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to ask her wtf?

146 replies

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 17:01

Just got back off a camping trip with a group of friends. Family A and Family B. The first day everyone was happy. Family A invited mutual friends up to stop for the night, great stuff as they're good friends and we don't see them often.
Wife A monopolised them a fair bit but we kind or expected that as she likes to be centre of attention. The next day she was beginning to get a bit frosty and said she wanted family time and could we all do our own thing. Not a problem with us or Family B. We all met up later on to go to the entertainment together. She spent the evening with a sour face complaining about everything and saying she'd rather be with her family playing rounders than sat with us. They left early, thank god.

The next morning she was barely making eye contact with us and invited her own friends up for the day. We left them to it but on the evening I asked her over for drinks at our tent. The answer was a firm no and by this point she couldn't even make eye contact with us. She'd blanked us all day.

The next day she invited her family up and spent the day with them, pretending we didn't exist whenever we walked past each other.

It was bonkers. I felt like I was back in secondary school with the way she was acting. Nothing had happened that we could thing of to spark it, she just decided to turn in to Queen Bitch.

We agreed with Family B to pretend it wasn't happening and get on with having fun together. She was gunning for a fight and we didn't want to give her it but now that we're back I'm furious. She did her very best to spoil our holiday over nothing.

Aibu to message her asking wtf?

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EdmundCleverClogs · 14/08/2016 19:42

eavesdropping

Mycraneisfixed · 14/08/2016 19:44

Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing she's caused upset.
Very hard ( I'd be dying to know tooGrin) but leave it. Don't ask.

ShteakandShpuds · 14/08/2016 19:44

Doesn't anyone actually talk to each other anymore rather than making up an imaginary tale of what ifs?
Sulking is annoying but I'd always have it out immediately. (My dad tried to sulk and mum pandered but I used to call him on it regularly and point out that sulking was childish behaviour.)
Unfortunately, some people enjoy the attention and don't actually want to resolve the problem, but I'd at least give it a try.

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 19:44

Well if it was about her overhearing something it could only have been the first night we went to the entertainment, after they left we did have a good old bitch, but she had earned it so I have no regrets on that. She'd said she'd rather be with her family than us, how else can you take it?

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hhh333 · 14/08/2016 19:46

Me too shteak but you don't know her. She's the type to get physical and enjoy it. We didn't want the holiday spoiling any more so ignoring her was easier.

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Northernlurker · 14/08/2016 19:47

I expect she's got the hump because you didn't spend the time worshipping her. Ignore the daft specimen.

3perfectweemen · 14/08/2016 19:48

Place marking. She sounds like hard work. Well rid I'd say.

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 14/08/2016 19:48

She's the type to get physical and enjoy it.

Are you saying she'd start a punch up?! Bloody hell I think I'd be very glad she decided to feck off on her own...

fastdaytears · 14/08/2016 19:50

She sounds super fun

I feel bad for her DH. He must be so embarrassed

ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 14/08/2016 19:51

I'd actually be super happy. She's a total pita and is 'the type to get physical'. I'd use her behaviour as a reason/excuse to never socialise with her again. Ever.

HarryPottersMagicWand · 14/08/2016 19:52

Ok, apologies OP. Yes trolls should be more, um, interesting Grin but you never know with some subjects these days on here!

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 19:53

He's replied!
I think it was the first morning the husbands took the older kids to golf. She was holed up in her tent so me and wife B took our toddlers round the zoo to keep them entertained while the older kids were out. She doesn't have a toddler and we both assumed she wanted peace so didn't think to ask.

I can't believe it. How petty! Do you think I should message her and explain?

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Newtothis2017 · 14/08/2016 19:53

She sounds like hard work

scottishegg · 14/08/2016 19:53

Similar thing happened to me once, I went to Dublin on a girlie hol with a group of friends, I was ill the first day and night and bedridden, the next day one of the girls turned on me, totally blanked me, turned her back on me literally and figuratively and told the others that they should organise a holiday again for 5 of them next year/ there were 6 of us. In the end my friends had it out with her without me knowing as she made it so obvious but she played the martyr and said she hadn't done anything wrong. It continued for the remainder of the trip but I never asked her why! I didn't care I didn't need that type of person in my life and her behaviour towards me turned some of her friends against her. I literally did nothing towards her that I can think of, she just turned.

HairySubject · 14/08/2016 19:54

I would have to know too. I need to know now and I wasn't there.

MiddleClassProblem · 14/08/2016 19:54

Can't believe she's deleted you over it. Her problems must be so small and she's so desperate for drama.

Who says they'd rather be with their family to the people you are socialising with? And I'm guessing all her family were there anyway?

Maybe it was something that happened pre holiday?

BendydickCuminsnatch · 14/08/2016 19:54

God what an overreaction. She sounds like an exhausting woman-child.

MiddleClassProblem · 14/08/2016 19:56

If you wanted a friendship with her then text but tbh you are probably better off not and staying as acquaintances. Mardy cunt.

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HarryPottersMagicWand · 14/08/2016 19:57

I guess from her point of view she was left out as you didn't mention you were going somewhere but I think she lost the moral high ground when she acted like such a bloody child after.

I went away with friends before. The fucked off and left me before I'd woken up, but it was somewhere they knew I wanted to go, and when they returned all bright and breezy, just announced we were going home. Our friendship never recovered as I was treated like crap from one of them all weekend and I just couldn't be bothered with her anymore.

PirateFairy45 · 14/08/2016 19:58

Ask her. Obviously something upset her.

Ginkypig · 14/08/2016 19:59

It's so playground it's unbelievable.

Be glad actually op your better off out of it and now youv got a perfect excuse!

CaptainCrunch · 14/08/2016 19:59

Seriously OP, in the light of what you've expanded on about her "getting physical" why would you want to continue to engage with this arse, especially as she started her crap over something so petty?

I had similar on a camping holiday about 5 years ago. Our first crime was DH and other bloke went a dog walk without including Superbitch's DH (he takes hour long shites and was in the midst of one and the dogs needed walked, but hey-ho, we were all the bastards of the day for that).

Second crime was she had run out of booze and wanted to go to the onsite (shite, overpriced) pub. The rest of us were fully stocked up and didn't want to go to the pub...cue huge tantrum. We could hear her calling us "cunts" from inside her tent...didn't seem to occur to her they're not soundproofed.

Third and Final Crime which resulted in me giving her a piece of my mind was her snotty DD banned my DS from her tent..just him no one else and for no reason. DS was left wandering about on his own in a bit of a state, kept saying "She's really nasty and wont let me join in their game". Later on that night DS wouldn't let the DD in our tent unless she apologised to him...she goes wailing of to Superbitch who comes storming over like a Sherman Tank to tell us we're "cunts" again. She got it with both barrells from me, burst into tears and left early the next morning.

Camping apparently brings out the worst in some peeps....Grin.

OpenMe · 14/08/2016 20:00

I can't imagine having a friend, close enough to go on holiday with, and not being able to talk about this tbh. Assuming she's someone you actually like(see above) I'd be really concerned about what had happened to upset her so much.

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 14/08/2016 20:00

God no, don't text her - I'd use it as an excuse to get a whole lot of distance from her. You know, minimum of 3 tents away...

blondieblondie · 14/08/2016 20:00

I'd message her now that you know and explain. But I'd point out that she has massively overreacted and that her behaviour on the rest of the holiday over something so trivial has helped you decide that you're better off not socialising in those type of circumstances again.

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