To be annoyed guests wanting to use our wifi when they visit to go on social media?

[Notsogrimupnorth]

Don't get me wrong, I'm no troglodyte and I love social media but I find it a bit much when a so-called friend comes around for tea and spends half of the time on SM on their phone and then even asks to use wifi as they are struggling to get a signal. I have checked with other friends and apparently I'm not boring so that's not the reason - but seriously is this the social norm now? I find it a bit rude.

YANBU this is rude- why bother to visit?

My family's phones automatically connect to my wifi and I have problem with that. But I do have a problem with my mum playing candy crush or whatapping everyone when I am trying to converse with her. I have actually had a full blown convo then realised that she isn't paying any attention to me. "Mum" "mum?" "Mum!!"
Why come over if you want to sit on your phone it is very rude.

I meant to say that I have NO problem with that.

It worries me that people are losing the ability to communicate face to face.

I saw a great pub sign the other day

"This pub does not have wifi.
Talk to each other.
Pretend it's 1995."

Brilliant!

My WiFi connects automatically in my friends houses and theirs at ours. One friend has the WiFi code on a poster to avoid everyone crouching behind the TV trying to get the code. BUT whilst anyone one of us may have a gander on FB or do a check in or post a funny photo, we generally play a lot of multi player online quiz games which require the WiFi. Wouldn't be very impressed if people just came round and faffed silently on their phones, WiFi code or not.

Teens are forgiven but anyone else it's rude.

I don't forgive my teens for this sort of thing. If anything I'm harder on them because often teens see it as 'the norm'.

So when we go to visit their Nan/Grandad/Aunts/Uncles etc, they know they have to put their phones away.

We only normally visit for a couple of hours anyway.

However, DS2 does have some suspiciously long toilet breaks

I have a similar issue, tempted to change the wifi name To 'Don't use my wifi for social media when we can have a nice chat instead' and then if they ask for the password tell them it's 'You are now dead to me'.

At the risk of sounding all nerdy about this, there was a great programme on radio 4 yesterday morning discussing how some families limit screen and social media time. It is a concern that many of us spend more time communicating with devices than we do face to face

Great idea hammer time - may try something similar

I meant teens generally not at grandmas 80 th birthday dinner! Teens visiting our teens is fine.

notso

It was ever so wasn't it? I remember switching off the tv for my
Older 2 in 1992 and pushing them out to play.

Social media is only the same as the tele. My mum used to switch it off in 1973 for me and my sister.

Nothing new really quite reassuring.

Don't even go there I'm abroad ATM and a friend did a road trip to join me for 3 days. She spent the first night whinging that her phone didn't work, the next morning sorting it out and the whole afternoon calling everyone to make sure it now worked

After that I invented a dinner date elsewhere ...

You are being completely unreasonable. No-one communicates by speech any longer, and text messages are the norm. Everyone spends their entire time on their phone, so there is no reason not to pick up on social media messages. Except in my case when I do not have a smart phone and can't see a blessed thing: the kids run riot, but have to gravitate to Planet Earth before getting my approval (or funding) for any expeditions. Often I turn a Nelsonian blind eye. Infuriates the kids, but saves me squillions.

Lesson: don't be on social media. Remember, it is a facility intended to extract cash from you, and has no other purpose.

I think it very rude of your guest. I was taught to turn the TV off when we had guests. I don't watch it now but would never consider using other people wifi as an invited guest.

It's like inviting a bunch of other people to your house and then not letting you join in the conversation!

Depends - short visit YANBU. Overnight+ visit YABU

We have the wifi password on the kitchen blackboard, but most people who visit for a short period don't use it. It's there more for the longer term visitors, who stay overnight and more.

I had a boss back in 1996 or thereabouts who could only communicate by phone. I used to find out what I had to do by listening into his phone conversations and the longest conversation I ever had with him was on the phone. People are weird.

I'd pretend it was 1995 if they did and only charged me £1.80 for a pint.

We have trouble with the signal so recently I found my holiday at my friends and she comes to my house to study online and do her exams. I wouldn't do it at anyone else's though and we ask first so we each know we are coming with a tablet although I usually. Put my computer on for her.

I agree it is rude if people are just coming to visit.

Friend visited recently when a football match was on. They asked for the wifi code (which I don't mind letting visitors have) and then sat on the sofa watching the whole match on Sky Go on their phone......
Great visit!

YANBU at all.
It's extremely rude. Many of us are completely addicted to the Internet.
But expecting a host to hand out their wifi password is hugely entitled.

None of my friends ask for my wifi code. When my friends come round they come to see me/ds/dh.

My DM had a weekend away with a girlfriend a while back. DM took the dogs and had in mind a lovely time of beach walks with the dogs, good food and a catch up with her friend. Her friend however, sat on her phone scrolling thru her Facebook laughing away and totally ignored DM.

She won't be going away with that friend again. And these ladies are in their early 70's.

My friends would find that my wifi is down, but you can buy minutes/hours/days on the BT Internet site.

And they can do it in their own home.