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to ask her wtf?

146 replies

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 17:01

Just got back off a camping trip with a group of friends. Family A and Family B. The first day everyone was happy. Family A invited mutual friends up to stop for the night, great stuff as they're good friends and we don't see them often.
Wife A monopolised them a fair bit but we kind or expected that as she likes to be centre of attention. The next day she was beginning to get a bit frosty and said she wanted family time and could we all do our own thing. Not a problem with us or Family B. We all met up later on to go to the entertainment together. She spent the evening with a sour face complaining about everything and saying she'd rather be with her family playing rounders than sat with us. They left early, thank god.

The next morning she was barely making eye contact with us and invited her own friends up for the day. We left them to it but on the evening I asked her over for drinks at our tent. The answer was a firm no and by this point she couldn't even make eye contact with us. She'd blanked us all day.

The next day she invited her family up and spent the day with them, pretending we didn't exist whenever we walked past each other.

It was bonkers. I felt like I was back in secondary school with the way she was acting. Nothing had happened that we could thing of to spark it, she just decided to turn in to Queen Bitch.

We agreed with Family B to pretend it wasn't happening and get on with having fun together. She was gunning for a fight and we didn't want to give her it but now that we're back I'm furious. She did her very best to spoil our holiday over nothing.

Aibu to message her asking wtf?

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LucyFuckingPevensie · 14/08/2016 18:25

Some people just are hard work. Talking to them won't help because they don't want to believe they're in the wrong. Rise above it.

CaptainCrunch · 14/08/2016 18:28

She's an attention seeking arsehole and desperately wants you to ask so by not asking or acknowledging her nonsense you'll bug the liver out of her. I've had experience with this kind of loon sadly.

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 18:31

Thanks for letting me talk it out, it's been driving me mad.
I think I will follow your advice and leave it. I was dreading spending the week with her anyway so it was a blessing in disguise really. I'll be civil in future as no doubt we'll have to see each other again but she'll be held at more than arms length. I can't believe people like that exist.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 14/08/2016 18:32

I would take delight in NOT asking her. Because if she is indeed a Queen Bee type, this will annoy her more . I would remain silent evermore. Or at least until a future holiday was mooted, at which point I would hoot derisively and say that I had no intention of watching an adult tantrum ever again. To her face.

magoria · 14/08/2016 18:41

You know you are not going to win?

If you ask you will get a 'you should know what you did' like others suggest.

If you don't ask you are a mean cow bag who doesn't care.

She is never going to be your mate. Leave her H and yours to be their mates and don't worry about her.

Who can strop for a week at 2 families lol.

cookiefiend · 14/08/2016 18:45

I think there is a small victory to be had in knowing she will be fuming that you didn't ask. Just pretend it never happened and keep her at arms length. She obviously wants you all running to find out what was wrong.

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 18:48

She's removed us all of Facebook so it's definitely not just me.
Dh was going to have a word with her husband but I've told him to leave it. He tried his best to act as if everything was normal but obviously wanted to stay loyal to his wife while she was acting up.

It's all been quite entertaining tbh Grin

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 14/08/2016 18:50

She's deleted you from Facebook.
Looks like you've got a sleepless night a head Grin

LucyFuckingPevensie · 14/08/2016 18:54

Oh Gawd, I have had an acquaintance do similar recently, and while I really do try to laugh it off - part of me seethes and wants to somehow get them to see how blardy ridiculous they're being. It is hard to let it go sometimes.

TheCatsBiscuits · 14/08/2016 19:00

Removing you from Facebook is going to make it very hard for her to 'Some friends are crap/U OK hun?/Inbox me' you all.

Still, I'm sure she'll find some way of letting you know what you've done.

RaeSkywalker · 14/08/2016 19:01

Glad to hear you've decided not to respond. It will drive her nuts! Wouldn't be surprised if you heard her 'side' through a third party at some point though.

hhh333 · 14/08/2016 19:03

I went totally wrong in telling dh to leave it, he never listens to my advice and has asked his mate what was up.

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dustarr73 · 14/08/2016 19:05

I would block her completely, it will drive her mad when she realises she can't see what you're up too.

BlueLeopard · 14/08/2016 19:08

So did the husband shed any light on it for you?

Becky546 · 14/08/2016 19:12

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TheCraicDealer · 14/08/2016 19:13

I must be like you OP as I'm dying to know what pissed her off Grin and I wasn't even there! Talk about overinvested....

Glitterkitten24 · 14/08/2016 19:14

She sounds like a charmer!

Thanks goodness your DH has asked- I need to know! Report back! Smile

DropYourSword · 14/08/2016 19:18

I'm also ridiculously curious as to why she's in a snit with you all!

CaptainCrunch · 14/08/2016 19:20

I'm not sure how FB works (don't have it) but if someone blocks you doesn't that mean they can't see any of your stuff, even if they haven't blocked YOU.

I wouldn't bother blocking her back OP, that implies you're "aware" of the situation. If you just leave things be it'll annoy her further as as far as your concerned, there's nothing going on.

It would be a larf to post some lovely holiday snaps of you and the other family all having a ball with some tagline like "me and my besties" Grin

IceBeing · 14/08/2016 19:21

OP you tease. You can't say your DH asked then not tell us what he found out!

CaptainCrunch · 14/08/2016 19:21

...I meant even if you haven't blocked THEM, (arse).

SenoritaViva · 14/08/2016 19:22

What does her dh say? She sounds a right pain.

OpenMe · 14/08/2016 19:23

My guess is someone forgot there's no privacy on a campsite and something was overheard.

I was going to say DH should ask his friend why his wife is so upset, so that's good. I need to know too now...

CotswoldStrife · 14/08/2016 19:24

Ah, she's ruined her own (family's) holiday really. I'm sure you can tag her husband in all the happy photos of you and Family B Grin on FB. Don't mention her at all.

What a shame your DH has asked hers though - radio silence would have been so much more effective. Embarrassing for her DH though. No one will want to go away with them again !

monkeywithacowface · 14/08/2016 19:25

Did he get an explanation?