AIBU to expect DH to organise his daughters birthday?

[Evilstepmum01]

FFS! DSD birthday this weekend, I;ve been asking DH all week what he has planned. Just asked me what I'm doing? Er....no! Sorry, I organised our DS's birthday, I told him last month this was up to him to organise. Apparently, according to him, this is the first I've mentioned it!
I have taken a step back from DSD since her mum was more of an arse than usual and explained this to DH.
Apologies for the rant, he's doing my head in with 'Whats wrong with you?' wtf-nothings wrong, just get your shit together please!!!

Regarding her DS's friend's party, the OP's DS could have still gone to the party without it disrupting any plans made for dsd's birthday. She could have gone out with her dad for the day and spent some quality time with just him, or maybe invited a friend along with her. What if the OP's DS really wanted to go to his friend's party- if he was a teenager he'd be able to decide what he does so why can't a younger child get to decide what he wants to do? It may well have been a "better offer". He's a child and in his mind a friend's birthday party is FUN.

Meandmy

Yes, that would have been an option. However, that's not what I understand was proposed though, was it? My understanding is that the treat planned for DSDs birthday was to be cancelled completely as OPs DS had received a party invite (as I said, not entirely clear what happened and I could have picked up the wrong end of the stick). To me, if the day out was only happening if OPs DS was there then the party invite should have been declined. To cancel her birthday treat because the DS "got a better offer" seems pretty mean spirited IMO.

Your option would have been a reasonable alternative though.

I think the DH is the main villain of this piece- he should be stepping up and doing the organising for his DD.

Imagine you have two children; one your husband's, another from a previous relationship; both children get a bike in the space of a month. Without discussion, your husband assembles his child's bike but then repeatedly asks you what your plans are for assembling your child's bike, makes biting comments that you don't need a penis to assemble a bike, etc.

You would manage it for your own child though have a heart she's only 8 kids are very perceptive

Apple more accurate would be,husband buys,plans and sets up the bikes for both kids every year. This year for whatever reason he says(don't forget presents have been bought,and card and some things planned for DSD) "I did research the bike,ordered it but can you please assemble it once it arrives" a month in advance. Lo and behold the bike comes and wife refutes any knowledge of having to assemble it and is not particularly bothered if the bike is put together for her kid,either because she knows the husband will put it together anyways,or she really doesn't give a shit,and what he already did is good enough to present to the child

I'm afraid I can't follow your post, Rebel.

Apple op's oh is a dickbutt.she is not. The simple version

Rebel

Although her DH has undoubtedly acted like a complete arse over this issue (? more generally), I'm not convinced OP comes out of this smelling like roses either. She seems rather indifferent with regards to her 8 year old step-daughter, TBH.