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To think FFS re sad faced breast feeding mums in the Daily Fail?

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Chihuahualala · 12/08/2016 23:13

Single-mother, 33, thrown out of West End show for breast feeding

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Fuck off ... And fuck off some more! Ear defenders or not this WAS NOT the place for your offspring! Aggggh!!!

OP posts:
motherducker · 13/08/2016 08:52

Sure, I've breastfed everywhere, no problem with that, I'm very much pro breastfeeding and normalising it. Normalising babies screaming during theatre productions? Not so much.

mathanxiety · 13/08/2016 08:55

Perhaps you weren't around in the glory days of punk, Motherducker?

I am 52 and it was indeed a glorious time to be alive. People in audiences back then threw all sorts of missiles at the performers, singers vomited onstage, much of the music consisted of really loud screeching and discord.

And the theatre patrons were complaining about a baby because it distracted them from the punk experience, which as we all know can only really be enjoyed on all its many levels in an atmosphere of respectful silence....

notamummy10 · 13/08/2016 08:59

I'm sorry but I would be pretty pissed off spending all that money (the West End isn't cheap when it comes to decent seats) to have my theatre experience ruined by a crying baby (I know it's not their fault, they're just hungry).

RestlessTraveller · 13/08/2016 09:02

I love it when people like math who clearly know abolutely nothing about Shakespeare use him as an example.

motherducker · 13/08/2016 09:09

Sounds like a right laugh mathanxiety. Did people often take their babies along?

Regardless I don't think you really understand what a musical is tbh.

HuskyLover1 · 13/08/2016 09:17

FGS, I'd be questioning how fit she is to be a mother, if she thinks that it's appropriate to take a baby to a West End Punk show.

What a TIT (excuse the pun).

What next? "I'm entitled to take my baby to a Rave"....."Why can't I breastfeed my baby in a Nightclub?"

And GASP - what about Adult only Hotels? Or Adult only pools in Hotels?

MY HUMAN RIIIIIGHTS....

There are places that are not appropriate for Babies. End of.

Stupid money grabbing woman.

TheSilverChair · 13/08/2016 09:20

FFS, Math, it's about a crying baby not breast feeding.

I'd want them thrown out for the noise. Don't give a single fuck about breastfeeding.

Discobabe · 13/08/2016 09:25

YaDnbu. It's boring frankly! No one has the right to expect others to tolerate their screaming baby in a show. To dress it up as a bf thing only makes all bf mothers look like nutters and serves to damage the cause more. But these kind of people don't care about that, it's not bf rights they care about, they only care for garnering attention for themselves.

TSSDNCOP · 13/08/2016 09:30

The reply from the theatre is the epitome of reason, and serves to make this woman look ridiculous.

It is she who should be approached by the other patrons for a refund, not vice verse.

emilybrontescorset · 13/08/2016 09:38

I agree with the theatre.
Nobody wants to listen to a screaming baby at a theatre.
Add to the list also annoying adults.

princessmombi · 13/08/2016 09:40

Feel sorry for the theatre staff having to argue with her.
I'm a lactivist and defend bf anywhere. This is nothing to do with bf she is just being a twat.

MrsRhubarb · 13/08/2016 09:45

YABU for reading the Daily Fail.

dementedma · 13/08/2016 09:52

Going to the theatre would be a massive treat for us. Saved up for or a gift to celebrate a special occasion. Can't remember the last time we went Sad. I would be beyond pissed off at anyone ruining it, I don't care how old they are.

BillSykesDog · 13/08/2016 09:54

Math, you're completely misinterpreting the law there. The law does not allow women to be discriminated against because they are breastfeeding. It does not give them special rights to take their baby and their breasts where they like and do what they like regardless of any other considerations.

LaurieMarlow · 13/08/2016 10:07

I agree with math in that if they let her in with the baby in the first place, it was discrimination to throw her out for breastfeeding.

Question is whether they should have been permitted entry in the first place.

DeathStare · 13/08/2016 10:10

wow DeathStare, I kind of understand the point you are trying to make (even if I totally disagree with you), but you imply that a disable person is distracting by just being there?

just wow

No. You've missed the point there.

I'm saying that nobody is so distracting just by being there, unless you are small-minded enough to find their very presence distracting. And if you do then the problem is in you (and the fact that you are a bigot) not in them.

(Obviously I'm using the term "you" as a generic)

Only1scoop · 13/08/2016 10:11

These DM sad faces are becoming very practised,

I once paid over 130 pounds for a west end adult orientated musical to have someone's toddler after gorging on crap and being juggled around throw up on the row in front. It was grim. Idiots bringing a baby with them. It ruined our viewing.

We complained, they weren't asked to move or leave and the sick was cleaned up by staff no offer from them to help Angry

DeathStare · 13/08/2016 10:14

Wow! Death stare are you on glue? Did you read the statement from the theatre?

The baby was screaming

I don't even know where to begin!

But this thread has turned into a debate about whether or not babies should be in the theatre per se.

My point is that as long as they aren't screaming then why not. Obviously if they are screaming then they shouldn't be there - the same with anyone who is screaming. But I wouldn't ban a baby per se just because some people would find the mere presence of a baby distracting

DeathStare · 13/08/2016 10:17

Deathstare- Those people you list as distracting are there to watch the performance. A baby isn't

I don't say they are distracting. My point is that if you are small-minded enough you could argue that they are. but that's your problem not theirs.

And to be honest, you don't know who is there to watch the performance. Nine times out of ten that I'm at the theatre I'm there because someone else wanted me to go - not because I have any desire to to watch the performance. As long as I sit quietly and don't create any disruption, does it matter whether I watch the performance or not?

Only1scoop · 13/08/2016 10:19

The baby was screaming spoiling the viewing of others....

Then they should be asked to leave

honknghaddock · 13/08/2016 12:07

It is unrealistic to expect a baby to be quiet and still for the duration of the performance so you don't take it oryou don't go. I wouldn't take ds to a performance because he won't be interested and won't be quiet for the whole performance. And because of his disabilities I can't just leave him with someone else. With a baby if you are lucky you only have this problem for a short time.

VioletVaccine · 13/08/2016 13:04

Ok Deathstare I'll bite.

No, i would not quite fucking obviously, be distracted by a disabled person being sat next to me in the theatre, or any of the other irrelevant comparisons you made to a squawking baby.

However, if said disabled person had a condition which caused them to scream, moan in confusion, hand flap (as was the case with my ASD son, when he was a toddler) then i would not be happy, no.

Though I suspect it's a moot point as a large amount of theatres and cinemas now have set days for 'autism friendly' and 'disability friendly' screenings, so it's unlikely to happen.
If i had paid £100 a ticket to watch a play, I wouldn't be happy with any out-of-the-expected noise or distraction.

I wouldn't complain about the person, god no. But I would request the theatre reimburse me, or swap my tickets for a future date.

The Theatre is no place for a baby, ever- unless the show that's being performed is more The Gruffalo than The Tempest.

DeathStare · 13/08/2016 13:51

The Theatre is no place for a baby, ever

So the theatre is no place for a baby that sleeps quietly throughout the performance and nobody even knows is there, because....... what exactly?

I've already said I'm not talking about a "squawking baby".

littleprincesssara · 13/08/2016 14:08

I know someone who works on that show and she said the baby was screaming and the mother refused take him out. Absolutely nothing was said about breastfeeding at all, total lie the mother concocted after she was kicked out. I don't believe she even was breastfeeding at the time - maybe she was attempting to, but surely it's not possible for a baby to scream and feed simultaneously?

VioletVaccine · 13/08/2016 14:10

Deathstare but we aren't talking about 'a' baby, the story is about a particular baby.

A 10 month old baby, who in the article, the mother said she was "bopping the baby along to the music". This would be really distracting, ffs. Don't you see that?

But yes, even a sleeping baby too. I don't know if you have children, or go to the theatre, but it gets bloody hot in there.

And babies pee frequently, and crap usually after a feed.

Warm pee and hot baby shit, in a packed room that we've paid £200 to escape my own children in and i'd be really fucked off.

And getting up to change squirming, turdy baby, also distracting. She shouldn't have been there in the first place.

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