Aibu to think the women in M&S were rude to dh?

[Slightlypanicked]

Took dd for her school uniform today and tried next and a few other shops but none of the skirts fit her little waist and are long enough so I thought I'd try M&S. Found a few nice ones and took her into the changing rooms.
There was us and another couple of women with a little boy getting changed in there.
Finally found a skirt to fit dd but thought it looked a little long so shouted dh and asked if it looked to long so he popped his head round from where he was sitting on the sofa to look at the length and the two women on fitting rooms said "excuse me but there could be women getting bra fittings round there you can't go round there" really loudly in front of the women in there with the little boy and left dh looking really embarrassed.

I went round and said I thought that it was very rude to embarrass him like that in front of everyone and the woman started arguing with me about bra fittings as a defence. There was literally my dd and a probably 8 year old boy and a total of 3 changing rooms.

I changed dd chucked the skirts on the desk and left.
What would dh do if he went alone with dd?

*some = done

Womens wear is on a different floor. It was by the children's clothes and uniform hence me taking her in there. There us a small lingerie section at the back but obviously there wasn't anyone in there at the time just kids..

YABU - shop staff don't make up these rules - and don't get paid enough to deal with people arguing against them.

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It's a women's change room if there are women at the entrance handling the clothes and counter tags etc."

Er no. They're women's changing rooms if they're marked as such. This was a communal changing room and therefore her dh had every riht to be in therem

Not a womens wear section at all though. On the second floor is menswear, children's clothes and at the back there is some underwear. Womens weimaraner is a whole other floor.

They don't sound like women's changing rooms - mixed are quite common.

However, it is the etiquette for the person getting changed to walk out of the changing room, rather than someone walk in to see them. I'm not sure why and it didn't really warrant the response it got...

Well I think it's good that you called them on it. I think it's pretty shit to try and embarrass someone, especially in front of their child.

I'd be really interested in a few years, OP, to hear how you'd feel when your self conscious teen DD goes off to M and S to buy a first bra or a school skirt and while she's picking things out sees an adult man wandering in and out of the women's changing rooms.

YABU to be honest. It sounds by your account if you were infact the rude one by "chucking the skirts on the desk" If those changing rooms were for the children and the lingerie department then I wouldn't expect to find a man in there. Given that the mens department is on the same floor, your DH or any other man for that matter, would take their child to the men's fitting rooms if they were shopping alone in much the same way as we use the toilets when out with young children.

Almond they weren't women's changing rooms

Wasnt in the Teesside park m&s was it? A changing room assistant was rude to my dd in there this time last year!

Stealth, then why did the OP's DH get kicked out of them, while being told women might be getting changed in there?

I don't think yabu. I assume that had there been a woman trying on a bra you wouldn't have asked your husband to look?

I think I'm right in saying they weren't women's changing rooms, they weren't communal changing rooms, they didn't even have curtains, they were proper changing cubicles with doors and locks. I really can not understand the problem with a man coming near such a space.

As I understand it, your DH's bum did not leave the sofa and his gaze was directed (by you) towards a communal area for the use of both men and women, with all the private sections for individual use sealed off and therefore invisible to him.

What on earth is wrong with that?! Snapping at him for going in there when he didn't and showed no intention of doing so? Crazy M&S woman

M&S definitely have an official policy that you cannot enter the foyer areas of single sex changing areas of the opposite sex, despite the individual cubicles.

I have never known M&S to have mixed fitting rooms, and think it is very unlikely they would do so on a floor with a lingerie section,

YABU. They have a policy that the changing room is for women. Your DH isn't a woman. They told him not to enter. There was no need for you to pull them up or throw the skirt down.
Yy the doors might have been closed when you looked but they could have been opened 5 seconds earlier. Our M&S has a similar changing room. Women will come out of the doors to ask assistants to get them other sizes; some will stand in the corridor to get a longer view in the mirror. It's a changing room. They should be able to do whatever they want without worrying a man is popping his head round or wandering in.

They were rude. No excuses. I work in a shop so I get that customers are sometimes trying but she could have worded it better and signage is bad in m and s. I swear I was in the men's the other day

Jeeze it wasnt a 'womens changing room' it was 3 properly doored cubicles with a corridoor, a sofa to sit on while waiting for someone.

OP's dh was sitting on the sofa, he never got off it.

OP's dd came out the cubicle to stand in the corridoor and her dad turned his head to look at her.

There were no semi naked ladies prancing around, their was not bra fitting which would have been done in the cubicle anyway not the bleeding corridoor! And a woman wouldnt have come out the cubicle to parade up and down the corridoor to see what someone thought of her new bra!

The floor has both men and women and kids clothes and one fitting room.

So if a man had been trying on something would they have stopped a woman from looking in to check out her husbands new clothes for fit?
Would they have stopped a woman using a cubicle in case she caused a man to die of embarassment? Dont think so.

What a fuss over nothing. They should learn some customer service manners in how to talk to people without embarassing and belittling them.

DH shouldn't have popped his head in. HWBU.

If it was a women only dressing room why would they use bra fittings as a defence, surely it's easier to say that it's women only changing rooms?

YABU, if you want to show someone something, you walk out to the communal area.

I don't think the staff were wrong to point out that your dh should not be going into the changing rooms. They are just trying to do their job.

Which M and S store was it?
Someone will know it and can comment on the dressing room layout.

Personally, I dislike men poking round in the women's change rooms. The light and mirrors are bad enough and to think there are men having a gawk too. Urgh.

Quite. I hate when men hang about outside women's changing rooms, toilets etc. They always look so gormless and useless.

Not having a go at your DH OP just thinking of my ex

I changed dd chucked the skirts on the desk and left.

YABU and rude for doing this. What have the poor shop staff done to you?

You should have hung up the clothes on the rejected clothes rail.