/2016 20:52

Tryingtostayyoung

Don't worry about the trolls. I am finding that there seems to be a lot of troll hunters lately, reporting posts that because they think is unbelievable it must be a troll and most turn out to be legit.
It seems troll hunting is the new 'in thing' on MN rather than the actual act of trolling.

pointlessperson · 21/08/2016 20:52

Wow! Just wow!

Well done op you've handled this brilliantly...just hope your friend doesn't hold it against you

MiddleClassProblem · 21/08/2016 20:53

So he has said at some point that both some threaten to hurt themselves or are suicidal as his get out clause? What a dick. At least use a different story

MiddleClassProblem · 21/08/2016 20:53

I hope you told the froend he said that about her

MiddleClassProblem · 21/08/2016 20:53

*friend

BMW6 · 21/08/2016 20:53

You totally did the right thing OP.

Blatherskite · 21/08/2016 20:54

I'm sure MNHQ will have it all checked soon.

Tryingtostayyoung · 21/08/2016 20:56

Yes I did tell friend that's what he said, I think he's disgusting I don't really understand what he was trying achieve by calling my DH Hmm their mates yes but not amazing friends, my DH has known my friend for many many years (we all went to school together) he would ever condone what he's done

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BluishSky · 21/08/2016 20:58

It would have been hard to tell, but well done for not keeping his secret.

clam · 21/08/2016 20:58

You found a ring that had been hurled out of the window into a garden in the dark?! Hmm Shock

PhotosGinAndALongLieIn · 21/08/2016 21:00

Wow what a dick. Ringing your DH? Arsehole. Hope your friend and cousin come out of this OK. I'd drop a text to your friend as a pp suggested and just mention that you found the ring.

Tryingtostayyoung · 21/08/2016 21:00

Friend just text me she wants my cousins number, I'm not wrong to not give it am I? But i don't want her to fallout with me, I don't want to be involved

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wombattoo · 21/08/2016 21:00

I also thought that clam

Wonkydonkey44 · 21/08/2016 21:00

He trying to justify himself that's all and your oh is the one he chose because you outed him.
He's been caught red handed!

Champagneformyrealfriends · 21/08/2016 21:00

I wouldn't give her it

Wonkydonkey44 · 21/08/2016 21:01

No don't gone her the number !

Tryingtostayyoung · 21/08/2016 21:01

As someone said earlier, she is a drama queen, she didn't hurl it anywhere more like placed it out the window, from the living room, wasn't hard to miss.

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fastdaytears · 21/08/2016 21:01

I wouldn't put them in touch

CodyKing · 21/08/2016 21:01

Just text back and say her moms dealing with things at the moment as she's only 18. Ask to leave things to calm down.

Bogeyface · 21/08/2016 21:01

Funny how all these women have mental health problems when they are involved with him isnt it? Maybe you should ask him why he thinks that is given that he is the only common denominator. FWIW I would be fucking depressed if he was my partner too.

And YY, DNA does not lie so if he is trying to use the old "She was sleeping around its not my baby" line then someone needs to remind him that this is not the 1980's and baby daddies can soon be identified.

andintothefire · 21/08/2016 21:02

Don't give her your cousin's number. If she wants to speak to your cousin then you could offer to give your cousin the option of getting in touch with her. However you don't have the right to give out her number.

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